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AIBU to consider moving to Scotland because I cannot cope with heat?

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bobdylanlover · 26/08/2026 19:32

I can't stand the heat. I holiday pretty much only in snowy places, some of which get dark very early. I have not coped well this summer. I also have a heart problem that isn't helped by hot weather. It's making me seriously consider moving to Scotland. My mum and dad, in their 70s, are somewhat open to also making the move with us - we are close emotionally and geographically and they wouldn't want to be away from my daughter.

The problem is this. I have lived within the same 10 miles for the majority of my nearly 40 years of existence (aside from uni, and living in Europe 3 times briefly). We have good friends here, it's a nice area, we have a lovely home. A nice primary school round the corner etc. Good neighbours. Parents round the corner. We both are happy in our work and can work remotely. Nothing is technically 'wrong' aside from how hot the summers are becoming. For example, there were loads of local things I didn't go to/do this summer because it was too hot.

I feel sick at the thought of leaving everything and jumping into the unknown. But part of me doesn't want to live and die within the same 10 miles anyway. I feel like I've exhausted almost everything here. I can't think of anywhere new to go any more and I find that utterly depressing.

My partner and I have always loved Scotland. Always. The nature and the space, the friendly people. So it's not an idea plucked out of thin air. It's been something that I've wondered about on/off for years.

Is it normal to feel so sick at the prospect of making such a big move? If I stay here will I regret not having tried it? Do you think the weather (and writing off 3 months each summer) is reason enough to do this? I can't settle on one idea. Sometimes I just think it's easier to do nothing but everything suggests that hot summers are going to be our new 'normal'.

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Adut · 28/08/2026 16:30

Scotland is great if you don’t like heat.

I don’t mind the dark cold winters either and love the rural living aspect.

we were in Scotland and then spent time in Kent and Norfolk before moving back. Not planning to leave again.

ForUmberFinch · 28/08/2026 16:29

You are deluded if you think rain will be your biggest issue. Last winter we had months of snow and I mean proper snow. Villages cut off. Roads closed etc. then we had over a month of torrential rain which was constant. Every “good lifer” who has moved to our area has quickly sold up and left again. Totally different education system. High fuel costs. Loony SNP banging the independence drum. Moving just for cooler weather is just daft

TiredMummma · 28/08/2026 16:27

Rather than a huge move, can you spend summers in Scotland when it’s bad? I’m lucky to be from there and we did 6 week school holidays in Scotland which was great. I can temporarily work remotely though and my DH is a teacher. If you move think where you want to go as every part is very different culturally.

Aubin7 · 28/08/2026 16:18

Depends where you go. Central belt in Scotland was around 30c for most of July. It's also very busy. If you want quiet and colder weather, head for the north of Scotland.

Differentforgirls · 28/08/2026 16:00

MaidOfSteel · 28/08/2026 15:19

For many, it’s about far more than just footie.

Anyone but England is purely football related banter.

There are loads of English people who live here.

MaidOfSteel · 28/08/2026 15:19

Differentforgirls · 28/08/2026 08:02

That’s football banter.

For many, it’s about far more than just footie.

EveryoneUsingOutro · 28/08/2026 14:34

Differentforgirls · 27/08/2026 16:27

I’m in Scotland. Haven’t had my heating on since April

Me neither. Heating usually goes on last week Sept or so. Honestly the ridiculousness of some of these haters is bizarre. It’s 18c with some cloud cover and a mild breeze here today. Totally normal weather.

AspiringDreadfulMiddleAgedWoman · 28/08/2026 14:30

EveryoneUsingOutro · 28/08/2026 14:10

Only in particular areas mostly near wet areas on the west side.

I lived on the east coast for 20+ years and never saw a single midgie, they just don’t exist there.

I can assure you there are midges on the east coast once you go up into Sutherland. Swarms of them who all personally thirsted for my blood when I was a child.

EveryoneUsingOutro · 28/08/2026 14:10

giddyboo · 26/08/2026 21:25

I understand as I hate the heat but isn't Scotland full of midges.

Only in particular areas mostly near wet areas on the west side.

I lived on the east coast for 20+ years and never saw a single midgie, they just don’t exist there.

NancyThompson · 28/08/2026 13:58

Thecatspantaloons · 28/08/2026 13:47

This is it - I'm currently going through the hot flush stage of life, which was so fun during the epic heatwave we've just had 😩 but in general, I get chills quite easily and I think a cold climate would come back to bite me on the arse when I come out the other side.

This is me just now too. Suddenly roasting, rip everything off, freezing two minutes later. Rinse (the sweat off) and repeat.

Thecatspantaloons · 28/08/2026 13:47

NancyThompson · 28/08/2026 11:25

It is - I'm planning a retirement somewhere a lot warmer! Should suit the OP though if she likes it freezing.

This is it - I'm currently going through the hot flush stage of life, which was so fun during the epic heatwave we've just had 😩 but in general, I get chills quite easily and I think a cold climate would come back to bite me on the arse when I come out the other side.

Hyperfix8d · 28/08/2026 13:44

Definitely spend a lengthy period of time here in winter first. Long dark winters are really hard on the mental health SAD is definitely more prevalent than diagnosed.

We also have issues with an aging population - lots of old people retiring and relocating up here for the quiet life but no provisions for adult care. We are in crisis in that respect and it’s only getting much worse following Brexit.

