AIBU sleeping arrangement

I think this is a lot of fuss over nothing tbh. Perhaps it would be better to visit your parents when everyone isn't there and more beds on offer? Or if it's for a celebration and there for one night, just muck in and enjoy the celebration and accept someone has to sleep on the sofa. It's not the end of the world.

Yes, would've been nice for a sister to offer but that's life. In your annoyance, don't forget the bigger picture, that's spending time with family.

Your sisters have said no so your options are to have your DH sleep on the sofa (I honestly can't see what is wrong with this), not go, or book a Travelodge or something.

Hubby can stay at home, sleep on the sofa or you can stay at a hotel.

You seem to think other people need to make way for you both - they don't.

Or get a good blow up bed and you sleep in the living room

You DH should be on the sofa - I don’t get why not? He’s family too and so what if he gets disturbed - so would anyone that’s on the sofa. Alternatively get an air mattress for the floor in your room. They are cheap.

In need? No she's not. She's just pregnant. Her husband can use the sofa, they can book a nearby hotel or can use an air bed. She's not in need.

I've been the sister and I gave up my bed. Resented it though as society always seems to idolise the pregnant or prioritise those with kids. There will be more to this than a simple request.

He can sleep on the sofa or an air mattress. That you shoot down every suggestion that doesn't involve your sisters putting themselves out makes you an unreasonable askhole.

Take a blow up bed.

again though - he is sleeping not doing anything majorly private

There's no way I'd sleep on a sofa while my brother-in-law enjoyed my bed.

Then just let him stay home

If you don’t want your husband on the sofa (which no one wants to do because it’s a terrible nights sleep even without the what time everyone gets up goes to bed logistics) you either get a hotel

don’t go
Or finally, go on your own

Husband staying home is the best option. You get time with your family, he gets a weekend to himself which he won’t get for years once a baby arrives. Or he sleeps on the sofa and wear PJs. Your mum walking through is a non issue, he’ll be decent!

Do you need to visit the same time as your sisters? Can you do this visit alone?

How long have you been with him? is he that much of a guest or part of the family?

I don’t think sleeping on my in-laws settee would be my favourite thing but I’d do it (although I don’t think people would be allowed to sleep on their settee- as they are very posh and it’s not the done thing).

No, people aren’t thinking all rooms are huge. people are thinking one of 3 single rooms may have space to fit an air mattress on the floor. It’s unusual for a house to have 1 double bedroom and 3 tiny box rooms that can’t fit a human next to a single bed. There’s no need to dramatise what people are saying

Our house has two double rooms and a single. There's no way we can get a second mattress or airbed in the single room, not a chance even with just a bed in the room. When my teenage stepdaughter stays over, when ever she's brought a friend for the weekend, she has to either make a nest on the floor so her friend can take the bed (she's petite, so the shortest of her friends), or both girls sleep on our pull out sofa downstairs. Not ideal for them as we have small children (who share the other double room) so that results in a very early wake up for them 😂. OP, totally understand the dynamic. You aren't prioritising your husband, just that you know you or your sisters will feel relaxed drooling and snoozing with your parents pottering about at 6am. However, you might be trying to manage everyone's expectations and feelings too much. Your husband can likely shoulder the minor weight of feeling a little awkward in the mornings. It will likely pass. As for your sisters, I don't know what to say, but let your husband support you by taking the sofa.

Maybe your sisters don’t want to sleep on the sofa incase your dh comes wondering through.

Just another thought there.

Either don't go or stay in a hotel or a B & B. Or go on the sofa yourself.

No she said it was just him and his mum which is why he finds her family overwhelming and needs his own room to retreat to.

I think some people are genuinely baffled by the notion that many people sleep on single beds while growing up in the parental home. I've read claims that couples "cannot possibly" sleep in a teensy weensy double bed; nothing smaller than a super sized emperor bed will do. I can only presume that they also have toddlers sprawling about in king sized beds in their huge homes.

Speaking as someone who grew up sleeping in a single bed in a room that had space for nothing more than said bed and a chest of drawers, with only a couple of inches between them, it really is another world. 🤷

Your so unreasonable you want your dsis sisters to give up their bed for your dh nkt you. Why does he get priority because hes a man?

Or her husband has a brother

Exactly what I just said. I can’t see the issue at all. If I told my DH he had to sleep on my parents sofa for a couple of nights. His reaction would be ‘Bloody ‘ell alright’.

You’re pregnant and it’s your sister’s family home - he’s the obvious choice to go on the sofa.