AIBU sleeping arrangement

I can't believe the amount of times so many posters have said the same thing over and over. Do they think by almost 800 posts in that someone would not have already suggested it? 😆

Plus, the OP has said no to this about 20 times! (The airbed!)

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Oh if only OP had thought of that and not discounted it multiple times!!

really?

This.

OP, I’m totally baffled about the amount of hate you’re getting here! The house has three box rooms with space for a single bed. End of. You’re heavily pregnant and your husband didn’t grow up as part of your family. No problem. You all expected one of your sisters to offer to move. Fair play. You’re feeling a bit miffed and fancied a moan. Fair enough! Honestly so confused what everyone’s issue is 🤣 (and yes - I totally get that you’d want your husband to have privacy! If it was my family, I’d also be the one who offers to be in the communal space to give my partner a bit of privacy… surely people realise not every family is the same and not everyone would feel comfortable like that? On the flip side, I’d have no issues doing that with my in laws because I’ve always just been pretty unbothered, but that doesn’t make me ignorant to the fact that it might bother my partner!). Your sisters are being a bit selfish and it’s fair enough that you’re pissed. I wouldn’t make a big deal and would just try to enjoy the weekend as best you can. I hope your poorly family member is okay and you get to spend some quality time with them. All the best x

Unless you literally have no money to afford anything other than the most basic or cheapest version of absolutely everything and only buy essentials, then everyone who says they can't afford something means this.

Missed “the bit” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Ok I missed the bit about the airbed not fitting!

Please read the OPS updates! 🤦‍♀️

Obviously your husband takes the sofa or doesn’t come! Or he takes the floor of your room - can you get your hands on a blow up bed for him.

Honestly, chivalry certainly is dead in your house! You never, ever put a woman out of a bed for a man unless he is disabled. Ever.

Do they? Well they shouldn't!

I think more than one, OP mentioned parents changing one to extend a bedroom.

The other issue that I haven’t seen mentioned yet is the number of bathrooms.

If there’s only one, and everyone is using it to shower/ bathe/ use the loo, then that’s not ideal for a pregnant woman with urinary urgency. At least in a Travelodge you’d get an en-suite bathroom, and there would be less pressure on the bathroom in the house during the day if everyone could fit showers in first thing.

So if one of the sisters sleeps on the sofa, then either the heavily-pregnant-with-twins OP has to get up early to let her own dogs out, or the sister has to be disturbed by the OP’s husband going through where she’s sleeping to let OP’s dogs out. Doesn’t really seem fair!

I just can't fathom the idea that a son-in-law is a guest. He's family, surely? Isn't that the point of getting married, to join the family?

I imagine your dh would feel acutely embarrassed having a bed at the expense of his dsil.

He should sleep on the sofa or make do on whatever floor there is in the bedroom, even if there isn't room for an airbed he might be able to fit in on the floor with a sleeping bag.

Ultimately, it is first and foremost the responsibility of your partner to make sacrifices for his pregnant wife, before more distance family members have to. Sleeping of the sofa doesn't seem like a terrible hardship to me. I'd expect a caring partner to be willing to do that.

The @strawberrylemons hasn’t responded to the suggestions that neighbours might have a spare bed? Her parents have been living there for decades and the neighbours will have known the daughters since they were teens if not younger. Why is that not an option for one daughter or, if someone has a spare double room nearby, the OP and her DH?

Especially in a case of a family member being very ill, or a death, we’ve done that. (I already mentioned that our family home is just not big enough for the now adult children, partners and GC, not because the house is tiny but just because there are quite a lot of us)

Ok so I've just read that there is no room for an air /camp bed. Surely he can cope with one night on the sofa? If he can't hotel or hire a campervan and he can sleep out in that .

You in bed, husband on the sofa or on a camp bed next to you. I've got a brilliant comfy camp bed that cost around £80 have a great night's sleep on it. Failing that a hotel or Air BnB for the night

Yes you’re right, I hadn’t rtft.

She’s being very stubborn and if someone is very ill being pragmatic on this occasion rather than insisting as he’s a guest he gets a bed might be the better course of action.

But they’re your dogs, so it should be him that lets them out!?

But short notice to drive 5 hours, buy bunk beds from somewhere when she doesn’t want to spend money on a hotel, and assemble them in someone else’s house, all before bedtime today, whilst visiting a sick relative and meeting with family

To be fair it’s Op being precious. Poor husband is seemingly unaware there is all this debate about whether he is can safely manage to sleep on a sofa!

I think he’s being a bit precious.

He’ll be asleep. Your mum will walk past him. I recommend PJs for him and a dressing gown for her!

I really don’t see how you would have more room sharing a double bed vs a single, your argument is illogical. The width per person in a double is considerably smaller than a single bed. If you needed more room than a single bed you would be leaving your sister with around 30cm of bed, the night before her wedding.

Why not swap the single bed for a bunk bed? Problem solved!