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AIBU to consider moving to Scotland because I cannot cope with heat?

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bobdylanlover · 26/08/2026 19:32

I can't stand the heat. I holiday pretty much only in snowy places, some of which get dark very early. I have not coped well this summer. I also have a heart problem that isn't helped by hot weather. It's making me seriously consider moving to Scotland. My mum and dad, in their 70s, are somewhat open to also making the move with us - we are close emotionally and geographically and they wouldn't want to be away from my daughter.

The problem is this. I have lived within the same 10 miles for the majority of my nearly 40 years of existence (aside from uni, and living in Europe 3 times briefly). We have good friends here, it's a nice area, we have a lovely home. A nice primary school round the corner etc. Good neighbours. Parents round the corner. We both are happy in our work and can work remotely. Nothing is technically 'wrong' aside from how hot the summers are becoming. For example, there were loads of local things I didn't go to/do this summer because it was too hot.

I feel sick at the thought of leaving everything and jumping into the unknown. But part of me doesn't want to live and die within the same 10 miles anyway. I feel like I've exhausted almost everything here. I can't think of anywhere new to go any more and I find that utterly depressing.

My partner and I have always loved Scotland. Always. The nature and the space, the friendly people. So it's not an idea plucked out of thin air. It's been something that I've wondered about on/off for years.

Is it normal to feel so sick at the prospect of making such a big move? If I stay here will I regret not having tried it? Do you think the weather (and writing off 3 months each summer) is reason enough to do this? I can't settle on one idea. Sometimes I just think it's easier to do nothing but everything suggests that hot summers are going to be our new 'normal'.

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Frillysweetpea · 27/08/2026 21:56

DJKATIE · 27/08/2026 18:19

Scotland is stunningly beautiful but oh the super midges when near water are horrendous. We had to come home from a caravan holiday early as we all had well over a 100 bites each.

Why didn't you move the caravan to one of the many, many parts of Scotland that do not have midges?!

ElectricLegs · 27/08/2026 22:26

Try Avon Skin So Soft. The midges don't like it. I don't sell Avon by the way! Alternatively drink loads of bitter lemon. It contains quinine, which they don't like either. Don't wear dark coloured clothes as they are attracted to that. If none of that helps get a head net. You will look a proper fool, but you will be the unbitten one.

I should have mentioned the Moray Coast for a great climate. Very touristy in the summer though and a lot of the houses have been snapped up for holiday lets. Good for tourists but leaves some of the villages like ghost towns/villages out of season. The area is fairly flat so great for cycling. There is a disused railway line to cycle along, which connects up to other cycling routes. Portsoy is worth a visit for the ice cream - Turkish Delight ice cream - wonderful. Go to Cullen for Cullen Skink soup.

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 27/08/2026 22:27

Scotland is a very underrated beautiful country but parts of it can be very, very cold and wet.

Think about an extended holiday or rental stay near the coast. For a more than a few months before you move

Och th' noo!
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Sahara123 · 27/08/2026 22:41

WinterTreacle · 27/08/2026 21:38

Had a quote for 4-5K to get air conditioning for our south facing rooms upstairs and downstairs - cheaper than moving!

Don’t you want to go outside occasionally? I spent lots of time in my garden this summer, in Scotland, and without being devoured by midges - in fact in 30 years I’ve rarely seen one ! I swear I live in a different Scotland to half the posters here, it’s been warm and sunny, no midges, it’s not dark for 6 months of the year and I haven’t had heating on for months ! If anything I’d like slightly colder winters in my bit, frosty mornings, and some snow , we only had one day of a light covering last winter.

MaidOfSteel · 27/08/2026 22:42

Aussiesgettingsmashed · 26/08/2026 22:32

One that hates the English.

Absolutely. It’s called ‘ABE.’ Anyone but England.
It’s worst in the Glasgow area.

hotmumshit · 27/08/2026 22:42

Yanbu, Edinburgh calls me by name

Dynababy · 27/08/2026 23:07

We Scots need others to stay put, we need to space to ourselves soz!!

