AIBU sleeping arrangement

There are times where you really, really should at least read all the OPs posts!

Yeah, in my world, men usually give up the beds, DH always does. Not saying they should, but all the men I know do this.

He’ll be one of those needing the gas and air and a sweet cup of tea when you’re pushing those twins out.

🤣🤣🤣

So if he isn’t a guest, then he’s a family member? And you wouldn’t do this for a family member either? Or is it neither? Because honestly, I don’t understand the argument.

The attitudes I’m seeing from some of the commenters here are genuinely bizarre. The idea that giving up your bed for a family member for one night is somehow an unacceptable sacrifice says a lot about how little value some people place on basic hospitality and family.

Thank God I wasn’t raised like this, and I certainly won’t be raising my children to think this way either.

The commenters here can carry on living their sad little lives where nobody stays over, nobody invites them anywhere, and they hide behind the sofa when someone rings the doorbell. If attacking people who still have basic etiquette, generosity and respect for family is what passes for entertainment around here, then I suppose that says enough about the kind of lives they’re living.

According to the OP, all the bedrooms in the house the OP is visiting are 4 feet wide and 5 and half feet long, so once you factor in the single bed in there, there's no room.

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That's complete manipulation though. You know perfectly well that, if it comes down to it, your sisters aren't going to let you sleep on the sofa. So you get what you want, whilst maintaining this superior attitude and belief in your husband being "a guest".

Son-in laws bunk on the sofa when visiting in-laws all the time. Why have you built this up so much? It’s for a few nights, not a month. Why does he need such high security privacy!? What’s he getting up to?

You’re making him out to be some delicate precious little Prince.

My Dad or DH wouldn’t dream of letting one of the female members of my family kip on the sofa. They would man the fuck up and get on with it. He’ll be one of those needing the gas and air and a sweet cup of tea when you’re pushing those twins out.

Why bother posting the thread then?

Not read the full thread so I'm sure someone else has suggested this but surely you can just buy an airbed to put on your bedroom floor so husband can sleep in there with you?

ETA: read your replies now and can see you say the room is too small for this, apols.

Are you sisters rooms all too small for an airbed too?

Just don't go. Who can be arsed with all this? Sorry, i'm peri and just can't deal with this type of stuff! And your sisters sound selfish.

Jealous of what?

I struggle to believe that a single bedroom has no floor space.

I wasn't being patronising, I was checking you were aware as I thought you said bunk beds were planned for you and your husband in future.
Still, I'd rather annoy 100 people than keep quiet and let someone who didn't know the safe sleeping guidance remain uninformed.

Exactly! Husband is not a guest, he's family.

We have a box room where you can just fit a single bed in - it is one single bed long, and two wide, with rhe door occupying half the spaxe. However, once the door is shut you could absolutely roll out a camping roll and sleep in the floor once the door is shut. Especially if you were married.

Under no circumstances should a woman heavily pregnant with twins, with medical issues, be sleeping on the sofa.

OP is turning this into a me vs my sisters fight when it doesn't need to be.

Also, you can afford a hotel, you are just choosing not to allocate the funds that way (and your sisters know it). How much of your year's maternity leave would a couple of nights in a hotel cost. Half a week? A week?

No, they have a camper van but unfortunately DH still hasn't got round to renovating it. Or the house they live in.

@strawberrylemons AGAIN

Why can't one parent sleep in a single bed and the other one on the sofa so you and H have the double bed?

They have offered, you have declined - why?? Seems like you are enjoying being a martyr

As I have said before, they are hardly old (if you and yours sisters are 20s/30s) and most of us late 50s/60s are more than capable of doing this for a night or 2

If in doubt, when you know you're in the wrong, start deflecting. 🙄 No-one is upset on here, only you, because most people are not saying what you want to hear.

You are being incredibly unreasonable. As I said, 'one of your sisters needs to give up her bedroom for your husband!' is the ONLY answer or solution you are willing to hear and accept.

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Someone mentioned a camper van. Is this what you’re travelling in? If so, could DH sleep in that?
also, is there only one toilet which is through the communal area?
i was thinking that whoever slept in the lounge would at least have a degree of privacy until morning and the dogs being let out but this won’t be the case if everyone has to traipse by for the toilet.
Gosh, there really isn’t enough room in the house for all the visitors. Who was the last addition to the weekend? Surely they could have been told there’s no bed for you?

Do you all have the rooms you had as kids? Surely it would be better for your parents to redecorate and create actual guest rooms especially if they want you and twins to come stay at all. Not that this solves the issue just now - would sister swap rooms so you can fit airbed on floor or are all the rooms tiny?

I didn't think you were lying, I was trying get more detail to see if anyone could offer any suggestions.
Could a dress rail with a sheet be used to screen part of the living area off to give privacy?

Apologies for assuming that you would want to visit the family you are visiting again after your babies are born. I kind of expected that you would have a room arrangement plan for when your family visits your parents and wondered what that was.

Are you always such a martyr, OP?

Read all the OPs posts, it's all there