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Am i being unreasonable

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LovingBlueDog · 27/08/2026 22:03

My DS had 2 friends over. (One of which tried to convince him before to sneak out to the super at 11pm see my other posts for that)
We were all playing a board game and I won, this friend calls me a c.u.n.t. I immediately demanded an apology and asked the parents to pick him up explaining what he did. His parents are both furious and take away his electronics amd demand he apologise again.

My DS is having an early birthday party and sleepover and he’s asked if this friend can come.
Am I being unreasonable to say no?

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Floatlikeafeather2 · 27/08/2026 22:31

Catza · 27/08/2026 22:12

Did he apologise? If so, I would consider the matter closed. Otherwise what is the point of an apology?

It's not obligatory to accept an apology otherwise people would be free to do all sorts of horrible stuff to each other as long as they apologised afterwards. Added to which, this is not the first time this boy has caused problems in OP's house.

BansheeOfTheSouth · 27/08/2026 22:24

@Pistachiocake The word Pal coming from a Glasweigan is usually accompanied with a menacing snarl so there is no mistaking the intent, most teens wouldn't call their friends parents a cunt though. Even as a term of endearment.

Pistachiocake · 27/08/2026 22:19

Buzzfeed etc say that often Americans recoil in horror at the way British people use this word in a jokey way, so depending on his background, might not be seen as bad. They used to say don't worry if someone called you that in Glasgow-they said watch out if someone calls you pal instead.
Obviously fine to say you're not ok with it, and that people feel different ways about the word so best not to use it, but as he's said sorry, move on and start afresh.

Garfieldloveslasagnepie · 27/08/2026 22:16

WTAF

Catza · 27/08/2026 22:12

Did he apologise? If so, I would consider the matter closed. Otherwise what is the point of an apology?

Floatlikeafeather2 · 27/08/2026 22:09

You are totally justified in saying no. I hope you stand your ground and refuse to have him in your house again for any reason.

strawberry780 · 27/08/2026 22:08

How old is the child? Tbf no you’re not being unreasonable! I would NEVER call my friends parents that even as a teenager! That’s so bad he felt comfortable enough to do it 😩

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