If your dad didnt bother with you, then showed up 20 years later asking for a kidney for his child - would you say yes?

So can we say that's a "no" or d'you want a bit of time to think 😉

I cannot donate anything due to a blood transfusion I had.
I feel like going into the Blood Donations with a Brian Blessed Voice saying "What do you MEAN you won't accept my blood - it is quality" but obviously they have rules and thems the rules .

I used to donate blood back in the day

You are of course entitled to your feelings. I agreed to a medical post mortem for my late DH and it was hard but I did it for what they could find out to help others. After death (and I really think it would be properly certified in this country) I see me as spare parts and if they can save someone, great. I don't think though that most of mine would be much good to anyone now, but I carried a donor card from the age of 5 (and I did understand what it meant)

I'd donate stem cells, but I'd do that for a stranger anyway and have been on the donor register since I was 18.

Kidney absolutely no way.

Maybe a blood draw is simplifying it. I think you have to take medicine a few days and then it’s just a blood donation. A friend did it and said it took about 5 hours.

I am close to 3 people who have received organ transplants and think donation is such an important thing. But in the scenario the OP has described, even I would struggle to say yes.

I’d absolutely do a live donation of a kidney to my loved ones. I think there’s also a scheme where a non-matching relative of someone waiting for a transplant can donate to a stranger and the patient can receive a donated from elsewhere. Like an organ swap, I guess. It’s hard to explain!

Absolutely not

I was thinking Lost, Anthony Cooper reaching out to Locke for a kidney and then pissing off.

US of A and Canada beg to differ - I just watched a horrid podcast about the US and their hospital 'donation teams'.....
Thank God for UK, thank God for the NHS and even thank God for the private sector nephrologists, for it was one of them who threw the evil plan of corrupt Nigerian minister to rob a poor Nigerian of a kidney (transplantation were to be in Wellington Hospital).

that's the screening process, not the donation.

No

It is more than that. It is a daily series of injections too, along with lengthy blood draws.
Sometimes the cells are taken directly from your bone marrow, which means can GA.... which is not without risk.

It is not like going to donate blood in a van in car park.

In the case of eastenders. It’s literally a cheek swab and and a blood draw. I’d do that. I’d do bone marrow as well. Or liver. I’d be hearty with kidneys because what if my other one failed??

I would probably consider it, as I would also consider tracking dad and asking for donation if it was the opposite. But luckily I know both my parents and know both would tell me, no shot we don't have the time for all that faff!

No way! The only people I’d help are my hubby and daughter. After my late father died an autopsy and a coroner was involved, after having a massive stroke whilst being given anaesthetic. Unfortunately he had conditions we weren’t aware of and these were the issue.

I found it very hard to accept that his body had been violated during the autopsy, it freaked me out. I’m not religious by a long shot, but I’ve made it known to everyone that I don’t want ANY of my organs donating to complete strangers. I can’t explain why I feel like this. My husband has an organ donor card, I’ve explained to him I still have to give permission regarding his organs, and I highly doubt I could do it, there is something that stops me that I can’t quite explain 🤷‍♀️

Non, nein, no, nao, nope,

It's marginally different, though, as in this hypothetical case, the father of the stranger is also your own father, albeit a stranger to you.

I would if I was the only possible match available.

I wouldn't risk a child dying just because my dad was an asshole.

However, I don't have children so it's an easy decision for me. I think it's a very different & more complex decision for a parent.

I would have bought one from a butchers and posted it to him. Special delivery and all 😆

No. I don't think I'd give a kidney to anyone, unless it had been possible to give one to my cat who died of kidney failure - I would have for him if it were medically possible, but not for any human.

This happened to me!

Kidney diseases runs on my family. Faulty gene.

Dad was abusive, cut him off 14 years ago. Tried to get a message to me via a friend last year and ended up asking me to donate a kidney to HIM 🤣🤣🤣

I told him they are reserved for my children. I don't have the gene but he clearly does!

I'd be happy to give stem cells to a stranger, so I would have no problem donating them to a hitherto unknown half brother. However, donating a kidney is a much bigger and potentially more dangerous operation, so that would be a definite no.

I had thought I'd happily donate a kidney if someone needed one, but when I looked into registering I read about the risks involved and decided, Nope! Not a chance unless I love you. For stem cells it's very different and while I'd donate if it was a family member I didn't know but who hadn't "wronged" me in some way, for a dad who didn't bother with me for 20 years, I'd say "No". As it is I don't qualify for the register as far as I'm aware.