RafaFan · 27/08/2026 23:09

MyNeedyLilacBird · 26/08/2026 20:10

God no my husband and I are moving out of scotland. Thiugh we are central belt and it prettys much a dump. SNP have run it into the ground. The long miserable dark winters and pretty much wet summers- we've had it. Went down south and it was glorious. lovely heat! You get the odd warm day or week but nothing consistent

I have family members who have moved out of Scotland to England because of the mess the SNP have made. Scots born and bred, and they didn't recognise it anymore, utterly fed up with the divisiveness of the whole independence debate.

Utterlybutter · 27/08/2026 23:35

RafaFan · 27/08/2026 23:09

I have family members who have moved out of Scotland to England because of the mess the SNP have made. Scots born and bred, and they didn't recognise it anymore, utterly fed up with the divisiveness of the whole independence debate.

The SNP have ruined Scotland. I don't personally know anyone that votes for them, but some people obviously do.

So ashamed to be Scottish sometimes because of SNP (Sturgeon, Humza and now Swinney) plus the whole gang of acolytes. AND their bedfollows, the (even more) perverted Green Party.

SALaw · 27/08/2026 23:37

scotlandundersiege · 26/08/2026 19:46

North wales? Northern Ireland?

Why them? She said she likes Scotland?

SALaw · 27/08/2026 23:39

giddyboo · 26/08/2026 21:25

I understand as I hate the heat but isn't Scotland full of midges.

Yes right up to the brim

HellsBells13 · 27/08/2026 23:40

Move to Northumberland it's great as a Liverpudlian it is great for climate I cannot be more ecstatic!

CypressGrove · 27/08/2026 23:43

bobdylanlover · 26/08/2026 19:55

Thanks for your comment. I've been during the Autumn and winter before and I prefer it. I really don't mind a cold and darker climate.

But is it just you moving- you mentioned parents and a daughter? What does you daughter think of the colder and darker climate?

Dublassie · 27/08/2026 23:45

I love Scotland and especially the Scottish people . They are the nicest , most friendly people I have ever come across. Have been to Edinburgh a few times and St. Andrews many times . It was so lovely and cool this summer . Beautiful place !

FiveTwoFaster · 28/08/2026 00:25

Differentforgirls · 27/08/2026 16:06

In what way is it “fucked”?

Scotland can’t afford anything because it has promised too much. But their drugs deaths are very high - social housing is in crisis, their hate laws mean in theory you can get 7 years’ in prison for the wrong opinion which is biologically accurate, additional rate tax is the highest in the union for a crappy return.

fewer GPs, fewer schools - I could go on but I can’t be bothered. Scotland has some pretty walks but between the rain and the moronic government you’d be mad to buy a house there (Christ knows the heating cost of it).

RhubarbCrumble12345 · 28/08/2026 03:57

I live in central belt of Scotland and if I was you I would be doing the same. I couldn't handle some of the temps the south have been getting recently. Mind you it has been hot this summer and that was hot enough for me. Some people love to moan saying we have wet summers too, we just had a long spell from march to June with which had less than half the average rainfall and hot temps for weeks on end this summer! Short memories!

The winters are becoming more mild here too, wet and windy which is a shame instead of snow but if you like cooler climes I would go for it. Plenty of nice places depending on what you like. Enjoy!

RhubarbCrumble12345 · 28/08/2026 04:00

SALaw · 27/08/2026 23:39

Yes right up to the brim

Maybe if you live by a lake or the forest but I don't have many midges that bother me in my wee village 😂 can't remember the last time I even had a midgie bite.

SALaw · 28/08/2026 05:17

RhubarbCrumble12345 · 28/08/2026 04:00

Maybe if you live by a lake or the forest but I don't have many midges that bother me in my wee village 😂 can't remember the last time I even had a midgie bite.

I was being sarcastic because it’s laughable that this person has an impression of Scotland being full of midges. I live in Edinburgh and am generally untroubled by them.

bobdylanlover · 28/08/2026 06:35

Reading some of the comments, I'm reminded why I don't want to re-locate to England! Not all, I should add.

If Scotland is so terribly bad - a dark, midge-filled hell - why hasn't everyone left and moved South?

I've spent a lot of time in places that get dark at 3pm. And I know rain, having lived in Wales for most of my life. I also know heat, having lived in Southern Europe 3 times. And I detested that climate in the summer months.

