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To find make-up weird

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elprup · 28/08/2026 22:20

I kind of get foundation because it can cover spots, blotches and blemishes. But to “enhance” perfectly good eyes with black lines and smudges (eyeshadow) and to colour in your lips - I don’t know, isn’t it all a bit odd when you think about it? (Most) men don’t wear it so why do women? Just a thought! 🤣

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OverpricedCupcake · 29/08/2026 00:42

I've worn it twice this year, it has it's place.

XenoBitch · 29/08/2026 00:40

GarlicAnything · 29/08/2026 00:18

Eyes with makeup do look more beautiful!

The colour of is eyes are what draws me in.

I don't care if he wears make up or not. No one needs to wear anything to look "more beautiful". Why should anyone strive to be "more beautiful"?

OtterlyAstounding · 29/08/2026 00:38

GarlicAnything · 29/08/2026 00:31

Your attention's drawn to his eyes because he's outlined them with khol.

If you really didn't spot that, you're singularly unqualified to opine on the topic of makeup ...

Erm, no. No, it's not. My attention was drawn to his eyes because people naturally look at others' eyes, and they were also a focus of the close-up picture.

Additionally, given as I am neither blind, nor colourblind, I'm fairly certain I would've been able to notice his eyes being strikingly green whether or not he was wearing make-up.

I have a male family member with similar very true green irises, and his eyes look stunning and are always commented on...despite him never wearing any form of make-up.

Charlottian · 29/08/2026 00:37

GarlicAnything · 29/08/2026 00:18

Eyes with makeup do look more beautiful!

That man is absolutely beautiful, with or without eye makeup. He’s literally perfect. No need whatsoever to have put lines around his eyes.

Newname26 · 29/08/2026 00:34

BigWig78 · 28/08/2026 22:30

Yeah it is weird bit most things are when you think too long about them. Clothes? Weird. Jewellery ? Weird. Working is quite weird too as the concept of money is also weird. Sex is weird. Eating and pooping quite weird.

so yeah. We are weird.

Money is weird, exchange rates i can't get my head round.
But if you think of money as a unit of labour it kind of makes sense.

You buy diamond what your really paying for its the guys time to mine it, cut it and polish it

Any equipment is the same as the diamond, your paying the time to mine the materials, and someone to process them to make the equipment and transport it.

BusterGonad · 29/08/2026 00:32

I love make up and there's no denying people look better with it, unless, of course they are useless at applying it.

GarlicAnything · 29/08/2026 00:31

OtterlyAstounding · 29/08/2026 00:28

Really? The only striking thing there, imo, is how green the model's eyes are – so I'm not sure what your point is regarding make-up?

Your attention's drawn to his eyes because he's outlined them with khol.

If you really didn't spot that, you're singularly unqualified to opine on the topic of makeup ...

XenoBitch · 29/08/2026 00:30

Bunnyofhope · 29/08/2026 00:20

But that is what people do look like! Skin is skin coloured, eyes open the perfect amount to allow vision and lips are pretty much skin coloured. Its a feature not a bug. Makeup just makes us a bit...dirtier.

Yep. No make up is what people actually look like. Oh no!

OtterlyAstounding · 29/08/2026 00:28

GarlicAnything · 29/08/2026 00:18

Eyes with makeup do look more beautiful!

Really? The only striking thing there, imo, is how green the model's eyes are – so I'm not sure what your point is regarding make-up?

Charlottian · 29/08/2026 00:26

Jk987 · 28/08/2026 23:12

No makeup usually means looking pasty and tired with small eyes and lips that look
dry and blended with the rest of your skin.

Thanks, I’ll use that for a confidence boost the next time I go out

GarlicAnything · 29/08/2026 00:26

Bunnyofhope · 29/08/2026 00:20

But that is what people do look like! Skin is skin coloured, eyes open the perfect amount to allow vision and lips are pretty much skin coloured. Its a feature not a bug. Makeup just makes us a bit...dirtier.

Oh, stop being so sensible!

If nobody ever wore makeup or did their hair and only dressed for practicality, we'd all swoon at the first sight of someone with eyeliner, plaits and a swishy outfit. I mean, that must have happened at some point in history, mustn't it?!

Even chimps decorate themselves with leaves & stuff.

Bunnyofhope · 29/08/2026 00:20

Jk987 · 28/08/2026 23:12

No makeup usually means looking pasty and tired with small eyes and lips that look
dry and blended with the rest of your skin.

But that is what people do look like! Skin is skin coloured, eyes open the perfect amount to allow vision and lips are pretty much skin coloured. Its a feature not a bug. Makeup just makes us a bit...dirtier.

