AIBU to think friend’s question was fair?

Not ones covered in Make up, that have husband and kids, no. Certainly not child nuns.

Being obtuse in order to miss the point. Hey ho.

Ever heard of nuns?

I missed the bit where this man issued a death threat to the OP and her friend. Can you point it out?

I’m not comparing the two religions or their clothing. I am asking as a Muslim man, do they have to be fully committed to the rules. Or is there believer’s who take some parts and leave other parts. Is there free will?
Can you attend the mosque in go for a pint?

Do catholics make women dress like shameful anomalies? Catholicism doesn’t have an equivalent presence in the world. You are comparing two very very very very different things.

Do practicing Muslims have to stick to all
the rules. I am a practicing Catholic, far from devout. I have my own interpretation of the rules. Definitely broke a few of the main ones, those without sin cast the first stone.

It’s the noli mi tangere of Muslim ideology that causes the stringency. Hindus don’t issue death threats to artists that don’t flatter them. Let’s not pretend these religions have the same kind of presence or character in the world.

Do you call Hindus who eat meat and Jews who eat pork hypocrites too?

Why mention it in the first place if its something you don't want to talk about, nobody asked them

You friend outed a hypocrite. I'd say that was a job well done except for the backpedaling. I'd have kept at it like a dog with a rabbit.

Weird, rude and intrusive question. If they were drinking alcohol, why even ask?

Religion has so many nuances, one persons "devout" is not the same as the next.

People's interpretations and following of religious "rules" differs too. It doesn't (or it shouldn't) detract from how they feel in their heart and soul.

If its inappropriate to ask, out of confusion, because he was drinking, how was it appropriate for him to mention it in the first place? Who the hell volunteers their religious beliefs in the opening sentences of a conversation about language. Did anyone else say stuff like, ' I'm Jonathan I speak German and I'm a protestant. He offered totally irrelevant information, why should he get offended about curiosity about it.

The OP is talking about some casual chit chat in a bar with some men who had not expressed any views on the reproductive rights of women in the US. The soapbox doesn't have to come out on every occasion.

It’s an awkward question. Firstly, it’s overly personal given the situation, so awkward in the same way that asking someone details about their income or clothing size etc would be uncomfortable. It’s just not something you ask someone in casual conversation.

It’s also an awkward question because there is currently a lot of anti-Muslim prejudice, it’s not surprising that a Muslim who has previously faced prejudice might be extra aware of any pointed questions about their religion.

As others have pointed out it also seems quite judgy, different people practice/don’t practice religion in their own way. People who were raised in a particular religion but whom don’t adhere to all of the customs might feel guilty about the bits they don’t follow for whatever reason, so bringing that up on a random night out just seems a bit much.

I think YABU.

No, they were asking the men what languages they spoke and where they were from, which makes that a perfectly normal thing to say

@Dontasksillyquestions I don't like homophobia, or being told I'm a second class citizen. I don't agree with any culture holding on to child rape, because it's traditional. If that's having a chip on my shoulder, I'll own it.

@Packofsix they didn't ask what religion the men were, it was the men who chose to tell them. Where does that fit into normal?

You have a weird chip on your shoulder. The question would have been just as inappropriate coming from a man. It wasn’t the OP’s friend’s place to question how he practices his faith. What is she, the religious police?

Women in America are having to just that. Supposed Christian men are making reproductive laws, when the rest of that man's life, isn't lived as a devout Christian. Let's not pretend that men's choice of religion doesn't get used to beat women down. The religion of choice, in this case, was used as a identity marker, yet they are standing there doing something against that religion, we don't have to ignore it. Although as women, we shouldn't question men, would be their stance.

It isn’t similar at all and you know why they were offended. You know it. I would also be interested in knowing in what ‘100’ conversations you ever had the need to say ‘I’m Catholic.’ As most normal people don’t go around asking what religion people are

Yes, it is a super weird question and you and your friend are absolutely the AH’s. Would you ask someone in a bar if they were practicing catholics? No you wouldn’t. Get a grip

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There’s no need to generalise, this is about one particular interaction.

Politics and religion should be left out of polite conversation. It’s weird to question someone’s religion in a social setting, especially when you’ve just met. There can be any number of reasons why he was drinking. Maybe he’s questioning his faith and has difficulty coming to terms with it, maybe he’s a hypocrite, or maybe he’s really an atheist but can’t come out to his family and friends. Doesn’t make it ok for a stranger to challenge him.

They probably felt guilty about the beer