AIBU sleeping arrangement

How far is it? Could he drive you there and come back a week later? Maybe stay overnight if absolutely necessary but you’d have a full week as you originally wanted and he’d only have one (or two?) overnights on the sofa?

I don’t think there’s any point in falling out with your sisters over it because your pregnancy is only the start of this.

Longer term you may just have to accept that your parents’ house can’t accommodate several families at once - because that’s what you are now, or will be as soon as the babies are born.

We’ve been in that situation for years now: too many siblings with partner and children to all fit in my parents’ house at the same time. And it’s not because it’s a tiny house - there are just too many of us. We’ve had sofas and folding beds and air mattresses all put into service at times like Christmas but there’s a point where it’s not really feasible for more than a night or two.

ETA: I’ve just seen this suggestion:

• Ask a neighbour/friend to put one person up (surely you must know someone locally if this was your childhood home?)

They don't have to hold on 'forever'. The time family come down could be whatever time they normally get let out. Or husband could let them out, surely?
Honestly it's getting a bit straw clutchy now in attempt to frame OPs wishes as the only option. There are other solutions than a sister giving up her bed. In fact given they've refused, there has to be another solution found if OP and husband are to stay over.

Hubby needs to sleep on the sofa.
He can use your room as a dressing room but sleep on the sofa.
That is what any well mannered man would do when his wife is expecting twins.

I'm just wondering where your sisters live? do either of them live a more reasonable drive away than 5 hours, so your DH can drop you there and you can travel with the sister the rest of the way, and then you do the same thing in reverse on the way back?

This seems bonkers to me that the children are all adults but the parents are having to still keep a house that sleeps three children.

but its not about the bed is it, that’s a red herring, it’s about how you view your sisters and their entitlement. Which we can’t help with.

is that last sentence a dig? What do you mean do a thread about storage solutions when there’s no space? How do you think people who live in 1 bedroom flats manage? Im not sure how to take that comment. If its not a dig then please correct me but if it is then that’s kinda insulting to people who live in smaller houses

No, not a dig. At my wits end with my own house that has fewer people and more space than yours, but DD's stuff is all over the house as no room in her bedroom despite all our "creative" uses of space. As it doesn't sound like you had "all over the house" as an alternative option I'd love to know how you (or your parents) managed to fit things? I suspect your answer might just be you had less stuff, but I don't even think DD has that much stuff ...

Sick, possibly dying relative to visit by the sounds of it.

Can’t afford a budget hotel but can afford twins? Come on. Just yo on your own and enjoy some family time with your parents and sisters before the babies arrive. You don’t need to be joined at the hip with your husband. I’ve been married over a quarter of a century and still do things with just may parents and brother (who is also married).

Can you get a dress rail and put a sheet over it to screen off the sofa from passers by?

Husband on the sofa. You have said he won’t mind so why are you even creating this drama? All this to avoid him dealing with your parents walking through the room he’s sleeping in. He’ll presumably he dressed so it isn’t really a big deal for his ILs to see him sleeping. It’s only a couple of nights, he’ll survive.

Then maybe just accept that the period of time the whole family can get together at your parents house has passed? It's hardly going to work once the twins arrive

Good point well made.

Is there a reason both your sister are descending at the same time?

Would a train be possible or a drop off to your sister?

This does sound like the best solution in the circumstances though. Your DH sounds like a nice man so he'd likely be fine with this.

The only thing is the cost of fuel for the extra 10hrs of driving may be equivalent to a cheap hotel though, so on the count of saving money, that wouldn't be ideal.

So, really, consider taking up your parents offer of having their double bed. OR sharing the double bed with your Mum and having your Dad on the sofa.

Some money saving tips for twins - breastfeed (formula is crazy expensive), and buy re-useable nappies (costs about £300-£400 but then no need to ever buy disposables that really add up £££).

So who gets up early in the morning with the dogs? Whoever it is, you move to their bed, your husband to yours when they get up. Problem sorted.

If they have to let the dogs out to go toilet, then they need to go out. Dogs can't hold forever either.

Agree a time in the morning before which your family won't traipse through the living room where your husband is sleeping. Say 7.30am. They know they can't access the kitchen before that so will have to take flasks, water bottles etc upstairs if they can't wait for a drink. He will know that he needs to be awake and decent by then. Its not a big ask of anyone for one morning, surely?

@strawberrylemons congratulations on your pregnancy. How wonderful to be expecting twins!
Further congratulations on your remarkable patience with having to respond to the same comments over and over again. Those replying should do you the courtesy of at least reading your replies. It would take less time than it took to type their response.
The only suggestion is not to travel. You are at a stage in your pregnancy where you need plenty of rest and certainly do not need the stress. It will be the last time you will have this problem as you will soon be a family of 4. How exciting. Wishing you a wonderful pregnancy and the best of luck.

Your sister didn't have a tantrum about giving up her room. She rightfully refused to give up a bed she has always slept in for a man who was introduced to the family. Good for her. I wouldn't visit either if I was displaced to the sofa for a perfectly able bodied husband.

@strawberrylemons I totally get what you mean. I am from a big family, my husband is an only child. It's such a different way of growing up.

Go on your own but get the train?

Look for a cheap air b&b in the area?

How far away do your sisters live? Do they absolutely have to stay over the same nights as well? Can they not just visit daily and go home?

Otherwise, dh on the sofa, ask people to be mindful and not walk through before a set time. If dogs need letting out, dh does it 🤷‍♀️

Ultimately though, I think you're just pissed off neither sister will give up a room for him. And I kinda see their point. There are 4 adults and 3 bedrooms and you and dh want to take 2 out of the 3. Despite the reasoning, it doesn't really seem fair when you look at it that way, especially when there is a perfectly reasonable compromise available to you, you just don't want that option.

There aren’t any other options than for someone to be on the sofa

Hotel. Then everyone is comfy.

You haven't helped yourself tbh, you sound hard work and basically want us to agree a sister should give up a bed for you or the husband!

Anything else suggested isn't suitable and you seem unwilling to even consider it. He can sleep on the sofa.... It's really not that big of a deal.