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Dogs in restaurants - I am done!

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Doseofreality · 26/08/2026 16:06

The hill that I will die on. Dogs should not be allowed in eating establishments.

Just had another lunch spoilt as a family came in with 3, yes 3, large dogs and sat down at the table beside us. It’s gross, unhygienic and anti social. If I wanted to eat surrounded by animals I’d grab a takeaway and go and sit in a vet’s waiting room.

Close to £100 wasted on a lunch where I had a dog licking it’s bumhole in my line of vision.

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ovals · 28/08/2026 14:58

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 28/08/2026 14:42

You don't see dog owners walking their dogs because you're in the cafe stuffing cake too.

Not content with staring at dog and owners in cafes, she’s tracking them outside too.

Honestly you’ll all be so much happier if you concentrate on your own lives.

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 28/08/2026 14:42

Gloriia · 28/08/2026 13:56

'In my local town, every cafe/restaurant/pub that allows dogs is thriving. The ones that don't are either closing down, or practically empty whenever I go past'

Really. That is a staggering generalisation. I'll have a go. In my local town the cafes that allow dogs have the same bored, fat, stressed, unhealthy dogs shoved under tables while their owners eat cake. Never see these dog owners on the many popular dog walks nearby, ever.

It's no life for a dog to be on a short lead under a table

For the benefit of a pp aho likes the saying, just because you can does not mean you should.

You don't see dog owners walking their dogs because you're in the cafe stuffing cake too.

ovals · 28/08/2026 14:34

Therewegothen · 28/08/2026 14:30

I generally don't like dogs in eating establishments but it's certainly made going on holiday with the dog easier now that she can go in most places.

😂 I can’t work out what side you’re on. Don’t like it unless it’s convenient? A middle ground.

Therewegothen · 28/08/2026 14:30

I generally don't like dogs in eating establishments but it's certainly made going on holiday with the dog easier now that she can go in most places.

Ally886 · 28/08/2026 14:26

Madamefroufrou · 28/08/2026 13:38

breathtakingly rude and unnecessary post

If rudeness is ever "breathtaking" you are clearly made of sugar 😂

lemoncrisp · 28/08/2026 14:21

Dog lover here but I think restaurants and cafes should be NO DOGS. Pubs? Maybe. Up to management to decide. I would not be offended if I had a dog denied access.

Botanicalf · 28/08/2026 14:16

VulnerableSleeve · 28/08/2026 14:14

Probably because dogs are allowed practically everywhere now?

No they are not.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 28/08/2026 14:15

Balance is important - I am a dog owner and dog lover, and I absolutely agree that there should be dog free establishments for people who don’t want to be around dogs when they eat, and dog friendly establishments too - but there needs to be enough of each, and it needs to be clear to everyone if a place is dog friendly, so people can make an informed choice.

It is also the responsibility of dog owners who do take their dogs to dog friendly places to make sure that they behave well - if your dog can’t behave in a cafe or restaurant, then I’m sorry, but you shouldn’t take them. People will notice and remember one badly behaved dog.

VulnerableSleeve · 28/08/2026 14:14

Mycatmax · 26/08/2026 16:18

Why did you choose a dog friendly eatery?

Probably because dogs are allowed practically everywhere now?

mrsm43s · 28/08/2026 14:04

Frequency · 28/08/2026 13:56

From 10 minutes on Google, I have found The Salt Room, The Coal Shed, Costa, MandS, Burn Orange, and The Ivy in Brighton that do not allow dogs indoors.

I'm really not believing this assertion that it is "impossible" to find somewhere to eat without hordes of dogs wandering the dining rooms.

It's not. The problem isn't that there aren't plenty of dog free venues, because there are, it's that some entitled people want ALL places to be dog free, because that's what they prefer and fuck everyone else.

I will continue to do my research and take my well behaved dog to dog friendly venues as I wish. I will also have the courtesy to leave my dog behind should I be visiting a dog free place. Because I'm not an entitled cunt, and I don't expect the whole world to revolve around me, I'll do my research and respect the rules that the establishment sets without throwing a tantrum.

Botanicalf · 28/08/2026 14:01

Frequency · 28/08/2026 13:56

From 10 minutes on Google, I have found The Salt Room, The Coal Shed, Costa, MandS, Burn Orange, and The Ivy in Brighton that do not allow dogs indoors.

I'm really not believing this assertion that it is "impossible" to find somewhere to eat without hordes of dogs wandering the dining rooms.

Chilli Pickle, Creams Cafe, Las Iguanas….. too. There are loads.

