AIBU sleeping arrangement

But why should her sisters have to give up their beds for OP's delicate husband?

And OP and husband are bringing multiple dogs so it can't be that small.

Of course she's confident!

She'll make him do whatever makes her the martyr!

No doubt he will do as he's told for an easy weekend

Ok last try- couldn’t someone get rid of the big old wardrobe in one of the single rooms before you visit? Surely that’s going to need to go anyway over time?

You’re being very precious about your husband not sleeping on the sofa.

Haha, this is genuinely hilarious. Yes, OP has clearly spent the last 30 years secretly harbouring resentment towards her sister, only to finally unleash her master plan: getting pregnant and asking for a bed for the night. What a diabolical way to “punish” someone.

Jesus Christ, the amount of amateur psychology happening in this thread is incredible. Thank you for your highly qualified assessment of OP’s childhood, family relationships and deepest motivations, all based on a few paragraphs on Mumsnet. I’m sure your completely unsolicited diagnosis has finally solved the case.

Wish people would RTFT!

Your sisters are being dicks. Guess neither have ever been pregnant?

Your parents need to stand up to your sisters. No way should you be sleeping on the sofa!

Sounds like your parents need to grow a pair and make some decisions about what is happening in their own home, rather that let people who don’t even live there fight it out.

Is there an actual reason all siblings need to be there on the same weekend?

Maybe suggest to your mum and dad that having get-togethers with all of you in a tiny bungalow when there isn't enough room isn't working.
it could be your two sisters one weekend then you and your husband another time. They might like you all at the same time but their place is clearly not big enough for six adults all at once.

It sounds as though it was a standard three-bedroom semi-detached with two double bedrooms and a box room where one of the double bedrooms was partioned into two small bedrooms so OP and her sisters each had a bedroom.

If that's what happened, those bedrooms would all be pretty small.

I take this point, but I’m from a western culture, as I suspect are the OP’s sisters. I’d give up my bed for a pregnant sister, but not for the brother in law who could perfectly well sleep on the sofa.

There does also seem to be a bit of a backstory here, opaque inheritance, failing business, unrenovated house and camper van. Maybe the sisters are passing on the message that if the OP wants to hold her husband’s comfort above everyone else she can do so, but she can’t expect them to follow suit.

He does have a private space, the room is available.

He can sleep on a sleeping bag on the floor.

It sounds like you have resentment towards your sisters and you’re using your pregnancy to finally get one over on them.

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So your mother would prefer her pregnant daughter slept on the sofa to avoid any inconvenience of her son in law, sorry guest?

I’m going to call BS on that.

From the way I have read the posts the husband is completely unaware of these discussions so nothing to suggest he has any expectations of anyone’s bed. It’s OP who has decided he can’t possibly spend a couple of nights on the sofa

And I love that her sisters aren't going on that guilt trip @strawberrylemons is trying to send them on.

Has anyone suggested a tent in the back yet?

I just saw there's dogs too.

Husband on the sofa or you find a air bnb or hotel

simple

@strawberrylemons The issue is actually that your parents need to parent their (adult) children.
You are all visiting your parents’ house - they should be saying who sleeps where, not you, your DH or your sisters…
Your mum was happy enough to turf you out of your room for your aunt- she can do the same for you and your DH.

If your parents are not prepared to tackle this issue (and as they have quite rightly offered a large bed to the daughter who is pregnant with twins) then you should take their room and let your sisters feel the shame.

Nice try, but the OP seems very confident that she'll be on the sofa while this prince among men takes her bed.

If you are taking your dogs too then my option of him staying on the sofa and getting up with all the dogs is a good one!

Also, when does your DH stop being a guest and start being family? You are there to see a relative in hospital, so I will assume its serious. We've been there too 💐 so surely its a case of muck in and get your head down wherever? It's what families do.

He isn't a fragile little thing, he can make up his own mind. He will be fine on the sofa for a few nights.

“I’ll sleep on a bed of nails for you but I draw the line at a sofa” 😂

So you’re taking your own dogs too? Plural? LOL! Where are they sleeping? In one of the rooms that won’t fit an airbed?

If your DH genuinely lets his pregnant with twins wife sleep on the sofa while he has a proper bed I fear for your future. Is he unwell? Or just exceptionally delicate? Why can’t he sleep on a sofa? It’s getting weird now.

Just ask him!

Are you ok with the sofa when we go to my Mum and Dad’s? Emily and Jane both want their own rooms. I’ve suggested they swap and let you have a room but they weren’t keen.

If he is this kind man that you are making out, he’ll say ‘Yeah it’s only for two nights’. And the problem is solved.