DH wants to be a teenager, no time for me… aibu?

Seriously op, this is bad.

stop looking after his children and enabling him for a start. And do not bring a child into this.

he will be a shit dad, he will have no time for you or your kids when you eventually have them. Run. Run fast!

Run, now.

Hmm, I wonder why he split with the mother of his children 🤔 He sounds like a nob.

He can't even be bothered to look after the kids he has, so no don't have anymore with him. He appears to be a poor father and partner.

OMG you’re actually married to this man? 😬

Sorry OP but your taste in men is 💩.

Stop looking after HIS kids.
Stop TTC.
Start divorce proceedings.

Now you know why his relationship with his ex broke up. She probably got fed up with parenting him as well as their kids.

You're his housekeeper, free childcare and bedwarmer. Please don't have a baby with this man. He's not going to reduce his hobbies and his gaming to help look after the new baby - he just won't. I expect if you ask his ex she'll tell you she did 99% of the parenting, housework etc when they were together.

Ditch him and find someone who's actually an adult and ready to be a father. You might hope your partner will change but he won't.

He married you so he can continue to opt out of parenting. What a dick.
DO NOT HAVE A CHILD WITH THIS MAN

Do not have a baby with this man, instead you should run! He treats you like free childcare, please put yourself first OP.

What have I just read? Do not think of having a baby with this selfish manchild! Good god even my 18yr old son would be more responsible.

Stop ttc immediately. This dude can't be bothered to parent the kids he already has, much less any more. He's found a bangmaid nanny to take care of his kids for him while he goes to his hobbies and games. He wants to be a teenager again.

You're basically single parenting his kids who are there for custody time with their dad, not his wife. Is this Prince paying child support, be abuse he's sure not spending half his time with his kids.

Do better for yourself.

Can’t believe you and you alone think it’s normal to look after his children 4 nights a week. You need to start going out yourself these 4 days and hopefully you will meet an actual “adult man” not this irresponsible child-man you are with. Do yourself a favour get rid of- he has shown you who he truly is - and you his “nanny”. You must know you deserve better ?

What's the point in your relationship, you hardly see him. He's immature, you can do better than this. He's selfish.

No idea why you’re TTC with him, he doesn’t look after the ones he has now.

Why do you want to have a baby with a dead beat dad ?

seriously is this your level of expectation from a man?

The first thing I would do is be permanently unavailable to look after his children. The second thing I would do is leave

Mon, Tues, Thurs, Fri evenings he was at one of his hobbies and all day Sat and Sun he played video games. And you looked after his kids. He doesn't seem to give much of a fuck about any of you.

OP, it is wild that you're tolerating this. Wild!

Don’t look after his kids for him. Don’t have a baby with him. In fact, get a divorce.

Fucking hell! He saw you coming OP!

Why on earth are you being so passive in this relationship? Find your gumption and tell him to pack his bags! He’s using you…completely and utterly! And you’re letting him!! 🤯

There is only one positive thing in your whole post…that you are ‘trying’ to conceive! Meaning…you haven’t YET conceived with this arsewanker. Ffs stop ‘trying’ and get rid of him.

Do Not Have A Baby With This Absolute Loser Of A Man.

His existing children come to your house to spend time with him, not you. Stop providing him with free childcare, start insisting - if your DC's are here, he be here for them.

Please open your eyes - he's not interested in spending time with you or with his existing children or with any new children he brings into being. At this point he just wants a woman to be his maid, nanny, housekeeper and shag while he continues to live his best teenage life.

If getting you pregnant so that you can't (so easily) leave him is what is required to lock you in as his free childcare, he'll spawn another kid with you. And spend just as little time with it as he does with the existing one and you.

Don't have a child with this man.

1. Stop trying to conceive immediately and get yourself on some really reliable contraception.
2. Stop allowing him to opt out of parenting his existing children 6/7 days that he is supposed to be responsible for them. Just make yourself unavailable by not being there.
3. If, by any miracle, he steps up and demonstrates he can actual be a parent (highly unlikely) then consider counselling before you conceive to ensure he has a basic understanding of what being a responsible parent in a partnership actually means.
4. If he doesn’t step up (likely) then think about if you want to end up being a single parent. Because that is what will happen regardless of your are still married or not.
5. Think about asking his ex why they divorced (I reckon the whole of Mumsnet could have a fairly accurate guess).

Why are you trying to have a child with someone who is busy all the time and leaves you to look after the kids he has already got? Why?

What a miserable time you will have!

Fuck me. Stop ttc with this man child. You are better than this