AIBU sleeping arrangement

No, the single bedroom. Apparently there will be 2 dogs in it with hubby, but no room for a sleeping roll

Hmm? The house ? I have a dog in my tiny house, not sure I could fit 2 though!

If you genuinely can’t afford a cheap hotel for a night or two then you need to take a serious look at your finances before the twins arrive.

Did the extra bedroom come from splitting a double into two singles? I grew up in a small house, spent pretty much every Christmas sleeping on the sofa so family could stay so I do get it. But it’s really unusual to have a house with 1 double and 3 single bedrooms.

This OPs style of wilful misinterpretation and reframing is hilarious, but I would be NC if she was my sister. Sis not wanting to give your darling husband her bed is reframed as "making 20 week pregnant sister sleep on sofa". Posters challenging the inconsistencies in her story is reframed as "mocking her small house and impoverished family".

It’s the only solution I can see!

But this one is big enough for 2 dogs?

At least 2 of the dogs are his though.

Air mattress for you in the front room and every one wins really?

Curious what is wrong with the sofa though, is it a small sofa?

I have a very tiny house too so i don't doubt for one second there isn't enough room in the bedrooms by the way. My 3 bed house only has 1 room big enough for a double. The smaller 2 barely fit a single bed, and they have no furniture (wardobes/drawers) in. We all share the big room for clothes!

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She knows that's how you meant it don't worry.

With a 9 year age gap between oldest and youngest you must have all been in the house together for a time, where were all your clothes stored?

The DH wasn’t ‘invited’ though

I was being lighthearted about the amount of times you’ve had to repeat yourself, didn’t mean to be offensive about the size of your family home!

I would imagine an in-law living a 5-hour car journey away isn’t at the “popping in and out of MIL’s house regularly to let out the dogs”-level familiarity.

It is understandable that your sisters would say no to be honest, she may not realise that you are intending to martyr yourself and insist on sleeping on the sofa yourself instead of asking your husband to.

My DH would have absolutely zero problem sleeping on the sofa in these circumstances, he can go and get his head down in your room, then when you are ready to go to bed he can swap, or he can stay up later for a few days. Or you just sleep on the sofa yourself and stop making a big deal of everything.

I still don't believe that you can't put a some folded up quilts on the floor next to the bed for him to sleep.. that is what I would be offering to do if I was him.. I'd be mortified that you were trying to pressure your sisters to give up a bed for me, while you insist that I 'need' one.. I think you should talk to him before you go any further as I would be annoyed at you for speaking on my behalf without even asking me.

If your 90 year old nan has offered that you can sleep at house in her bed and she will sleep in her recliner, presumably she lives in the same town as your parents. Is there any chance you could stay in your nan's house (but not make her sleep in her recliner)? You would surely just need to buy or borrow a blow up mattress to go on her living room floor.

Will this problem even exist in the future? You mention buying bunk beds but surely you won't be staying at the same time as your sisters in the future, as surely a cot (or maybe even two) won't fit if you say the rooms are that small. So surely future visits may be you in one room, husband in another, babies in the third room?

Anyway to me your husband should go on the sofa. I am not sure why you keep saying he's a guest. Have you not been together that long? Surely he is family.

My other suggestion would have been to get the train so he didn't need to come. (Though I am guessing that would also be an issue with costs).
On that note if you know when you want to stay, places like premier inn are a lot cheaper when booked in advance so although you mention not wanting to pay for a hotel it might be worth considering. Or maybe having that as a birthday present.

You could lie the empty wardrobe down on the floor (with the doors upwards) and sleep in there like a coffin?

Visit another time when sisters are not there, find a cheap B&B or postpone the visit until you can afford a cheap B&B or air BNB. Honestly if you are expecting twins and finances are such that even a cheap basic BnB is unaffordable, you probably have more important things to worry about than visiting family.

In all honesty, the parents are at fault here. Don't invite more people to stay than you can accommodate. And if you're inviting someone on the assumption that they'll have unusual sleeping arrangements (sharing with someone who's not their partner, sleeping on the floor or a sofa) make that clear at the time of the invitation.

It’s not about the bedrooms being “so small” it’s about you having a ridiculous excuse for every single suggestion, can’t possibly put a mat on the floor, can’t possibly have an empty wardrobe moved, can’t possibly have the bed your mum offered, can’t possibly get the train, can’t possibly go another weeks, couldn’t possibly have your dear husband sleep on a sofa.
You are being inflexible and making up excuses for every single option available to you, and it’s probably why your sister won’t give up her room.

That's a good point. I'm imagining the Escher style room that can fit 2 dogs but not a single bed roll. Or maybe the 2 dogs are sharing the single bed with him? Where you open the door and launch yourself directly down onto the bed as there's no floor space.

I would definitely prioritise a pregnant sister and her husband! Yes, he is an in-law and part of the family, but unless he's very close and knows them all well, he shouldn't be getting up and letting the dogs out. Plus, he is likely to be taller and less able to sleep on a sofa bed-if your sisters are taller, ok that's different.

Just go and see your parents at a different time, and try to forget about your sisters' nasty attitude. Just because people are related by blood doesn't mean they're going to be decent to you (your parents should, because they chose to have you, but siblings often aren't close).

Good it is solved now.

I don't understand why the bunk bed solution wasn't implemented earlier instead of planning to use sister's room...

I'm just curious now, why DH on a sofa would be disturbed by other going out to sort the dogs - but others won't be disturb by DH going out to sort the other dogs.