AIBU sleeping arrangement

So your only 2 options are to accept that your DH will have to sleep on the sofa or you go another weekend. It really doesn’t need to be this difficult.

I think you should check whether your DH would actually care about privacy. If he doesn't there's no issue. If he does could you rig up a screen? Otherwise you'll have to accept your mum's offer if thd double bed.

Also I would have been VERY envious of anyone with a room of their own, even a Harry Potter style cupboard growing up, I don't think it sounds a particularly poor tiny house!

Better make the best of it now, as they certainly won't be able to accommodate you, your husband and twins.

Summary of options and comment on them

1. Get a hotel (too expensive)
2. don't all come at the same time (probably long term solution)
3. Airbed on floor (not enough space in any of the bedrooms)
4. Duvets/pillows on floor for a makeshift bed (still not enough space in any bedrooms?)
5. Tent in garden
6. Ask a neighbour/friend to put one person up (surely you must know someone locally if this was your childhood home?)
7. DH sleeps on the sofa (or airbed on lounge floor) and you agree ground rules such as when everyone else goes to bed and when they get up in the morning so DH can scuttle into OP's bedroom if he feels embarrassed)
8. one of the sisters sleeps on the sofa (OP's preferred solution, although I can see from sister's perspective this means everyone bending over backwards for OP)
9. DH doesn't come (don't think that's had a comment)

As a side note, please can you start another thread about storage solutions in a family with 3 children and absolutely no space? i suspect you must have some great ideas to share.

Tbh I’m not sure I know a single man in my family or circle of friends who would let a woman take the sofa so he could have a bed. Are you sure your husband would even want you to be having this argument on his behalf? Surely he’ll be mortified when he finds out?

Your husband should sleep in your room on a mattress on the floor. It's a sacrifice to sleep on the sofa and no privacy and discomfort would apply to your sisters too

I don't think it's quite that, lots of us have lived or currently live in houses with very small rooms. It is unusual I would think for a 4 bed house to have 1 double room and 3 rooms that don't more than a single bed, with no space for anyone to fit on the floor. You've mentioned your parents extended to build an extra room (and also I think that they could 'give up a bathroom' to extend a bedroom?) which suggests the layout might be unusual with 3 long thin bedrooms, 1 double room and a bathroom which could be used to extend a bedroom (and presumably another bathroom elsewhere if you could give up the upstairs one for a bedroom?) I don't think most people are being naive or judgemental, if you had started by saying 'my parents house is an unusual room set up with 3 long thin single rooms that have a single bed and no floor space' people wouldn't have made suggestions about sleeping on the floor, which in a lot of houses, even small ones, would be possible in at least one of the single rooms, with moving out other furniture.

I only popped on here to join a weight-loss support board yesterday, I never use mumsnet otherwise, and I see why. Some people are angry, bat💩 bananas, permanently online, permanently outraged. OP, as I suggested, let hubby take the sofa and disregard any of the mean spiritedness on here. Enjoy your visit and I hope you're feeling better over the rest of your pregnancy. Side note, highly recommended hypnobirthing lessons/course if that is something you've not looked at yet. Learning about the physiology and autonomy of birth made my births the best experiences of my life and that was with medical conditions with my pregnancies.

Edited to add: the weight loss boards have been lovely, not slating everyone on mumsnet!

Why doesn’t he drop you one weekend and collect you the next? Then you get a week with your family as planned and he doesn’t have to sleep there at all. Will both your sisters be there both weekends and during the week? They don’t live there, do they? Maybe there will be a free bedroom the weekend he collects you for him to spend a night it?

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You've outgrown your childhood bedroom a few months earlier than you thought. Don't make a mountain out of a molehill.

I think you are setting yourself up for future dramas here by asking your sisters to move. We have no family where we live. When visiting my dad who lived in a small flat, we either stayed with friends or hotels. At Christmas when we visit the inlaws who have recently downsized, our kids (late teens) stay with inlaws and me and husband stays with his sister. There just isn't room for everyone in the same house.

I have read through the thread but you don't seem to have answered what the trip is for, is it essential for your husband to come? What will happen when your sister have husbands/partners and all want to stay

Any reason you cant sleep on the sofa or on an inflatable mattress in the living room, with cushions etc for comfort?. I often sleep on the sofa or floor when i have pain.

He’s your husband for crying out loud! He’s hardly a guest. He’s a part of your family.

In this situation my husband would just sleep on the sofa - he might not LOVE his mother in law walking through but it is really not a big deal and he’s a grown man ffs.

or, tbh, if he really felt uncomfortable being in the living room, he’d just sleep on the floor in my room.

there HAS to be room on the floor alongside your bed for an adult to lie on the floor surely? Stick a roll mat down and some cushions, job done. Again, we are talking about a grown adult able bodied man, yes?

you sleep on the sofa or air mattress in living room? Don’t make your issue everyone else’s issue.

Actually, bollocks, @strawberrylemons. You can afford a hotel. Your husband got an inheritance and you're using that to do up an old house. Don't tell me there isn't £200 for two nights for a cheap hotel.

Unless you've discovered that your husband has indeed poured all of that inheritance to prop up his company which isn't doing well, in which case where he sleeps this weekend really is the least of your worries.

So find a middle ground. Instead of a week, go for a weekend. DH sleeps on the sofa in the less private and perfect circumstances that happen when you visit family sometimes. Sometimes you just make it work. Or accept your visiting for the night days are over if you can't get a hotel.

DH on the sofa - might not be the greatest situation but it really won't hurt for a night or two.

Stay in a hotel or dont visit all at once. You're obviously going to need a different solution once babies are born, and when you sisters partner up too. Don't create drama over a very temporary solution to a long term issue.

Maybe her mother will do like mine and just ban them from staying due to space.

Then you’ll have to sleep on the sofa. Or swap with him when everyone has gone to bed. Personally I’d be pretty pissed off if my sibling expected me to give up my room for a fully functioning adult.