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AIBU?

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to wonder about no kiss after a 10 hour date?

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AmberCatz · 29/08/2026 23:09

The first I met this guy was at an event, felt an immediate strong connection to him like I need this person in my life. I had the best day for a long time just being with him.

Anyway I am quite content single after my break up last year, so really not too fussed about dating! But when he was quite persistent in going out, I thought why not.

We went out today and we were together for 10 hours! At one point we bumped into my friends too and they loved him. Now here's the thing - I felt there was flirting banter, lots of extended eye contact etc...he rubbed my shoulder at one point and took my hand in his briefly to inspect my fake tattoo from a festival we went to (and I did the same with him!) - but no kiss! I put myself right up close to him on two occasions, once in the bar, and when we were lying down in the park, that would've given him the chance. I'm kind of wondering if the attraction wasn't strong enough for him because of this?

We hugged at the end and he immediately suggested meeting up again. AIBU? I worry we're going to fall into the friendzone. I don't know if it's my expectations.

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AmberCatz · 03/09/2026 21:28

I'm a bit hmm about this now!

Basically after the first date, he suggested going to a show which is in a week or so's time. Which I accepted.

In the meantime, I suggested meeting him for lunch or dinner tomorrow when we're working in the same area. He responded enthusiastically saying he should 'oh definitely! I should be free' but hasn't come to me with a plan. This was two days ago and this is meant to be tomorrow.

In my shoes, would you message again or leave it? Doesn't seem bothered.

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Tryingtobenormal124 · 29/08/2026 23:28

Sounds lovely. Take your time, just enjoy the build up to that kiss 😍😍

AmberCatz · 29/08/2026 23:24

Huckleberries · 29/08/2026 23:19

Maybe he thought he should save something for next time!
Sounds brilliant, though

I hope so because I don't want to be friend zoned!

He has female friends in his life and that's what makes me unsure. Still, he was quite persistent to get to this point so maybe I'm overthinking.

I'm keeping my cool but I feel quite crazy about him and he's gorgeous! Very kissable.

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Huckleberries · 29/08/2026 23:19

Maybe he thought he should save something for next time!
Sounds brilliant, though

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 29/08/2026 23:19

He’s probably wondering why you didn’t kiss him.

SnowflakeSmasher86 · 29/08/2026 23:18

You clearly got on, he wants to see you again. Be patient. Maybe he wants to take it steady, there’s something nice about waiting a while so enjoy the build up.