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Can’t stand husband 😂 anyone else

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omgcomeon · 29/08/2026 09:07

I know I sound horrible. I know I’ll get lots of hate saying leave him the poor man but I know a lot of women feel the same.
I love him but he just gets on my nerves anyone feel the same? Give me stories / things your husbands do that grate on you like a fork on a brick wall. 😂 I know I sound vile. I’m honestly not, just ughhhhh shudder.

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ThatBreezyScroller · 29/08/2026 09:37

There is a big difference between not being able to stand your husband/not liking him and him occasionally doing things that annoy you (which is normal and you’ll do things that annoy him too).

What types of things does he do that annoy you?

thedogisfine · 29/08/2026 09:34

My husband drives me insane. Especially when I’m in the kitchen trying to cook, he’ll come and make a coffee with his massive elaborate coffee machine, spill stuff, get in the way, stand in front of drawers I need in.

it’s a rule now we can’t eat in silence, we need music or something. Because the noise of him eating makes me want to strangle him.

I get you, you love him, but husbands are fucking annoying. The same way it would be spending that amount of time with anyone I imagine!

Epdrenching · 29/08/2026 09:32

It can be a hormonal thing.
As a regular time every month, pre menstrual cycle, everything, including my husband, would get on my tits, and then it would pass.
Young children, busy hectic lives, lack of sleep often were a factor.
I'd imagine at times he was a bit allergic to me.
I found being captain of our ship and chief organiser, mental load carrier very wearing at times and it has impacted how I feel about him, definitely.
My friends would 100% feel the same.

Anarchy99 · 29/08/2026 09:32

So leave him. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who thought it hilarious that they couldn’t stand me.

Would you be okay if he posted on the internet how you get on his nerves, accompanied by all the smiley faces and laughing emojis?

AnneLovesGilbert · 29/08/2026 09:30

Why don’t you leave him if you despise him so much? There must be reasons you stay, money, lifestyle, convenience?

MajorSamanthaCarter · 29/08/2026 09:27

Everyone does stuff that irritates their spouse/partner but that's very different to not being able to stand them.

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omgcomeon · 29/08/2026 09:15

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Agreed. 😂

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omgcomeon · 29/08/2026 09:09

birdofparadise26 · 29/08/2026 09:08

Do you have small children by any chance? Grin

Yes 😂 😂 😂 hahahaha

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birdofparadise26 · 29/08/2026 09:08

Do you have small children by any chance? Grin