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bullinchina · 27/08/2026 11:15

recently, my DD missed her firm choice (rg in our city) but still wanted to stay at home, so cleared into the old polytechnic in our city. With the news that grad jobs have dropped by 50 % in one year, i feel so scared that she has no chances of getting a job. We cant afford resits and shes finding it extremely difficult to find the standard part time jobs anyway. What can she do to better her chances?

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Winglessvulture · 27/08/2026 13:43

She should work hard in her degree and aim to get the best grade she can. That's what she can control.

There are sometimes opportunities for part time work at universities themselves, i.e. helping in the library, bar work at the Union etc, assisting at open days. In addition, it's possible that some of her modules might offer the opportunity to undertake a placement, and if that is the case it might be worth exploring that.

Three years is a long time, and the job market might look quite different by then. I would try not to worry about it now, and instead focus on building her confidence as much as possible.

Needmorelego · 27/08/2026 13:38

bullinchina · 27/08/2026 13:23

So shes been applying to retail jobs and admin jobs eg gp receptionist. Basically any job that’s suitable on the nhs jobs website. what other jobs could she apply for? It seems that a degree is the minimum these days, even if its not explicitly stated on the posting

It depends on what industry is available where you live.
You definitely don't need a degree for factory or warehouse work.
I can't suggest anything specific because I don't know where you live.
Can she drive?
There's loads of jobs she can do if she can drive.

MojoMoon · 27/08/2026 13:36

Also don't just look at retail and admin. They tend to be in higher demand. Catering, hospitality, cleaning etc is a good route. First job isn't for life but showing that she is employable, has the right attitude and gets the job done whatever it is.

Pub chains, restaurant chains,.indeed.com, staffing agencies for catering are worth looking at. They take on a lot of Xmas staff. It might not start until November but at least she would have one sorted.

AnonyMumAuDHD · 27/08/2026 13:32

bullinchina · 27/08/2026 11:28

Studying psychology but unsure what to do after she’s thinking of maybe pursuing clinical or educational psychology or perhaps law, but she’s moving away from law now

Try not to woryy about work - the job situation for her is 3-6 years down the line! And she will be living at home and in much less debt than many of her peers.

Re the course: this is great as so long as she is on a BPS accredited course she will be eligible for the clinical psych doctorate courses. Her A level results will be irrelevant by then - she just needs to focus on her degree and find some relevant voluntary work to shore up her application for post grad training (they will want to see things like citizens advice, training to do telephone support at the Samaritans, MIND etc, some youth work - perhaps via Guides or a local youth club etc).

She will also likely find that once her Cv has some voluntary work on it, she will more likely get a local PT job at somewhere like Tesco/Waitrose etc because she will have shown herself willing to knuckle down and reliable and dependable. Friends whose children did the supermarket route all ended up with graduate jobs, and those jobs were heavily focused on in interviews, because they demonstrated that they were willing to get their hands dirty and work side by side with people from all walks of life - also v important experience for an aspiring psychologist.

She has done really well - my DS also missed his preferred uni by one grade and is now at a local uni doing a course he was previously unaware of but is actually better than what he’s applied for. As it’s local (10miles away) he also has friends going - he’s over the moon as he is in a better place. Try not to see it as a disaster and try not to worry about the future. Things tend to happen for a reason and work out for the best. Keep positive and she will be remain so too.

MojoMoon · 27/08/2026 13:30

The GP receptionist jobs aren't going to people because they have degrees but because they have relevant work experience. A 22 year old grad has probably worked in retail or in a bar or in some admin or customer service job - that is what got them this job, not the degree. It's just more life experience.

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bullinchina · 27/08/2026 13:23

Needmorelego · 27/08/2026 12:18

If she doesn't know what she wants to "do" with regards to a career is it really worth paying out for university at this time?
There are likely plenty of jobs she could possibly get now (other than retail) that she might not have even thought of.
It all depends on the industry where you live. Many former "factory" towns don't have factories anymore but they have the distribution or packing warehouses.
I was very unaware of what industry was actually in my hometown when I was 18 so I missed out on potentially 100s of jobs that were out there.
If she wants a job she needs to look beyond the local shopping centre.
She can still go to university in a few years time if that's what she wants.

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So shes been applying to retail jobs and admin jobs eg gp receptionist. Basically any job that’s suitable on the nhs jobs website. what other jobs could she apply for? It seems that a degree is the minimum these days, even if its not explicitly stated on the posting

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GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 27/08/2026 13:20

When I went to uni I wanted to work in counter terrorism. Did IR with quantitate methods, wrote my diss in a CT related field, pursued learning Arabic… I thought I was gonna be head of MI5 or something.

