People saying you look young for your age

Just laugh it off. There will come a time when you catch up and no-one will say that any more!

Are you for real? People’s faces don’t melt when they turn 50? You sound up your own ass and a bit ridiculous if I am honest

Wow. you posted this. Just wow.

I'm in my late 50s and have quite big eyes (like a baby,) do you reckon I could get a Young Persons Railcard if I go to the train station with no make up on and my hair in pigtails?

I've had comments like this for most of my adult life. I got asked for ID in Tesco once when I was in my early 30s; I looked at him incredulous, thinking he was joking, but he was being deadly serious!

I'm in my mid 50s now and don't get it so much (thanks, menopause!) but on the whole it never really bothered me. The only time I hated it was when I was in my teens and would get mistaken for being much younger. My 2 daughters, both in their mid 20s, are the same and could easily pass for being 10 years younger.

My cousin who is a doctor used to jokingly act like I was a freak show for looking so young and that I should be studied scientifically. But funnily enough last year I was told I was hypermobile which I’m now hearing can make people look younger ! So maybe they were onto something 😂

I had always just thought it was purely a family thing since both the men and women in my family look quite young until they start to properly age at like 65+

It's quite the epidemic. They all hate it.
Although getting a child fare on public transport at age 47 has got to be a bonus.

OP; you're only 35. You are young.
If you're bored or frustrated by people's reactions, just ignore them or find new friends.

Your sister "looks her age"?
Well, that means absolutely nothing if you read this thread!

Yes, it's quite an odd story. Medical practitioners rarely have time for this sort of thing.

A lot of baby faces on here. 👶

I have a baby face and I accept that. My sister who is three years younger than me looks her age, and she does look older than me.

Like several others on here, I have HSD (I don’t meet the criteria for EDS by one point) and when people tell me I look young for my age, I tell them I’ll trade them the HSD and the pain and the fatigue that comes with it to look my age! That shuts them up fast.

Your dentist thought your 20 year old son was your 8 year old son's dad? Eh?!And that a woman in her mid 40s was too young to have a 20 year old? Again eh?

I would be very reluctant to let this person near my teeth with a drill to be honest, if he thinks a 20 year old is the father of an 8 year old, and a 44 year old woman 'doesn't look old enough' to be the mother of a 20 year old.

Also genuinely wondering why you took your 20 year old son to the dentist with your 8 year old son. Why did he need to be there?

I get told the same thing. I’m 50, and I often get told ‘“wow, you don’t look FIFTY!!” As though it’s some bad thing to look 50. Or even worse “oh my gosh, you look AMAAAAZING for FIFTY!!” Which I find particularly rude.

I usually say something along the lines of “oh I get told that quite a lot, I’m trying not to thank people for saying it as I don’t think it’s a compliment to look younger is it it’s just a fact”

If I’m feeling particularly salty I’ll say something like, “younger people are generally not as wise as me, so why would it be a compliment to look stupider than I am?”
but I’m trying to get out of that habit as although I don’t think anyone’s taken offence (I do say it quite jovially, not how it looks written down) I worry about the sensitivities of younger people and one day I’ll offend someone! 😂

The human body has some very distinct jumps in terms of ageing. The next one for you is also considered one of the most dramatic - 40-45. So you probably won’t have this for too much longer. After that the next ones are 60 and 75.

I get it a lot too…especially when people find out how old my kids are they say “ooh you must have started early!” (I was 30 when I had my first 😂)

I used to get a bit embarrassed and didn’t know what to say but now I’ve started telling anyone who asks that I was a child bride.

I also openly admit to my Botox use (if asked about my age directly)

It happens to me a lot but I don't mind. If I do want to be taken seriously/have my experience acknowledged then I drop my age/experience into conversation. I talk about being an 80s child, or a 90s teen, or what my industry was like when I started 20 years ago.

I kind of have this, I’m 45, but think people are always surprised that I’m not 35. For example I’ve been at my current job for five years and I mentioned to a colleague I was at my old job for 15 years and they did a big double take! And people are often surprised I have teenaged children. However I’m very aware from threads like this that this is very likely to change dramatically in the next five years or so!

I just say thank you and move on. Not much that you can do about other peoples ideas of what you should look like at a certain age.

I think that I very much look my age, especially since turning 45 (I feel like I aged overnight which was a shock). I mostly get it now when I talk about my dgc.

I'm 51 and a grandparent to a 3yo. I think i look my age, but sometimes get mistaken for her mum. I dont think i look any younger than people I went to school with or worked with of a similar age, so either we all look young or look our age and younger people don't know what a 50 year old is 'supposed' to look like.

I think the problem is because we are so
used to hearing we look much younger, we take it for granted and don’t do proper skin care. I started using sunscreen in my 40s, and recently I noticed 2 small dark patches.

Maybe ask ChatGPT for a routine. Some
people swear by face yoga. Looks so tedious though.

I get this too. I always got it. I don’t react much, just smile or say thanks if I get compliments on skin.
People are saying this as a compliment, not to insult. There is nothing to be embarrassed.
I was once asked what products I use on my skin. When I responded saying any moisturising even olive oil at times, the lady was so shocked. But honestly it’s genetic. I am
not bragging because I have thinning hair, so there I am definitely aging faster.

I used to be mistaken for much younger , until I hit my 50s, its caught up with me now, saggier skin, jowls, double chin. I look in a mirror and really dislike what I see. I'm another in the 'enjoy it while it lasts' camp.

Say "Buckle up, honey; you're in for a bumpy ride!"

Just say thanks and move on, if they persist just change the subject. I don't think they mean to be rude but they're clearly not seeing how uncomfortable it makes you so if they persist just say can we talk about something else please.