GarlicAnything · 29/08/2026 00:18

Autumnleaveswillfall · 28/08/2026 23:50

I don't find it weird, but I do wonder why people think make up makes them look better. I get it if you have acne etc. But why do people consider black eyelashes look better than blonde eyelashes? The other day I looked at pictures of people before and after putting on make up, and suddenly all i could see was a load of make up on naturally beautiful faces. Now j can't unsee it. We have really been conditioned to think eyes with make up look more beautiful than those without.

Eyes with makeup do look more beautiful!

To find make-up weird
Newname26 · 29/08/2026 00:18

TheOriginalEmu · 28/08/2026 22:50

My ears aren’t at all mental, thanks!

😆

Debatable if that's a dyslexic moment or autocorrect going mad.
Metal metal

ClairDeLaLune · 29/08/2026 00:13

BigWig78 · 28/08/2026 22:30

Yeah it is weird bit most things are when you think too long about them. Clothes? Weird. Jewellery ? Weird. Working is quite weird too as the concept of money is also weird. Sex is weird. Eating and pooping quite weird.

so yeah. We are weird.

Ooh interesting! That is definitely food for thought.

I think social rules and cues are weird. Who made up these rules? Why do we all have to stick to them? Why can’t we make other rules? Weird!

GarlicAnything · 29/08/2026 00:07

For your entertainment ..

  • Wodaabe men wear makeup, adornments, and show off to attract wives.
  • Karo men, women and children decorate themselves every day.
  • Each Native American tribe has different face paint styles and headdresses for specific purposes.
  • 17th-18th century European aristocrats wore full makeup, wigs, and festooned themselves with lace and jewellery.
  • Tattoos. Every people throughout history has injected ink under their skin.
I love humans, we're bonkers! And take it all so seriously!
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Floatlikeafeather2 · 29/08/2026 00:07

Jk987 · 28/08/2026 23:12

No makeup usually means looking pasty and tired with small eyes and lips that look
dry and blended with the rest of your skin.

Speak for yourself.

Millytante · 29/08/2026 00:07

Happyjoe · 28/08/2026 23:33

A classic from Sigmund Freud, he was a... charmer!

Repeated, in that case, by Desmond Morris in The Naked Ape.
I remember my furtive teenaged brother being riveted by that information.

KlippityKloppity · 29/08/2026 00:04

Men used to do it. Men still do it in lots of cultures. Men in eye makeup are hot.
Women aren't the anomaly here. Men are. Layers between reality are sexy. Its what makes lingerie sexy, its why a topless man is sexier than a naked man

ThreeTescoBags · 29/08/2026 00:01

takealettermsjones · 28/08/2026 22:35

I read once that red lipstick was to make the mouth look like... genitalia 😳

If that were true women would mascara their facial hair and walk into parties with their heads tilted sideways - one of my favourite Ben Elton jokes, always makes me laugh when it pops into my head.

Autumnleaveswillfall · 28/08/2026 23:50

I don't find it weird, but I do wonder why people think make up makes them look better. I get it if you have acne etc. But why do people consider black eyelashes look better than blonde eyelashes? The other day I looked at pictures of people before and after putting on make up, and suddenly all i could see was a load of make up on naturally beautiful faces. Now j can't unsee it. We have really been conditioned to think eyes with make up look more beautiful than those without.

XenoBitch · 28/08/2026 23:48

Just me, but I have always found it weird. I remember girls in school covering themselves in it, and I found it odd to see my peers literally paint themselves.

I started using make up in my 20s, and I felt like I was having a battle with it TBH. I hated the feel of it, but felt expected to wear it by my peers.
I was constantly in the loo checking it and touching it up. It made me anxious!

40s now, and I have not use any for over a decade. My face is my face. I am not going to paint over it for anyone.

LejlaKapovic · 28/08/2026 23:43

elprup · 28/08/2026 22:20

I kind of get foundation because it can cover spots, blotches and blemishes. But to “enhance” perfectly good eyes with black lines and smudges (eyeshadow) and to colour in your lips - I don’t know, isn’t it all a bit odd when you think about it? (Most) men don’t wear it so why do women? Just a thought! 🤣

Not really. Humans have always had beauty rituals to enhance their looks. I don't see anything wrong with makeup, but I personally don't like when it's caked on like a mask.

It's also irrelevant that most men don't wear makeup. Why should that be a reason why women can't or shouldn't wear it? I don't want to be or act the same as men, so I don't like it when women use men as the standard we should alugn ourselves with. No thanks.

Happyjoe · 28/08/2026 23:33

takealettermsjones · 28/08/2026 22:35

I read once that red lipstick was to make the mouth look like... genitalia 😳

A classic from Sigmund Freud, he was a... charmer!

MrCranky · 28/08/2026 23:27

I find foundation the weirdest actually
If you don’t wear it, you don’t need it. l

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