AIBU to be shaken after fiancé stayed out all night?

OP just said her husband was in the city. I don't know any cities without taxi ranks.

A 2am taxi?? Where on earth do you all live - it is almost impossible to get a taxi after 8pm here unless you book days in advance for something like a airport ride.

As to sleeping in a church yard/ on a bench - yeah easily done. Been there and got the T-shirt, although always with someone else for safety - not for anything else..

How are you so sure hes not lying to you OP.? Hes not going to admit he went back to another woman's house a couple of weeks before he marries you.
With respect your friend doesnt have a clue if hes cheated either. Shes likely saying what you want to hear given your wedding is so close.
Only he (and any woman he was with) knows the truth at this stage.
As pp said he cant say he went back to the mutual friends house. Its too risky.
At least check his maps on his phone or Life 360 if he has it.
You should call the mutual friend and find out if your partner was the one that left the mutual friend, not the other way around.
You can also ask him which church it was then go and check it out. Does it have a covered area that can be accessed at night? The vicar/priest will be there tomorrow with it being Sunday. Im sure he/she will give you the information you.need.
I think your making a big mistake if let this go based on what hes told you and the opinion of your friend. This cant be ignored with your wedding being so close.
Its a total gamechanger in terms of setting boundaries. In effect you are giving him.the green light to do this again and he will.

He did something stupid this one time and I dont think its a big deal. Yes, it was unsafe but hes home and hes ok.

If he was so pissed that he was drunk this morning, then maybe no taxis would take him? Maybe he didn't even know what he was doing has no memory and can't really explain it? I've worked with plenty of men who got absolutely rat arsed on nights out and had bizarre stories of what had happened to them and where they'd slept.

He slept outside a church? A 33 year old man who was with friends? I’m thinking, he probs went home with someone panicked and said he slept outside a church because you might call friend/mutual friend if he said he was at theirs. But I’m a cynical person so..who knows but it would defo give me the ick that a grown man can become so drunk he would sleep outside a church instead of, idk, calling you or perhaps getting a cab?

I've slept in the entrance to a church before and another time a garden center.

I was too tired to get a taxi home in my tipsy mind

I agree. The remorse he’s feeling is disproportionate to what he’s saying he did.

@TheBlueRobin he seems really upset with himself and promised to stop
drinking. Yeah he has done something he shouldn’t have . Sounds guilty as hell .

Postpone getting married for a year. See if he can act like a responsible person before you have kids

No, she had a conversation and moved on, a good result

So did you check his apple or Google maps? Do you not have each other on life 365 or similar??

A very respectable friend of mine once spent a night on a park bench in Hastings.

He wasn't even spectacularly pissed, but he'd been working really long hours for weeks, had a few drinks with colleagues to celebrate finishing the project, then fell asleep on the last train home from the city and ended up on the south coast after the last train back had gone.

Of course, these days he'd just sort an Uber, but this was in the early 80s when such things hadn't been invented.

late night place....walked around....slept outside a church....
I would not be inclined to believe a word of this

No, shagged someone else

sorry 😟

I don't really see why you should be 'shaken'.

A grown man got pissed and stayed out all night. Nothing bad whatsoever happened to him. The end.

He should've told you he wasn't coming home. So tell him he needs to tell you next time to stop you worrying. But you shouldn't have offered to come and collect him! He's not a 12 year old.

Honestly if this isn't a frequent occurrence I'd just think of it as a silly anecdote. And probably take the piss out of him a bit but no point being angry.

You're gullible to believe the church story.

I wouldn't be bothered if what he said is true. But I'm afraid I wouldn't be inclined to believe this tall tale.

He went to a late night place and then just walked around and then slept outside a church

What is a "late night place"?

Only he knows if he's cheated, but it doesn't look good. Also, his friend sounds like a complete idiot. My partner had a friend like this, and thank God he moved away and is bad at keeping in touch.

He is a good, loving, kind, funny man, he is very loving, affectionate.

That's not the vibe I'm getting. At the very least, he's extremely inconsiderate.

That's not funny.
There are some homeless people who have nowhere else to sleep, and I doubt they think it's a "great night"

That's just sad.

I’m not sure I believe the strange walking round them slept in a church. More likely is that he went somewhere he doesn’t want to say. If his friend left him, why did he stay, who was he with? You’re a lot more trusting than I would be in this situation.

Because he was pissed. I once slept in a wheelie bin. It was a great night!

How far was this night out from where you live? How much would a taxi be?
It sounds very odd. I’d be thinking he’d met a woman in the last bar, gone back to hers and then got the first train home.
I’d be speaking with the mutual friend before your fiancé wakes up.