Now I’m a Maths tutor primarily working with SEN and home educated kids from my multicoloured sensory friendly home office… worlds away from what I thought I’d do - not an armed police officer in sight. Let her do what she wants, if she ends up as a psychologist that’s amazing! Chances are though she will end up doing something totally different. What she wants to do could change a lot in three years.

bullinchina · 27/08/2026 13:20

Eudaimonia11 · 27/08/2026 13:15

She’s better off speaking to recent graduates in her subject for up to date advice. What’s worked for them? What would they do differently if they could go back?

If she’s interested in a career as a psychologist, she could check out Dr Marianne Trent on YouTube.

We dont know any recent graduates, although shes talked about an app called linked in that she uses to connect with people? Shes the first person to finish education in our family and wider circle of friends as many of our family is illiterate (we are afghan). I feel so bad i cant help her, shes figuring it out basically all herself whilst being a young carer as well

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bullinchina · 27/08/2026 13:17

Catza · 27/08/2026 12:59

OT is a good option with some caveats. Band 5 jobs are plentiful but anything above that is mostly centered around big cities. I am band 7 in a niche specialism and I am holding onto my job for dear life because there just isn't anything in my local area to transition into. lt is also much more difficult to transition into private practice as there is very little awareness of what OT is and, therefore, less demand. So there will always be a salary cap.
Pediatric or neuro OT is virtually impossible to get into because they don't employ band 5 and want someone with "experience" and the only way to get that experience is to spend years doing some obscure rotation post praying that you don't end up stuck orthopedics or wheelchair services for three years before your paeds rotation comes about.
Physio, on the other hand are much more flexible in terms of private work. Nursing is much more in demand across services and, especially, MH nursing.
All of this needs some considerable thought which is hard when you are 18 and have no experience with the service.
OP, did your daughter look into employment as an HCA? There is always shortage and it may give her some ideas on what would be a good clinical path for her. She can do it as bank while she is studying too.

Hmm ill tell her to research OT. We do live in a big city, and obviously she wont want to live at home forver so she can move where the money is. There are many many reasons why shes staying at home, but a minor one is that she wants to save up as much money as possible for the future, possibly to pay for her masters

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Eudaimonia11 · 27/08/2026 13:15

She’s better off speaking to recent graduates in her subject for up to date advice. What’s worked for them? What would they do differently if they could go back?

If she’s interested in a career as a psychologist, she could check out Dr Marianne Trent on YouTube.

bullinchina · 27/08/2026 13:14

Tessasanderson · 27/08/2026 13:08

All sounds too blah for me.

She wants to work but hasnt tried very hard. She wants to get a apprenticeship but its too hard. She wants to do a degree but hasnt got any idea what she wants after. You are worried that there isnt going to be anything lined up for her after......you are right, there are hundreds of thousands of kids with similar intelligence pushing every door they can to get work, get experience and get applications in for whatever opportunity they can.

wants to work but hasnt tried very hard- i said she didnt try very hard whilst in sixth form. Over the a level summer shes been trying very hard indeed

apprenticeship- when have i said she wants a apprenticeship? I said the opposite, she doesnt want one because it specialises too early. I was simply stating that getting apprenticeships arent as easy as its portrayed on mumsnet, its very competitive and shouldnt be treated as a back ip option

i didnt realise she had to have her whole life planned out after her degree? She also does have some idea - to do a masters, get some work experience, then hopefully phd. Shes also hoping to do a placement year.

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bullinchina · 27/08/2026 13:08

Happymchappyface · 27/08/2026 12:47

How far off her grades was she and why does she want to stay at home?

Perhaps not going to uni this and reapplying next with grades in hand might help.

Alongside a paid job she could get some relevant work experience, volunteer with anything related to mental health.

Also perhaps broaden her options, not just the uni in your city.

3 grades off, although there were some extenuating circumstances throughout her y13 (yc and mh issues) she also isnt very suited at traditional testing and instead does better at coursework

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Tessasanderson · 27/08/2026 13:08

All sounds too blah for me.

She wants to work but hasnt tried very hard. She wants to get a apprenticeship but its too hard. She wants to do a degree but hasnt got any idea what she wants after. You are worried that there isnt going to be anything lined up for her after......you are right, there are hundreds of thousands of kids with similar intelligence pushing every door they can to get work, get experience and get applications in for whatever opportunity they can.

YouHaveAnArse · 27/08/2026 13:07

SewYellowLikeButter · 27/08/2026 12:00

She will be fine. Employers don’t really care what uni you went to unless it was Oxbridge. The classification of degree is what they look at alongside subject, work experience, internships and volunteering, projects etc.

She needs to do some great extra/supracurriculars and be a hard working well rounded candidate.

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Lots of employers do completely blind recruitment now when it comes to anything that may introduce bias into the hiring process - when I've applied for CS jobs you have to submit a CV without the name of your university/schools on there as well as name, age etc. So I do wonder whether in some cases it will matter a lot less than it used to.

Fifthtimelucky · 27/08/2026 13:03

The key thing with psychology degrees is whether or not they are accredited by the British Psychology Society.

