People saying you look young for your age

Hehe - it isn't faux shock. They are shocked! 😆

Grow a thicker skin, you're 35 after all. I'm sure you'll cope.

At 62 I have a very thick skin and look like melted wax.

It just means you've reached the age bracket where people assume you're worried about ageing and will be pleased if they insist they took you for much younger. It can be a bit irritating, but it literally doesn't mean anything except they're trying to be nice. Just smile, say thanks and move the conversation on.

If they really seem to be making a huge deal of it, they probably want you to return the compliment. Might as well ... or, if they look about 90 and you can't bring yourself to be that ridiculous, say you've always wondered how they keep their hair so shiny or something.

I get this at 45 when people ask how old my dc are (21 and 25) I take it as a compliment. I say thank you, and move on with my day.

Being single in your 50s and looking younger can be awkward as men in their 30s sometimes ask you out but then look horrified when you tell them how old you are which is not so fun. What is the best way to navigate this?

I strongly doubt this. 5 minutes of your non participation or awkward silence is a very long time for them going on and on and on and on about your youthful looks.

But you're 35. You haven't experienced what society calls 'ageing'.

That's like a five year old saying, 'I'm ok with ageing.'

Haha I used to get this all this time too. And then you hit your mid forties and no one is remotely surprised when you say how old you are. Don’t worry, it will all go downhill overnight one day and your problem will be solved.

They did with me until I reached 50th. Was always told I looked 10 years younger but now I look my age. Make the most of it OP!

I have mostly had the opposite problem where I always looked older because I’ve been told I have a striking face with big features. I looked 25 when I was 15. Never been ID’d. But since my 40s it has switched round. I don’t think I look younger and don’t want to, but the ones who always looked young seem to have aged more. I don’t get it

It's very common. I had it most of my life when I was young and at your age. I didn't bother me.

I was in a DIY shop today and the man on the till asked the man in front of me if he was over 18. He apologised, said that he was prompted to ask on the till, but also said "You do look young very young", after the man told him he was actually 27.

It doesn't last, and before you know it, you're looking your age or older

It’s always happened to me. I come from a family of baby-faced people. We also have connective tissue disorders in my family and that is probably a massive part of it. I’m mid 40s with no deep lines, and only really mild crows feet when i laugh. i also dye my hair so my grey hair is never on display, and I tend to dye my hair bright colours which also adds to an over all younger ‘look’ about me if you’re not looking too close.

If i’m not in the mood or they are being very loud and gushy which makes me intensely uncomfortable, I usually will reply something like ‘Yeah, there are some perks to shitty connective tissue where my joints are shot and my internal organs are trying to fall out’. Usually stops the conversation dead.

I get this all the time, but cba to pretend I don't like it.

Not me but a woman who had joined my mother's firm many years ago. They thought she was 35- 40. She was 19!

She had the last laugh though. When she retired at 60 she looked just the same!

Getting older and being menopausal doesn’t mean you’ll look haggard. I’m 59 and have been on HRT and testosterone since I was 51. I’m a healthy weight for my height, don’t drink or smoke and eat healthily. I don’t use expensive make up products, just good old Nivea, I’ve used this since before my pregnancy, my daughter is now 30.

Both my husband and myself are always mistaken for being much younger, I believe genetics have a lot to do with it. His grandad looked really young and so did my dad. We are very fortunate and find it amusing when people find out our real ages, they’re so shocked 🤩

It isn’t usually just someone’s face. It is usually because of everything about them. The way they dress. The topics they discuss. The manner in which they behave

take that as you will

No, I'm sure they thought your 20 year old was your dad.

True. Or faint because they're so overwhelmed by her youthfulness.

They might beat her up for stealth boasting.

I get it a lot. I'm 44 and when I tell people I've got a 20 year old son they say I don't look old enough (with genuine shock). It got a bit silly last week when I took my 8 year old for tooth extraction and my oldest came with us. We walked in the room and the staff were like "oh you've got dad with you as well" when my son walked in after me. I corrected them saying he's his brother and they were really shocked

Lol.

Theres a reddit sub I recently wasted a bit of time on, for people who look much older or younger than their age. Maybe you can find solidarity and tips!

nothing ages a woman quicker than talking about how people think they look so much younger (clue, you are then advertising you are older). But we all look our age - we are the age we are and look how we look ergo we look our age. But of course people of any age can look very different from each other. Embrace yourself at every age, your looks don’t have an ‘age’.

It used to happen to me, but not anymore. I’ve had a hard life. 😂

Enjoy it while it lasts.

It doesn't happen to me so clearly I look my age or old for my age. But if I was you I'd just say "aw yeah I've got a baby face" and laugh. You're making a very big deal over a compliment.