AIBU sleeping arrangement

I read it as being the sister's wedding?

theres an element of it that’s about the bed but I’m very aware that I have an issue with one sister in particular who I find to be quite selfish but perhaps she views me in the same way, given how many people have told me I’m being selfish, I hadn’t thought of it that way!
I think because I know I’d give up my bed for my sisters (and have slept on the floor/sofa on a few family holidays when there haven’t been enough beds) I have become frustrated that at the one time I need a bed she won’t help me out.
i see a lot of people on here think my sisters would be giving up the bed for my husband but my parents wouldn’t have him sleep in the living room, so whatever happens he will always get my old room.
So it really is someone giving me the bed not him. But yeah it’s definitely an issue I have with my sister

If everyone including him is happy for him to take the sofa then I don't see what the issue is. You don't think it's appropriate but neither he nor the hosts mind so it's fine.

But if that's not possible, and a tent's not possible, and a hotel's not possible... then I guess you'll need to stay home.

Yes exactly that, as I’ve already said, I was annoyed, I ranted, then I got over it pretty quickly, now I’m just here enjoying the drama…

Thanks! I was actually talking to my mum about this and she wants to get some camping beds. The house was a great set up for 3 sisters growing up but not ideal for adults coming to visit 😂

I think once babies are here we won’t be staying there, one of those things we’ll figure out I guess

Wait - the night before your mum's wedding you threw a main character tantrum?! Prxieless

Aren't you concerned that you're about to have twins but can't afford £40 for a hotel room

damned right

my mum chose my sister to share with her in the double bed next to the toilet shoving me into a twin room with single beds

i tried to suggest (6m pg) that id be better off nearer the loo and in a bigger bed, but my mum had a massive tantrum because it was her wedding the next day and that she deserved to be in the bigger bed

I ended up shoving the 2 twins together in the twin room- which was over the bloody hotel kitchen too. So was noisy and smelly.

i never forgot how she made me feel, either hindsight this was the very beginning of the end of my relationship with her

@strawberrylemons get a hotel. Show them you matter. Draw the boundary now.

of course your H can’t sleep on the sofa, it’s intrusive on the rest of the household if they’re getting up for dogs etc.

I’m visiting my parents this weekend, as are my 2 sisters (we’re all adults 23,29 and 32). I’m bringing my husband, sisters are going alone. I’m currently 19 weeks pregnant with twins, this is relevant.
all the bedrooms have a single bed in them, prior to pregnancy id just share with my husband and we’d have a bad nights sleep but get over it. Now im pregnant sleeping is a bit more uncomfortable and I need a pillow under my belly etc. so someone has to sleep on the sofa. I can’t make hubby sleep on the sofa because the living room is the walk way through to the kitchen so he’d have no privacy. So the options are for pregnant me or my sisters to go on the sofa. I’ve asked both my sisters if they’d give their bed up for me, they’ve both said no. My one sister even had a tantrum over it and said she just won’t visit if I’m going to take “her” bed (bear in mind she hasn’t lived at my parents house for 7 years).
I’m feeling a little disappointed in my sisters and that they wouldn’t let their pregnant sister have a bed for a weekend. My parents have offered their bed to my husband and I as a result but it doesn’t seem fair as they are both older and need the bed too.
Am I being unreasonable expecting someone to give up a bed for me? I would never ask at any other time in my life, it’s just one weekend during my pregnancy.

OP, you have the patience of a saint with the replies on this thread! It’s been an endurance for me just reading it. I can’t count the amount of times you’ve had to repeat yourself.

It’s one of those issues where there’s no real solution so people tend to victim-blame instead, saying you’re ’refusing options’ etc. Ignore it all. Sounds like you’ll end up on the sofa due to your selfish sister but hopefully it won’t be too uncomfortable for you. Good luck with the twins. With the patience and tolerance you’ve shown here, you’ll be a great mum.

damned right

my mum chose my sister to share with her in the double bed next to the toilet shoving me into a twin room with single beds

i tried to suggest (6m pg) that id be better off nearer the loo and in a bigger bed, but my mum had a massive tantrum because it was her wedding the next day and that she deserved to be in the bigger bed

I ended up shoving the 2 twins together in the twin room- which was over the bloody hotel kitchen too. So was noisy and smelly.

i never forgot how she made me feel, either hindsight this was the very beginning of the end of my relationship with her

@strawberrylemons get a hotel. Show them you matter. Draw the boundary now.

of course your H can’t sleep on the sofa, it’s intrusive on the rest of the household if they’re getting up for dogs etc.

Actually I think it's OP manipulating things to try to force one of the sisters to give up their rooms. It's a non event if her DH just sleeps on the sofa which is clearly the obvious solution, but just think how much mileage she'll get out of her 'meanie' sisters making her sleep on the sofa when she's PREGNANT with TWINS!

I think the sisters can see straight through OPs manipulative ways (probably used to it), and are quite rightly not pandering to her.

Your parents should decide who sleeps where, with your condition in mind. Your sister sounds selfish 😳