Can’t stand husband 😂 anyone else

If they were doing it anonymously, why would I care? He could show it to me and I would laugh my ass off.

My DH annoys me to no end at times. I KNOW I annoy him at times because I annoy myself. But he is my guy and if someone said something mean about him in public, there would be words at the very least and once, there was. LOL!

He totally has my back and I totally have his and I am one lucky lady. But, if he slugs me one more time as he tosses and turns, his CPAP machine won't save his cute little ass!

He keeps me around because I make him laugh. A lot. I keep him around because he melts my heart. A lot.

Mine has a habit of saying ‘do you want to’ when what he means is he wants to.
So for example if we need to go shopping, he’ll say ‘do you want to go shopping this morning instead of this afternoon’ when what he means is that is his preference.
I’ve started to say no on purpose. So ‘no I’d rather go this afternoon’. He’ll then go on about why we should go in the morning until I reply ‘well why did you ask me which I preferred if we need to go this morning? Just say ‘I want us to go shopping this morning’ and if I object I’ll tell you.
It’s nothing and it’s stupid but it gets on your tits after 20+ years. I don’t hate him though, I love him to bits he’s just becoming an old man but then I’m becoming an old woman so hey ho….
(I’m sure he’s got a list of things that piss him off about me that probably starts with ‘when I ask her what she wants to do she always picks the worst option’ 😂😂’).

I know this is lighthearted, but contempt will kill a relationship faster than anything else.

Our brains are a lot like algorithms- if you dwell on the irritations, it will serve up more examples. If you dwell on the things you appreciate you’ll see more of those.

I just know I'd be really hurt if I found out DH had been going online and telling random strangers he couldn't stand me.

I'm assuming all the people on here having a bitch wouldn't care if their husbands were doing the same thing?

I’m so sorry for your loss. 💐

Most of us have been there. I have considered a pillow for snoring! Those who haven't just trot off back to smug married land and think yourself lucky. If a woman can't vent here where can she?

Honestly I'd find it odd to spend years with the same person and not feel like this occasionally.
Its fine and I think perferctly normal.

And vice versa - doesn't mean I don't love her to bits.

Do you not think there's a difference between saying someone drives you mad sometimes, and saying you can't stand them or don't even want to be in the same room as them?

I agree. 25yrs in with the same person - they will definitely annoy you at some stage. It's not the end of the world or against the law to moan about your partner on a anonymous forum!

Oh, every minute of every day.
The sound of him eating, He never stops talking if others aroun

This is exactly it.

There has never once been a point in my marriage where I’ve thought I can’t stand DH. Of course he drives me mad sometimes with his tuneless whistling or the fact that he always leaves his shoes by the rack instead of on it, but that’s very different to the posters who dislike their husbands so much they don’t even want to be in the same house as them.

Ive Just had my 4th and bought a book called 'How to not hate your husband after kids' highly recommend it actually.
Alot of it pissed me off, seems in bits like it's justifying their behaviour due to evolution and how they are naturally wired but it has helped my understanding and own communication, I'm definitely more direct now and get better results.

I love my OH dearly. He is kind, gentle natured, generous……..but he does annoy me sometimes! He will help to cook but rarely plans a meal….if I ask in the morning what he would like for dinner he will say ‘food’! If he makes sandwiches for lunch he will put mine on a tea plate….but eat his own from the cutting board! He waits until I mention the ironing before volunteering to do it…….why leave it to me to say it needs doing, he KNOWS it needs doing! He pegs the washing out…… it does it all wrong IMO!
Theres loads of little things and I do bite my tongue …..a lot 🤪. And I do appreciate him, honestly!

This has been a lovely lighthearted thread. I wish the kind of annoyances were similar to these with both of my marriages but unfortunately they weren't and it was the right thing to get divorced

I have loved my husband for nearly 32 years.

However, that doesn’t mean I always like him lol.

We banter about the ways we annoy each other too (making a joke of it is the best way to deal with it) but surely you see that making a thread on the internet saying you can't stand someone is a bit... next-level? Also some of the posts where the husband's mere presence is the annoyance?

I'm annoyed by how he never closes cupboards. He's annoyed by how I kick my shoes off and don't put them on the rack. I don't think the phrase "can't stand him/her" has crossed either of our mind's and none of the ways he annoys me are important enough that I'd start an entire thread on here about them.

I was at my exercise class by 9 am this morning.
DH hasn’t even had a shower yet & has just gone back to bed.
He is retired and does this most days.

Same here.

My DH died back in March this year and I miss him very much.

During our 33 year marriage there were plenty of times when we annoyed the fuck out of each other. We could snipe for England but we knew we wouldn't want to be without each other.

Now I am without him and it feels like having had my right arm chopped off.

I feel the same about my husband but I know it's the menopause doing this so I'll stick it out as I do really love him, but sometimes even his breathing makes me see red poor man.

My kids aren’t even little and I really fucking hate mine today. I’m reading these posts to help me see that he isn’t that bad.

@Loulou4022 ny H used to go away every couple of weeks and it helped so much. I’d even say it was blissful, and we appreciated the time together more. When we both wfh we get under each others feet. Don’t get me started on when I’m on a call with client and he’s singing in the background (which I’m sure he does on purpose).

I actually think you can get too much of a good thing! I’m away 3 nights for work and then DH works one day every weekend and gets a day off in the week so we both get a day off on our own. Means our limited time together is special, I often wonder if we were together more if we’d piss each other off!!

Similar to me! Also currently sat in coffee shop. My DH has had no interest in the garden for twenty years. He’s now decided part of the garden is his and has sat mansplaining how to garden and choose the right plants. “Not like the rest of the garden which hasn’t been done properly”. The improper comments clearly refer to me and I’ve worked on it for many years and spent thousands on it with no help.

im never offended by anything but I am silently fuming about this. Is it a divorcable comment? I don’t think so. Was I so peed off I needed to leave the house? Yeah, I was!

I could have wrote this!!