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AIBU for giving a distressed woman a lift to safety?

54 replies

Shouldihavehelped · 26/08/2026 18:43

Hi, long time poster just name changed for this one.
This morning on my way to work lady walked in front of my car waving her hands about 5am in the morning. She was very upset and told me her boyfriend destroyed her phone and attacked her. She asked for a lift to a friend's house and was struggling to speak with how upset she was. I let her get in my car and took her to a friend's house. I then went to work as normal.

This is my AIBU my colleagues told me I was gullible and it could have been very dangerous. She could have stolen my car, my phone, my money. Could have been a kidnapping etc. My mum said the same aswell. I don't regret helping her, I've watched my dash cam footage since coming home and could hear the panic in her voice. She could have been hit by a car or even kidnapped herself. So was I unreasonable for what I did.

Yabu: should have ignored the woman and continued on my day.

Yanbu: did the right thing helping.

OP posts:
WildlyInappropriate · 26/08/2026 18:46

This is a well-known ploy for carjacking and robbery - an accomplice waits out of sight and then jumps in.

Clearly your lady was genuine though, unless she took something from you that you haven’t noticed yet.

You were quite naive - it could well have ended differently.

In this situation I would have called 999 for her.

edited for clarity

fumingrightnow1 · 26/08/2026 18:45

To anyone who is uncomfortable don't just ignore, you don't need to actually let the woman in your car but at the least please call 999

Luckydog7 · 26/08/2026 18:45

Agree but op. There's no point in questioning it now. You did a good thing and nothing bad happend to you.

fumingrightnow1 · 26/08/2026 18:44

Of course its a risk but everything is a risk. Sometimes you just have to follow your gut. I would of done the same