AIBU sleeping arrangement

He would prioritise me, as I’ve said, this is my issue with me wanting him to be comfortable as a guest in my parents house, I know pretty much everyone disagrees but I’m standing firm on that, I treat my brother in law the same and I treat my aunties and uncles that way when they stay.
I’m really not as upset about this and some people seem to think I am. I intend to keep the peace which is why I ranted here rather than arguing with my family.

Your husband is such a dolt that he would let you sleep on the sofa so he could have "privacy" while you play martyr to your sisters for them not giving their beds up to your husband. 🙄

Ew, ick.

Actually, the situation isn’t that big of a deal in real life, it’s been blown up massively on here. I’m not worried at all, neither are my family. It was a simple vent after talking to my sister and it has become a whole different situation on mumsnet

my husband isn’t having anyone’s room, he’s in my room, with our dogs. I was just hopeful I could have my sisters room over the sofa but that isn’t an option so im having the sofa. I’m really not THAT precious about it, it was just a bit annoying that’s all

The OP doesn't appear to be wanting to accept ANY solution offered or suggested. Not one. As I said, someone saying 'one of your sisters needs to give up their bed for him and sleep on the sofa' is the ONLY response she wants to hear.

Then again, they are not going to do so, and apparently all bedrooms are 4 feet wide and cannot fit an airbed on the floor next to a single bed, OP doesn't want her DH to sleep on the sofa with relatives passing through, and they can't afford a hotel room.

Only one answer left @strawberrylemons . Don't go.

You will probably poo poo that suggestion too, though, so I'll my coat. This thread is breathtakingly frustrating and annoying!

He would prioritise me, as I’ve said, this is my issue with me wanting him to be comfortable as a guest in my parents house, I know pretty much everyone disagrees but I’m standing firm on that, I treat my brother in law the same and I treat my aunties and uncles that way when they stay.
I’m really not as upset about this and some people seem to think I am. I intend to keep the peace which is why I ranted here rather than arguing with my family.

Your husband is such a dolt that he would let you sleep on the sofa so he could have "privacy" while you play martyr to your sisters for them not giving their beds up to your husband. 🙄

Ew, ick.

The persistent air bed recommendations are bizarre

The maths is

I can say for certain a single air bed will not fit in the single bed room at my home, as the bed takes up more than half the room width and if you did manage to somehow squash it in the gap, you would not be able to close the door.

A number of responses to this thread direct are part of an emerging trend that is an unfortunate, but inevitable consequence of many forums becoming increasingly contaminated with posts to intentionally subvert the reliability of forums (by bad actors), proliferation of AI-derived content and the reliable, but unreliable bored amateur, unpaid fiction writers (trolls). We are, or probably already have sleepwalked to the point where people have frequent difficulty deciding whether what they are reading is genuine... and if you think about that long enough, it should scare the shit out of you in a digital world.

Existential rant over

Hotel, airbed in lounge or tent for husband in garden?

Sounds like people have become territorial over their former childhood bedrooms, which is what happens when the family get together and we all get to hash out our unspoken dramas / learnt familial roles - a rehearsal for Christmas!

Okay, I’ll explain the logic, since apparently this distinction is impossible for some people to understand.

OP’s husband did not grow up in that house and was not raised by OP’s parents. He is absolutely a family member, but that doesn’t mean his relationship to his in-laws’ home is identical to the relationship OP and her sisters have with their childhood home.

In this situation, he can be both a family member and a guest in his in-laws’ home. OP’s sister, on the other hand, is their daughter who grew up there. In many cultures and families, that distinction matters when it comes to hospitality and who is expected to give up their space for whom.

You don’t have to agree with that family dynamic, but pretending there is no distinction whatsoever is just being deliberately obtuse.

I agree with you, so many wet men these days. A couple of nights in a sleeping bag by the OP’s bed won’t kill him. He doesn’t need an air bed FFS.

Actually, the situation isn’t that big of a deal in real life, it’s been blown up massively on here. I’m not worried at all, neither are my family. It was a simple vent after talking to my sister and it has become a whole different situation on mumsnet

my husband isn’t having anyone’s room, he’s in my room, with our dogs. I was just hopeful I could have my sisters room over the sofa but that isn’t an option so im having the sofa. I’m really not THAT precious about it, it was just a bit annoying that’s all

6 adults and multiple dogs in a bungalow so small it cant fit an airbed. Wow.

I have said this 3 times now - but I suppose OP wants to be the martyr and not accept

Actually, the situation isn’t that big of a deal in real life, it’s been blown up massively on here. I’m not worried at all, neither are my family. It was a simple vent after talking to my sister and it has become a whole different situation on mumsnet

my husband isn’t having anyone’s room, he’s in my room, with our dogs. I was just hopeful I could have my sisters room over the sofa but that isn’t an option so im having the sofa. I’m really not THAT precious about it, it was just a bit annoying that’s all