Frequency · 28/08/2026 13:56

From 10 minutes on Google, I have found The Salt Room, The Coal Shed, Costa, MandS, Burn Orange, and The Ivy in Brighton that do not allow dogs indoors.

I'm really not believing this assertion that it is "impossible" to find somewhere to eat without hordes of dogs wandering the dining rooms.

Gloriia · 28/08/2026 13:56

'In my local town, every cafe/restaurant/pub that allows dogs is thriving. The ones that don't are either closing down, or practically empty whenever I go past'

Really. That is a staggering generalisation. I'll have a go. In my local town the cafes that allow dogs have the same bored, fat, stressed, unhealthy dogs shoved under tables while their owners eat cake. Never see these dog owners on the many popular dog walks nearby, ever.

It's no life for a dog to be on a short lead under a table

For the benefit of a pp aho likes the saying, just because you can does not mean you should.

TheHungryHungryLandsharks · 28/08/2026 13:46

Ally886 · 28/08/2026 11:41

I know I'll become unpopular for this but anyway.

I part own 3 restaurants. Since allowing dogs we have not only been saved from bankruptcy but pay in excess of £200k a year extra in tax from our latest site. We put pictures of dogs on the wall and people bloody love it. I've had ONE complaint when a dog did a wee which I was annoyed about too. Otherwise, it's been a popular move for us.

Speaking to other establishments, those that have gone under do not allow dogs.

I also have a lot more money myself. Have bought a sports car. All good

In my local town, every cafe/restaurant/pub that allows dogs is thriving. The ones that don't are either closing down, or practically empty whenever I go past.

Where I go on holiday, the businesses that didn't allow dogs have all either had to pivot to allowing dogs, or closed. Ditto with the holiday cottages (I have one, so keep an eye on the market). The ones that don't allow dogs are being sold, the ones that do allow dogs are booked solidly.

MN hates it. But clearly most of the population are quite pleased by the inclusion of dogs if your success and that of the businesses I know is anything to go by.

Congrats on saving your business!😊

Cadeaukatze · 28/08/2026 13:39

mrsm43s · 28/08/2026 13:31

It's fine for dogs to be anywhere dogs are allowed.

It's not fine for dogs for dogs to be anywhere they are not allowed.

In all cases, dogs (and adults and children) should behave respectfully, and follow the rules of the establishment.

It's that simple.

There is nothing "entitled" about doing your research, finding a dog friendly venue and taking your well behaved dog there.

There is something extremely entitled about not doing your research, turning up to a dog friendly venue and then throwing a tantrum because someone with dogs sits (yes, just sits) at table next to you.

(a) despite the so-called percentage stated above - the vast majority of places are dog-friendly

and (b) (a) is the case because if someone says no to dogs there's a concerted campaign against them. My local garden centre banned dogs last year but when I was in there at Christmas I noticed they were allowed again although that could also be because

(c) even when they aren't really allowed the staff won't do anything (which I kind of understand as they don't want to be abused but a security guard in Sainsburys should!)

I agree if one well behaved dog sits quietly under a table it's not an issue (unless you are allergic). But being hassled by dogs happens often enough that people are afraid of it happening. That isn't a phobic, it's a reasonably held concern.

But the worst experience I had wasn't customer dogs, it was the owners. They had two dogs and allowed them to wander around the cafe begging at the tables. I've not been back.

Madamefroufrou · 28/08/2026 13:38

YeOldeGreyhound · 26/08/2026 16:22

For a moment, I was wondering if this thread was about me.
I went to a restaurant earlier today with my mum and her greyhound. He was on his matt on the floor and didn't cause any issues whatsoever. A couple on a nearby table kept giving us evils though.
YABVU to go to an establishment that allows dogs, and then declare your meal ruined. If a dog licking its bumhole is in your line of vision, then maybe don't eat off the floor 😉

breathtakingly rude and unnecessary post

MyGirlJ · 28/08/2026 13:37

I adore dogs and I've owned two, but I totally agree with you. I dont think dogs belong in eating establishments or shops, unless they're a guide dog or a genuine trained assistance dog.

Minasama · 28/08/2026 13:36

weeat · 28/08/2026 13:32

It’s absaloutly vile. Dogs should be left at home, and if they can’t then the owners can’t dine out, full stop. Haven’t read comments no doubt there are some rockets saying ‘Oooo but kids are badly behaved too…’ idiots. Kids are f-ing human beings you numb skulls. Dogs are ANIMALS. No equivalent. 😅🤣🤣 YANBU, full support op. Nothing against working dogs/therapy dogs but it’s gone too far in the UK.

