AIBU sleeping arrangement

Couldn’t you put a double air mattress in the open plan living room/kitchen area? That way you can sleep there comfortably without being confined to a sofa when pregnant but nobody who isn’t comfortable in the family home has to sleep in the communal area?

Or is it not big enough? 😜

Maybe the sisters are pregnant, maybe it’s early days and they don’t want to say?

We know for damn sure OP’s hubby isn’t though and yet he’s forbidden from the sofa because he’s a guest. Bizarre.

Practicing your sad face in the car for 5 hours so you can pull it out when you start ostentatiously wrapping a sheet on the sofa while glaring at the one sister you want to target isn’t sorting it to be fair.

OP has a bed

she is choosing to make a massive martyr of herself and sleep on the sofa because her sisters wont give up their beds so that her husband doesn't have to sleep on the sofa - which he obviously absolutely could but for some reason OP refuses to accept he can

Absolutely this.

The family are going through a difficult time by the sounds of it. I think the OP is being quite selfish making it all about her DH's 'comfort'.

Of course it is. If you wanted to find a solution that is. Marketplace.

Good point! He’s merely the driver. Could he sleep in said vehicle? So his in-laws don’t have to see his dingly danglies and he gets his privacy.

Then OP can have the bed and the dogs can have the sofa.

Also if the DH couldn’t sleep in the lounge because he would be disturbed by someone letting the dogs out, but several of the dogs are his why wouldn’t he just be letting them out? 😂

Can't the bunk beds solution be used even this time? Parents/the sister living the closest looking at the market place/other local sources for second hand/something like basic ikea and putting one up?

She forgot to mention every single room had 2ft ceilings. There’s no way there’s any other solution than her sister moving out of her room.

I am fast coming round to the idea that sleeping on the sofa is actually preferable to sleeping in a bedroom that's just about big enough for a single bed and a narrow walkway (presumably where any items they take with them are going to have to live) especially when OP throws in that there are also dogs (plural) sleeping there.

Therefore I think the sisters are actually being rather generous in allowing OP to sleep in the lounge as it's much the biggest space and there is easy access to the kitchen and the garden and the toilet (without disturbing animals).

If all of the sisters have left home, what’s in the wardrobe? Presumably the house contains less in the way of clothing/ shoes/ bags/ toys/ personal possessions than it did when all 3 sisters lived there.

If the wardrobe is permanently removed from the slightly bigger room, then that room could fit an airbed (possibly a small double in the longer term) .

Well if you'd have to share the single bed with your dogs anyway maybe the sofa will be comfier for you 😂

Given it sounds like the house isn’t going to be suitable to stay at with twins seems like this could be a good time to find an air b and b or hotel which you can use for future trips!

Wait, there's dogs?! If there is no room for an airbed, where are the dogs sleeping in the room? Can't they go into kennels for the weekend and your husband can sleep in that space?

Also, stop infantalising your husband. He can stay up until 11pm for a couple of nights, he's not a baby that needs his sleep! You also say he's part of the family, yet you also say he's a guest. Which is he? I'd be really insulted if I went to my in-laws and was considered a guest. I'm one of the family, so if that means I'm on the sofa because it makes the most sense, then I'm on the sofa. I would be insulted for anyone else to be put out for me. You are doing your husband a disservice by making him the outsider.

Just buy a second hand bunk bed!?

And was it usually you who was booted out?

Even less reason for a relative to be deprioritised over a “guest”. Your sisters are home to visit an unwell relative, your DH is only there because you need a chauffeur, so he takes the sofa.

You must love to hate men, thinking they lack agency or are so selfish they'll let their pregnant wife sleep on a sofa while they take her bed.

Not 30 years 🙄 But OP is remembering an incident on holiday where she had to sleep on the floor, and she wants her sisters to make it up to her by giving up their room now.

So it’s not amateur psychology, it’s basic deduction.

You clearly haven’t read the thread.

Surely that puts your oh no my husband cannot possibly sleep on the sofa unreasonableness into stark contrast with something that actually matters?

Op honestly, wouldn't your husband be more comfortable in the long term visiting your parents if he was allowed to become one of the family? Allowed to muck in? Rather than being placed at arms length on some ridiculous pedestal? If he's the decent bloke you are saying he is, you are doing him a huge injustice here.