Theres a serious housing crisis just about everywhere, thousands waiting for social housing, rental properties with hundreds of applications, houses selling well in excess of home report value so make sure you consider these issues as well.

NHS Scotland is on its knees and works differently to England so don’t expect a smooth transition if you have ongoing health issues. Expect hideous waiting lists and be prepared to go private.

Differentforgirls · 28/08/2026 13:37

moderate · 28/08/2026 13:04

Which makes your comment about them having 15 seats even sillier.

Stop derailing. You have a whole section to post your hatred of trans people.

moderate · 28/08/2026 13:04

Differentforgirls · 28/08/2026 10:03

No one votes on a single issue.

Which makes your comment about them having 15 seats even sillier.

Reluctantlyonhols · 28/08/2026 11:32

Scottish weather is very suitable if you hate heat, so long as you can afford to escape to slightly warmer climes every now and then. East coast gets less rain than the west in general. The seasonal changes you can observe are compelling too.

NancyThompson · 28/08/2026 11:25

rocklivia · 28/08/2026 11:19

Oh god it's very cold there .

It is - I'm planning a retirement somewhere a lot warmer! Should suit the OP though if she likes it freezing.

rocklivia · 28/08/2026 11:19

NancyThompson · 28/08/2026 11:01

I would recommend the north east, coastal. Not particularly wet, comparible to a lot of England, and not particularly hot at all. Very windy though. Some lovely villages and scenery, quite a lot of English people already established here, and it's overall friendly and welcoming.

Oh god it's very cold there .

NancyThompson · 28/08/2026 11:01

I would recommend the north east, coastal. Not particularly wet, comparible to a lot of England, and not particularly hot at all. Very windy though. Some lovely villages and scenery, quite a lot of English people already established here, and it's overall friendly and welcoming.

Abricot1983 · 28/08/2026 10:57

The summers immediately following 1976 in the UK shifted dramatically from extreme drought and heat to notably cool, unsettled, and wet conditions. 1]
The Shift to Cooler Weather (1977–1978)

  • 1977 summer: Turned out to be one of the coldest and wettening summers of the decade, with below-average mean temperatures and frequent rain, a sharp contrast to the parched fields of 1976. 1]
  • 1978 summer: Remained cool and changeable, failing to produce any significant or sustained warm spells as the jet stream reverted to a more typical, unsettled Atlantic pattern

Hottest summers in Britain

https://www.trevorharley.com/hottest-summers-in-britain.html

MaryLennoxsScowl · 28/08/2026 10:53

the posters going on about wet weather and humidity and midges will be from the west coast - it’s generally dry and windy on the east coast and there are very few midges and they sure as hell don’t bite like the western ones. In Edinburgh you might walk through a cloud of midges on a damp day under trees, and feel like as you passed you might have got one mild bite if unlucky/you didn’t dodge round them. On the west coast, they actively hunt you like killer bees and a whole swarm will settle on you at once and harass the fuck out of you - it is impossible to ignore!

Witchergeralt · 28/08/2026 10:19

I have also thought the same and while the weather seems bliss in the summer, it gets damn cold in the winter. I have family within an easy walk, children, grandchildren etc so for us it's not really feasible.

If you live inland I might suggest a move to the coast, there's a breeze 99% of the time and if it becomes overpowering you can throw yourself headlong into the sea.

Alexbob · 28/08/2026 10:16

We live in NE Scotland and have had a really pleasant summer - we had a couple of really warm days but it peaked at 28 degrees. Having said that, winter was brutal this year. We were snowed in for best part of a month and the schools were closed for a full week after the Christmas school holidays - locally we were calling it "Snowvid". Shops were running out of supplies and we ran out of places to shovel the snow. Then it rained every day for like six weeks and we couldn't remember what the sun looked like!

So the summers are lovely but be prepared for the fact that the winters can be tough and very dark.

Having said all that, my husband is from English south coast and his parents moved up here to be near us. They all love the vibe here and would rather be here even with the winter.

Frillysweetpea · 28/08/2026 10:10

HarrietHedgehog · 28/08/2026 08:10

Before you make a final decision, make a list of the pros and cons. I can’t stand the heat either and spent almost a month on “house arrest” this summer. I also live near the UK’s rainiest city. If I moved, I would miss the theatres and museums, first-class NHS provision at all levels, better than average transport provision, choice of schools, etc. Have you thought about the midges? Can you understand the accent? What about the different law and education systems etc.
Just get air con and hibernate for three
months rather than uproot everyone for a dream which might not work out.

Are you seriously suggesting Scotland has no culture, Scottish accents are unintelligible and midges are everywhere? Your ignorance is showing.

Differentforgirls · 28/08/2026 10:03

moderate · 28/08/2026 09:54

That’a a non-sequitur, but people vote for them because:

  1. Some people agree that males should have access to female spaces.
  2. Many people who aren’t paying attention think the Scottish Greens are a green party, i.e. mainly concerned with environmental issues.

No one votes on a single issue.

bobdylanlover · 28/08/2026 10:02

Blomama · 28/08/2026 09:42

What is it about the heat that you don't like? Have you always been like this or have you become less able to tolerate heat?

I've always been bad at tolerating it but I also have heart problems. The heat makes my heart problems even worse.

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