AIBU to stop chasing a friendship when I always text first

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Dinkiedoo · 29/08/2026 20:05

Ive had a friend for about ten years. We get on well when we see one another but there is the problem.
We hardly see eachother now. I always text first
Ive decided not to bother and see what happens. Not heard from her in about a month now.

Am I being unreasonable in letting her go ?

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lev2002 · 29/08/2026 20:29

Me contacting first wouldn't necessarily bother me if we had a good time meeting up. I have a friend who suggests we meet, then I agree and end up being the one chasing up with whats happening and being cancelled on last minute. I've stopped making any effort now she has to initiate first.

MandemChickenShop · 29/08/2026 20:10

life's to short for this. drop her

Pinkgin00 · 29/08/2026 20:10

I don't think a month is a very long time, however if you feel like it is always you who is making the effort and it isn't reciprocated, then there is no harm in taking a step back. You might find she reaches out to you, or she might not. Some friendships last forever and others just run thier course.

Netcurtainnelly · 29/08/2026 20:10

Dreadful isn't it. Yes I should wait to hear. The phone works both ways.
Some people just think others should be their social secretary.

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