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To wish my partner was funnier?

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Banoffeemuffin · 27/08/2026 19:57

I have the most amazing partner, we have been together 2 years and honestly, he has treated me so well. He's emotionally intelligent, mature, kind, great with my kids, thoughtful, great in the bedroom, consistent. We also do have a bit of a laugh together and tease each other but he's not naturally funny.
I work with a guy who just has this unbelievable sense of humor, he doesn't even try to be funny, he just is, lots of one liners and just dry, silly humour. Im constantly laughing.
I'm not physically attracted to him but I just keep thinking how fun it would be to actually be with someone who was like that and sometimes feel a bit sad that I'm not going to have that. AIBU?

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MustTryHarderAndHarder · 27/08/2026 20:14

JustMeSimply · 27/08/2026 20:12

Quite often the comedians are masking depression etc...shame you want everything and pretty much have everything yet dream of more well good luck cause nobody has every single thing

But so many women are looking for Mr. Perfect so I assume that they think that he exists.

What they don't consider is are they Miss Perfect?

MustTryHarderAndHarder · 27/08/2026 20:12

Rainingasusual · 27/08/2026 20:07

The most amazing partner can't be that amazing if you're already daydreaming about greener grass.

Or is she looking for Mr. Perfect like my sister who is in her '60s and is destined to remain single.

JustMeSimply · 27/08/2026 20:12

Quite often the comedians are masking depression etc...shame you want everything and pretty much have everything yet dream of more well good luck cause nobody has every single thing

Empress13 · 27/08/2026 20:10

For me when choosing a partner humour trumps over looks! Love a man that makes me laugh so important

MustTryHarderAndHarder · 27/08/2026 20:10

HumptyDump · 27/08/2026 20:06

Honestly I would leave him and find a funny one. DH is so so funny and we literally laugh all the time. I couldn’t be with one who didn’t make me laugh.

Dont settle.

Edited

Yes, it's so easy to find Mr.Perfect isn't it?

That's why so many women are single including my sister and two of my friends. They were looking for Mr. Perfect and now and are now in their '60s and single.

Malasana · 27/08/2026 20:10

Will you ever tick every single box? Possibly not.
Is he kind, respectful, honest, loyal, interesting? The things that really matter? It seems so.
If you want funny, go and see stand up.

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 27/08/2026 20:08

How upset would you be if you found out if he said, “I mean @Banoffeemuffin is .great but there’s a girl at work
who is like just so sweet, she just does and says the sweetest things! It makes my heart so happy to see how sweet she is!!”

concertinacornflake · 27/08/2026 20:08

Sometimes you have to value what you've got.

Sometimes funny people use humour to avoid real conversation. Sometimes funny people are covering up sadness with humour. Sometimes funny people refuse to ever take anything seriously. You don't really know this guy.

Rainingasusual · 27/08/2026 20:07

The most amazing partner can't be that amazing if you're already daydreaming about greener grass.

Pinkissmart · 27/08/2026 20:07

You’re 2 years in?
Look, you can have your list of ‘must haves’. If a sense of humour is one of those things, that’s ok.

MustTryHarderAndHarder · 27/08/2026 20:06

Banoffeemuffin · 27/08/2026 20:03

I know if I met someone really funny they could have lots of other issues that my current partner doesn't have, addiction , debt , crap in bed etc..

Exactly.

So why are you even thinking about Fun Bob,?:

HumptyDump · 27/08/2026 20:06

Honestly I would leave him and find a funny one. DH is so so funny and we literally laugh all the time. I couldn’t be with one who didn’t make me laugh.

Dont settle.

MustTryHarderAndHarder · 27/08/2026 20:04

So your partner is perfect except for one thing?

Can't you see how lucky you are?

If you carry on the way you are going you are going to mess everything up.

Original poster
Banoffeemuffin · 27/08/2026 20:03

I know if I met someone really funny they could have lots of other issues that my current partner doesn't have, addiction , debt , crap in bed etc..

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AdjectiveColourNoun · 27/08/2026 20:00

Don’t make this the start of something you later regret. YABU

Tunaboona · 27/08/2026 19:59

The guy at work is fun uncle Bobby. Probably goes home and sits in a grey dressing gown sobbing into his cornflakes.

Bootsand · 27/08/2026 19:58

That's what friends are for!

hotmumshit · 27/08/2026 19:58

Slippery slope there girl 😬

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