AIBU to blank another parent who witters on?

Maybe just see it as your good deed for the week or ask her about something you are interested in hearing about.

I think I would tell her I had some important phone calls to make and sit in my car for a bit!

Then, quite frankly, what is the point of your post? You have clearly made up your mind that you are going to ignore her and be rude if thats what it takes to shut her up. So why even bother to ask what the rest of us think?

I probably would just blank her to be honest, or after she says something look like you’ve just come out of a daze and say what was that Brenda, sorry I wasn’t really listening. Or alternatively at the beginning say I’ve had such a stressful day today I just need to sit in silence for a bit, and then if she starts up get up and walk away. But then I can be a bit rude sometimes.

Right. And who is asked to be kind? Men?

No, generally women.

It’s not up to women to solve everything.

That's just not true, I'm afraid. It costs, but generally since it's women who are encouraged to put other people's needs ahead of their own and 'be kind', the cost to them isn't considered important.

Its not. But it costs nothing to be kind...

But why is this OP’s problem?

@BoomBoomsCousin

I think you’re over thinking it.

Just be honest, but firm, a quick hi, then explain you need to listen to the lesson. And, then listen to it, don’t encourage her, polite bye when leaving.

That’s it.

I mean, yeah. I’m always happy to throw money at a solution to something that’s irritating me. 🤷‍♀️

Be nasty to the girl’s mum then, if that’s what you’re determined to do. But it will be perceived as nasty. Americans don’t do our brand of “bluntness” and most of the suggestions here would not be socially acceptable to them. Your own unpleasant responses and the constant “dull as fuck,” etc. don’t bode well for being tactful with this woman.

If OP was a man there is no way you’d expect her to listen to this woman go and go.

Your post is just #BeKind virtue signalling.

People like this really wind me up. It’s incredibly self centred and I find it completely draining. We’ve a neighbour like this and last time I actually timed him. 40 mins he cornered me before coming up for air and didn’t ask anything about me. Being lonely, if that’s the case, is no excuse for behaving this way.

It's not necessarily unkind. My jug is so full at the moment I couldn't tolerate anymore information from anyone. I'd have to be honest and say really sorry but I just need to sit quietly today.

Agree. Plus can’t the OP guide the conversation to something she doesn’t find boring? Then if the mum doesn’t like what OP is talking about, maybe she’ll be the one to put on the headphones next time. I can imagine the mum telling her partner afterwards ‘ I was trying to make conversation with this mum, but so boring and hard work. Like trying to get blood out of a stone….’

If you've tried everything else just blank her. If she asks why just say you want to be left alone. You'll end up doing it anyway because she'll drive you mad. Its her own fault as she's ignored all your polite hinting.

Wear sunglasses, no makeup
"I've got the most appalling hangover. Do you mind if we don't speak?"

If you do it several weeks in a row, she will think you have a drinking problem and avoid you like the plague..

If you want to cement the impression. Get an empty gin bottle, fill with water, and have a few swigs.

Just joking.
I don't know if you ahve space to move around, I used to walk along the side of the field if there was space (it was usually to keep warm) You could regularly jump up mid chatter flow to "stretch my legs" and do some calf raises or something. She might start to get fed up that you are not really listening and tone it down. or just think you are very odd.

I think the more obvious solution is to just speak to the instructor and arrange private lessons for your daughter instead of a shared/group lesson. Then you won’t even be there at the same time as this woman. It will cost slightly more but in my experience (British, now in US with horses) individual instruction is much more common and favoured here.

Hey, I don't feel like talking or I'm trying to read my book or whatever. I'm on the East Coast and we don't mess around. I'd also be wearing earbuds with the noise muting off, that way you can look like you've got something going but you can still hear the instructor.

Blanking is awful! ‘I’m so sorry I just have to watch this, I can’t hear what the instructor is saying!’

Phew I’m glad mine both go to activities where I can drop them off then collect them later!

I don’t think it’s a good idea to tell women to ignore their own needs in favour of being nice to randoms.