As long as this new course is accredited, your daughter should be fine.

Catza · 27/08/2026 12:59

redfishcat · 27/08/2026 12:43

Tell her to train as an OT, much more of a career path and far more likely not actually work with people with MH problems than someone with just a psychology degree. Competition for training for clinical psychology is bonkers competitive. And takes years more study =not earning
OT is only three years and the NHS will always need them, so when this blip is over she will get a job.

OT is a good option with some caveats. Band 5 jobs are plentiful but anything above that is mostly centered around big cities. I am band 7 in a niche specialism and I am holding onto my job for dear life because there just isn't anything in my local area to transition into. lt is also much more difficult to transition into private practice as there is very little awareness of what OT is and, therefore, less demand. So there will always be a salary cap.
Pediatric or neuro OT is virtually impossible to get into because they don't employ band 5 and want someone with "experience" and the only way to get that experience is to spend years doing some obscure rotation post praying that you don't end up stuck orthopedics or wheelchair services for three years before your paeds rotation comes about.
Physio, on the other hand are much more flexible in terms of private work. Nursing is much more in demand across services and, especially, MH nursing.
All of this needs some considerable thought which is hard when you are 18 and have no experience with the service.
OP, did your daughter look into employment as an HCA? There is always shortage and it may give her some ideas on what would be a good clinical path for her. She can do it as bank while she is studying too.

stopbeingnasty · 27/08/2026 12:54

DeftGoldHedgehog · 27/08/2026 12:03

Is there a reason why she has not tried to get work before now?

DD1 is 21 and going into her third year at university and has been working for five years. She worked full time for a year before going to university.

DD2 is 17, would be going into Y13 next month but has AuADHD and is definitely done with education for the time being anyway and has been working for a year.

I've always though getting a job was just as important as education, particularly for DD2 who is not into studying.

This response is so braggy... there could be a plethora of reasons why and your children aren't better than hers just because they work.

Happymchappyface · 27/08/2026 12:47

How far off her grades was she and why does she want to stay at home?

Perhaps not going to uni this and reapplying next with grades in hand might help.

Alongside a paid job she could get some relevant work experience, volunteer with anything related to mental health.

Also perhaps broaden her options, not just the uni in your city.

redfishcat · 27/08/2026 12:43

Tell her to train as an OT, much more of a career path and far more likely not actually work with people with MH problems than someone with just a psychology degree. Competition for training for clinical psychology is bonkers competitive. And takes years more study =not earning
OT is only three years and the NHS will always need them, so when this blip is over she will get a job.

Butchyrestingface · 27/08/2026 12:31

bullinchina · 27/08/2026 12:10

to be a educational psychologist, you need a BPS accredited degree, so she cant just get a TA job and start from there.

yes ive seen that, but im presuming its without further study? She loves learning, so she is planning to get a masters and potentially a phd in the future

PP means, working as a TA and studying to become a teacher through on-the-job training.

As opposed to spend 3-4 years at uni during a psychology BA and then a postgraduate PGCE/PGDE in teaching.

Feelinglow2026 · 27/08/2026 12:30

She could consider doing teaching for a few years after her pysch degree before moving into further training for educational psychology.
She could do a route like TeachFirst and get paid to do teacher training.

Spanglemum02 · 27/08/2026 12:28

If the course is accredited by the BPS and she works hard, goong to a post-92 university won't make amy difference.

She doesn't need to know what she's going to do afterwards. Psychology degrees can lead to lots of things. E. G. Statisitcians in Civil Service; social work.

NearlyNewNonny · 27/08/2026 12:25

What A levels did she take? DD is at a good RG university studying an integrated Masters in mathematical physics. She has her eye on a specific career and is doing everything to secure it including Summer internships. Even with all that she is very aware of the job market at the moment, even though AI will not affect that career.
DD gained grade As in her A levels in physics, maths and chemistry. She already works tutoring GCSE pupils and has told us that if her career doesn't pan out she will take a PGCE and teach physics or maths.

SoftIce · 27/08/2026 12:23

Does her ex-polytechnic have good links with industry? Maybe look into occupational therapy: she could do an apprenticeship with the NHS, or an undergraduate degree (or a degree apprenticeship if your ex-poly offers it - some do) or a master's after her psychology undergraduate. An apprenticeship would be cheapest but I appreciate that apprenticeships are really hard to get.

FieryA · 27/08/2026 12:21

Polytechnics do not exist anymore. They are Universities in fheir own right, with many of them having fantastic education and student support. I say this with personal experience, having studied in them. Don't breed such unnecessary biases and worries in your head, which will in turn negatively affect your young daughter. Why is her chance of a part-time job higher in a red brick or RG, than at a post-92? For her future prospects, she needs a BPS accredited degree. During her education, she can seek support from the careers services or her tutors on part time jobs she can pursue. She is at the start of an exciting journey, why all this negativity?