If your dad didnt bother with you, then showed up 20 years later asking for a kidney for his child - would you say yes?

Thank you. So many people on here saying, “No, let the kid die. What do I care? I don’t even know them.” You should be ashamed. And you’d better pray that neither you nor anyone close to you ever needs a transplant. You are horrible people.

Maybe it’s not a match.

I would. It’s about the child’s wellbeing, not my resentment.

I wouldn't donate a kidney to anyone except my husband or child. Or a stranger in one of those donation chains things where my husband or child is a recipient.

I would donate blood, liver, bone marrow, just like I would to a stranger. If it will regenerate and still be available to donate again. But I would never give away my only spare kidney.

I don’t watch Eastenders but PLEASE if this is the difference between donating a kidney which essentially isn’t spare but we can survive without usually, but a close family member might need it one day thats the risk you need to assess.

I won’t put in capitals but I am
shouting from the roof top!
donating stem cells- is relatively pain free, the donor doesn’t lose a thing and can donate again to a relative similar to giving blood.

Please please please register with DKMS or Anthony Nolan 99% of the time you just sit there for a few hours with one needle in one arm and one the other well blood is taken sieved through and returned. It’s a privilege to donate and be a match to someone. Registering is easier than a covid mouth swab it’s just a bit of spit.

get those men to register too as they actually make the best donors due to their bone build.

I pray Eastenders isn’t ruining a chance to save lives here.

This is how I feel

I’m on the register. Happy to give cells/bone Marrow to anyone I match but my organs will be saved for dd only - till I die then anyone who wants my organs can have them

I’d donate to a child whether they were my half-sibling or not.

My nephew will probably need a kidney at some point but he and I don’t match, and in the UK that makes it too complicated for me to donate to him - if he lived here in the US I would have donated for him to get a kidney through a swap scheme.

BTW to the person who said you can’t donate if you’ve had a blood transfusion - that is not the case. You can’t donate blood in the UK but you can donate an organ.

Weirdly, this is a situation I once dreamed about and it pops into my head every now and then. Not sure why, as I have a great relationship with my dad. But no, I wouldn’t donate to anyone other than my kids.

No what if my own child needed a kidney further doen the line. Or my best friend.
Definitely not to a sibling I didn't know from a father that didn't raise me.

Years ago the News of The World slogan was All Human Life Is There.

Which probably somes up the Stories
on East Enders. The Script Writers seem to be struggling and desperate for new story lines.

@hotmumshit
I'd say "who's sorry now that they never kept in touch/were a decent human being but still has the nerve now to ask?"
Followed by "only when hell and heaven swap places and you put one of yours on the table right now
So its a resounding NO from me

If it was the father asking then it'd be a big fat 'NO', but if as in this (Eastenders) case, it was a sibling who neither of us knew we even had, and I could help, then I believe I would, but I guess it would depend on my own situation at the time.

I haven’t seen my Dad since I was 2 nor has he ever attempted to bother with me or paid any money for my existence.

I’d laugh in his face.

I would only do this for my own children or partner.

Our family had a terribly sad situation a few years back when my sibling’s child was gravely ill and required a donation.
It opened a huge can of worms and destroyed several relationships.
The only circumstances I would consider living donation now are to my own children.
I wholeheartedly agree with organ donation in death.

No

I wouldn't donate a kidney to anyone but those that are the most close to me. That wouldn't be a father who abandoned me or a sibling I never knew existed.

If it was blood or something else rather "benign", no issue. A life is a life. But i wouldn't give up a vital organ for just anybody. What if I donate one, but years down the line my spouse or someone else close to me also needs one from me? Then I would have already given the one I had to "spare" to someone else.

Cheeky. He can give one of his own.

I suppose it would matter who was getting it. I have a very sick cousin at the moment, I offered her my kidney and bone marrow if we were a match. So far it hasn't got that dire.
I also know that she is sick through no fault of her own. She has always been a very active, healthy person until she got sick. Not sure if I would have offered if she was sick due to unhealthy living.

A friend had a kidney transplant years ago. She wasn't well before, she still isn't healthy now. Wouldn't give up a kidney nor accept a transplant for myself. Might donate to my DC if I had to, but that's it.

The moral dilemma isnt even the 'stranger' bit it's that the dad didn't give a toss until you became useful. Some people will give a kidney to a complete stranger.
My DM was a nurse and said you have 2 kidneys and can survive on one but not if you've given one as a living donor- that you dont know whats round the corner . I think many parents would happily give to their child and i know one lady who actually gave one to her husband .
Im happy to donate anything once im gone (if anything is worth having!).

No, I wouldn’t donate a kidney to anyone apart from my DC. It’s a serious operation and I wouldn’t want to risk complications or my remaining kidney failing in the future - I want to stick around as long as possible for the sake of my DC

Stem cells are a different story though, yes I would donate them

i just don’t know. As I have two children, I guess I wouldn’t - just in case they needed it?? I’d feel guilt saying no but having children changed the picture somewhat. Equally, parting a body part for someone you have never met is a pretty big deal.

interesting q!

😮

Nope!