AIBU to feel hurt by my partner's sibling's comment about our baby?

Yes thia, I dont get personally hurt by ehqt others say I just think bit rude and move on

Not sure if it is just on here bit I dont know people in real life that overthink like what they seem to do on here

As it was between the brothers I would think maybe it’s in ‘in joke’ and let it go.
Their gender disappointment has probably gone now that their baby is here so don’t look for jealousy (you will find it in even innocent chat).

Enjoy the time.

I’d have laughed and said I doubt that. Non event

💯this.
Even if the comment were meant as a joke (which I doubt) then it was still bang out of order.

@Alawishus39 Why did you wait until there were nearly 3 pages of comments before announcing it was actually your brother in law who made this comment. Were you just enjoying hearing your sister in law's character being dragged through the mud and revelling in her being called a bitch? If you have always liked her so much, why didn't you defend her here? That's not at all nice of you.
By the way, men don't "have a baby"; their female partners do. Men become fathers.

Interesting how most people assumed it was a woman who made the comment. It's an odd comment as everyone will think their baby is better than anyone else's, but we don't go round saying that. Perhaps he thought it was "banter"

I think if you have always had a good relationship with them otherwise, I would be inclined to just let this go.

agree!

i think people are more likely to view it as competitive banter coming from a BIL too (which it probably was).

Ignore your BIL’s comment. Who knows what is going on with them. Maybe they are struggling. Just distance yourself a little and enjoy your baby.

You’ve both got babies under 6 months old.
You’re all exhausted and hormonal.

If nothing was said at the time - eg what do you mean by that - then I’d draw a line in it and move on.

I wish you'd clarified that it was the father of the "Best Baby" who made the comment in your OP @Alawishus39

People are having a field day with the word bitch!

This was a nasty comment.
Take it that things have changed.
I would be very wary of them.

Have a conversation with your partner over why he allowed that comment to fly.
I hope as you are not married you have given your baby, your surname.
Silly not to.

I’m amazed at all the posts justifying what is a really bitchy comment. Be the better person and ignore it, op. It obviously comes from a place of jealousy and insecurity. If she ever says anything similar again, say ‘Oh, I didn’t realise it was a competition. I’m hoping the cousins will grow up to be close.’

She just couldn't suppress her inner bitch.
Nasty!

It sounds as though they think that you have stolen their thunder. They expected their baby to be the first in the family and getting all the attention.

What does your partner think about his sister's comment. She is insulting his baby too, while passing it off as a joke.

I just don't agree it's othering. I've been in conversations about the meaning of common names. It's more about an interest in language. One can be interested in English as well as other languages. Asking a name's meaning doesn't imply you think it's ' other ' Most words are from a mix of languages at some level.
Incidentally Charles is originally Germanic means 'free man '- or' inner freedom strength and resilience' depending on where you google

Back in the day most of us chose names from baby name books that gave the meaning of every name, so I guess we always knew it. Though I can only remember three of the six we chose…

FWIW the comment was uncalled for, and the awkward silence tells you this. You probably won’t forget it, but try not to let it upset you or spoil your relationship. The person who said it probably felt bad about it as soon as the words left their mouth.

I think you’ve taken it wrong, they don’t mean their child is better than yours they mean their child’s name is better than your child’s name (that’s how I’d take it). SIL was rude to say that.

Was it not a wee joke that landed badly? Clumsy banter?

I don’t ask people the meaning of their English names (or any names tbh). I have looked up name meanings before when I’ve wondered but English names don’t sound very interesting enough to ask.

I think that was an uncalled for response but I might put it down to a bad night and try to leave it. What I would not do though is compensate for her poor manners by ‘laughing it off’. She had no right to be rude to you - and it was rude. Depending on how much I wanted to make of it, my response might be ‘OKaaaay’ really slowly and deliberately with an eye roll. Or I might go for a more pointed ‘didnt realise this was a competition love’. Irrespective, i’d make it clear I thought it was uncalled for.

I HATE explaining mine and my daughter’s name. Just for balance OP, I agree that they were probably a bit over sensitive and thought you were being funny with them so sniped back.

It is tedious constantly explaining your name, just google it man! We don’t ask the meaning of Sarah or Jenny for example even though there will be a meaning!

I would just see if you can let it lie and see how things are from now

I think they meant the baby's name is better than your baby's name, but it's still a very childish thing to say

YANBU. You weren't BU to ask the question and you aren't BU to feel upset after such a stupid response. Others saying you shouldn't ask, why not? If they don't know the meaning they could have just said that.
I'm not sure what the poster who said it's exhausting being asked for the meaning of a child's name is talking about. It's a pretty standard question and how difficult is to answer a question about your child. If it's so exhausting maybe they should have stuck with English names.

Did you even say it was a lovely name, or unusual or something first? Anything that created the social cue for why you asked the meaning? Or just blurt out 'what does that name mean'?

Because it could easily have landed as rude about their name choice and she responded in kind. If it was literally as you have written it, it does sound quite dismissive of their baby's name.