Friend’s reaction to my pregnancy news

Oh come on. The 'friend' was tone deaf, selfish and clearly has previous.
Maybe if friend got called out more she wouldn't hurt people so much with her insensitivity.

I can understand your upset but if you look at it from your friend's viewpoint.
She's had a terrible week. She congratulated you and explained her week. You then didn't respond whatsoever to sympathise. You then sent a complaint message.
This doesn't show you to be a good friend.

Well I have no idea who you are obviously but CONGRATULATUONS - lovely amazing news and I wish you and your partner all the best x

Hmmmm sadly OP you’ve lost the high ground there.

So again, it’s the perennial Mn mystery. ‘I have friends I don’t much like.’

@sarahjane7777 I think I’d have replied to her right away in the group, saying sorry to hear her news and glad your pregnancy news made her feel better because obviously it’s been a strain for you. That would have made it easier for the others. Not helpful I know but I do get how you feel it completely took the shine off your news.

Seems a bit harsh if she’s been admitted to hospital? Especially when you said she’s always supported you

So sorry your friends didn’t put the effort in to celebrate your happy news. I do wonder if they perhaps felt a bit worried about how to respond given your previous loss but even so,
you shared happy news and so they should have celebrated with you.
Anyway, congratulations! I hope you have others in your life who are celebrating your big news.

Out of curiosity, have you responded to her or did you just post the (very fair) call out message?

I find you either need a very large group which are less invested overall where everyone still has tiny little splinter groups or a tiny group full stop.

Once you are in a group of 6/7 there is always someone who is only there because it’s so and so’s friend or well we include them because they are sensitive/don’t have anyone else/life is hard for them. Then there is a side chat without that one person.

Yeah. I neglected to say that of course, to another member of the group, that someone is you (me).

I think social groups can be tricky.

From their behaviour today that person would be the op as they all rushed to the friend with a bad week.

Which sucks to find out.

I'd be disgusted tbh

I think this about social groups...there's always at least one of the group you wouldn't choose to be friends with. Best friends don't come in a handy multi-pack.

Massive congratulations this is fantastic for you. There are always people who have to constantly talk about themselves. There are three in my life and it’s exhausting. She shouldn’t have done that and your other friends were mean for not responding

And congratulations! 😍

Yep! My sister is like this any story you tell she intersects and over talks with a similar story about herself or someone she knows its very frustrating! But we cant change the way these people are unfortunately.

She sounds fucking insufferable. I loathe people like this and have one in one of my friendship groups. I don't know if they just lack any social skills or simply don't care about anyone elses lives. I would cut her out but that would probably mean never seeing the others again.

Congratulations OP, wonderful news and I've no doubt you deserve it 💐

The thing is, this is not only all that to you, but you’ve told them this, they know how difficult it’s been and they still glossed over it.

Everyone making out OP’s news is run of the mill etc to a group chat is wild! From what I can make out, these are a supposedly tight group of friends, always in touch, all good.

OP announces a major life milestone on the chat, to be met with a v low key congrats from one; who straight away brushed over it and talked about herself, then the other supposed besties, just ignored OPs amazing news, nothing back?! Id be gutted. My friends were lovely and soo happy for me when I told them I was pregnant, felt really special.

I have had sad times, illness etc but when a friend announced a pregnancy I was genuinely happy for them, and kept back any problems I was having and let them bask in the limelight and rightly so

I wouldn’t be annoyed at the friend who actually congratulated you, even if she spoke about herself afterwards.

But I would be extremely upset about no one else bothering to congratulate you!
They can acknowledge the other friends problems as well as your pregnancy.

There must be a back story to this, more than they simply don’t like you.

Have you had multiple pregnancy scares before?
Do they all say congratulations and then you end up losing it?

I always see threads where the OP asks if posters can see the almost invisible line on the pregnancy test and multiple posters say yes and congratulations mummy etc and it’s shocking to me because these OPs are desperate for a baby and saying congratulations almost confirms it in their head.

I wonder if it’s anything like that - I can’t think of any other reason why they wouldn’t congratulate you.

Well massive congratulations from me! We also had a shite time trying to have our first and it was nerve wracking and amazing in equal measure when I got to this stage. It takes it out of you announcing it. I wish you a very boring healthy uneventful rest of your pregnancy 💐