The aircon suggestion is of course one solution but the heat has been so bad that I've missed many of the local events that were once a staple of my summer. Even when I went to the beach I had to stay under the umbrella for the entire time to avoid the scorching 30plus heat. If this is the way it's going, it means months that are 'tolerated' and essentially written off instead of being able to enjoy the outdoors.

I believe the East coast of Scotland has many more days of sun (but not hot sun) than South Wales does.

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DaffodilValley · 28/08/2026 07:15

AgnesMcDoo · 26/08/2026 21:56

It’s not been higher than 25C on my part of Fife - and that was only for a few days.

Mostly it’s been below 20C

It has been over 30C in my part of Fife for several days so far this year. It’s over 90% humidity as well.

Differentforgirls · 28/08/2026 08:02

MaidOfSteel · 27/08/2026 22:42

Absolutely. It’s called ‘ABE.’ Anyone but England.
It’s worst in the Glasgow area.

That’s football banter.

Frillysweetpea · 28/08/2026 08:04

I think moving makes a lot of sense for you, @OP. It's not difficult to avoid midges and some of the (relatively) hotter spots such as the Moray coast. Even the hotter places are probably fine as we're talking odd days, not the relentless, scorching heat that further South has endured for weeks. You obviously can cope with rain and dark Winter days. You just need to do a bit of research to get the lifestyle you want. Central belt will be much like many places further South with access to multiple urban areas. Further North you have a choice to live very or moderately rurally, relative to the few bigger cities and the market towns. Even the very rural places are served by supermarket deliveries now so it's not like it was when my parents relocated over 50 years ago. Yes, there will be things you miss and a lot of moves create temporary homesickness but I think it could be just what you need and very exciting - good luck!

Differentforgirls · 28/08/2026 08:04

Utterlybutter · 27/08/2026 23:35

The SNP have ruined Scotland. I don't personally know anyone that votes for them, but some people obviously do.

So ashamed to be Scottish sometimes because of SNP (Sturgeon, Humza and now Swinney) plus the whole gang of acolytes. AND their bedfollows, the (even more) perverted Green Party.

21 years in Government so people “obviously” do. Well done for calling a whole group of people “perverts” though. Such a charmer..

Differentforgirls · 28/08/2026 08:07

FiveTwoFaster · 28/08/2026 00:25

Scotland can’t afford anything because it has promised too much. But their drugs deaths are very high - social housing is in crisis, their hate laws mean in theory you can get 7 years’ in prison for the wrong opinion which is biologically accurate, additional rate tax is the highest in the union for a crappy return.

fewer GPs, fewer schools - I could go on but I can’t be bothered. Scotland has some pretty walks but between the rain and the moronic government you’d be mad to buy a house there (Christ knows the heating cost of it).

Absolute rubbish.

BlueberryClouds · 28/08/2026 08:08

bobdylanlover · 28/08/2026 06:35

Reading some of the comments, I'm reminded why I don't want to re-locate to England! Not all, I should add.

If Scotland is so terribly bad - a dark, midge-filled hell - why hasn't everyone left and moved South?

I've spent a lot of time in places that get dark at 3pm. And I know rain, having lived in Wales for most of my life. I also know heat, having lived in Southern Europe 3 times. And I detested that climate in the summer months.

The aircon suggestion is of course one solution but the heat has been so bad that I've missed many of the local events that were once a staple of my summer. Even when I went to the beach I had to stay under the umbrella for the entire time to avoid the scorching 30plus heat. If this is the way it's going, it means months that are 'tolerated' and essentially written off instead of being able to enjoy the outdoors.

I believe the East coast of Scotland has many more days of sun (but not hot sun) than South Wales does.

I live in the North East of Scotland. I would move if I could because the weather is so bad and the winter is so long. I cant for simple economic reasons. My house is equivalent in value to a small flat in an English city, my job is tied to the industry up here and my children are in a school here. I dont think you can say, just leave. We have had a very chilly cloudy windy summer this year. Its bleak, it has felt like a mediocre spring day at best most days. There are less seasons here. Also its not very friendly. Fine if you are a tourist but its taken me 20 years to feel accepted. No one will target you for being English but the Scots are very different in outlook and it creates distance. Its a massive move that I wouldn't undertake lightly. UK weather is so variable even with global warming.