Kids don’t stink, unless there is something very wrong with your parenting!

Botanicalf · 28/08/2026 13:36

weeat · 28/08/2026 13:32

It’s absaloutly vile. Dogs should be left at home, and if they can’t then the owners can’t dine out, full stop. Haven’t read comments no doubt there are some rockets saying ‘Oooo but kids are badly behaved too…’ idiots. Kids are f-ing human beings you numb skulls. Dogs are ANIMALS. No equivalent. 😅🤣🤣 YANBU, full support op. Nothing against working dogs/therapy dogs but it’s gone too far in the UK.

Unfortunately it’s 100% down to establishment owners and always has been.They act according to profit and always will as per :-

Ally886 · Today 11:41
I know I'll become unpopular for this but anyway.
I part own 3 restaurants. Since allowing dogs we have not only been saved from bankruptcy but pay in excess of £200k a year extra in tax from our latest site. We put pictures of dogs on the wall and people bloody love it. I've had ONE complaint when a dog did a wee which I was annoyed about too. Otherwise, it's been a popular move for us.
Speaking to other establishments, those that have gone under do not allow dogs.
I also have a lot more money myself. Have bought a sports car. All good

So no dog owners do not need to leave their dogs at home.

Minasama · 28/08/2026 13:35

It’s utterly disgusting (though I would make an exception for guide dogs.)
It’s vile to smell dog smell while you are eating. We always move tables or leave the restaurant if our food hasn’t actually arrived yet, it is more difficult if you are actually eating.

weeat · 28/08/2026 13:32

It’s absaloutly vile. Dogs should be left at home, and if they can’t then the owners can’t dine out, full stop. Haven’t read comments no doubt there are some rockets saying ‘Oooo but kids are badly behaved too…’ idiots. Kids are f-ing human beings you numb skulls. Dogs are ANIMALS. No equivalent. 😅🤣🤣 YANBU, full support op. Nothing against working dogs/therapy dogs but it’s gone too far in the UK.

mrsm43s · 28/08/2026 13:31

KnickerlessParsons · 28/08/2026 13:22

It's not fine anywhere. Some people don't like dogs, some people are frightened of dogs. Some people have an absolute phobia.

Dogs aren't people even though some people think they are, and don't need to go everywhere people go.

It's fine for dogs to be anywhere dogs are allowed.

It's not fine for dogs for dogs to be anywhere they are not allowed.

In all cases, dogs (and adults and children) should behave respectfully, and follow the rules of the establishment.

It's that simple.

There is nothing "entitled" about doing your research, finding a dog friendly venue and taking your well behaved dog there.

There is something extremely entitled about not doing your research, turning up to a dog friendly venue and then throwing a tantrum because someone with dogs sits (yes, just sits) at table next to you.

Botanicalf · 28/08/2026 13:29

KnickerlessParsons · 28/08/2026 13:22

It's not fine anywhere. Some people don't like dogs, some people are frightened of dogs. Some people have an absolute phobia.

Dogs aren't people even though some people think they are, and don't need to go everywhere people go.

It is absolutely fine. People have phobias for all sorts of things and have to get on with it. It’s down to cafe and restaurant owners and always has been.

KnickerlessParsons · 28/08/2026 13:22

canklesmctacotits · 26/08/2026 16:12

I think it's fine in a pub. Cafes and restaurants - no.

It's not fine anywhere. Some people don't like dogs, some people are frightened of dogs. Some people have an absolute phobia.

Dogs aren't people even though some people think they are, and don't need to go everywhere people go.

DuckDowned · 28/08/2026 13:15

TeaFizzy · 28/08/2026 13:13

Yes, I agree with you. But the previous poster is arguing that only 4% of cafes in Brighton are dog-friendly and that it’s the most dog-friendly city in the UK. If this is the case, then surely it would be easy to go almost anywhere and find a dog-free alternative.

Actually, these figures are far too low (and I know this because I know Brighton well).

But as people are asking for data..,

In 2021 there were 363 registered cafes in Brighton (source: https://www.foodserviceequipmentjournal.com/revealed-the-uk-location-that-boasts-the-highest-number-of-coffee-shops-per-person/)

That was a while ago, and I couldn’t find more up to date figures, so let’s round up to 400. This means that if only 4% of cafes were dog friendly, only 16 cafes in Brighton would be dog-friendly.

I am not going to list them all, and I’ve been challenged on a list I posted previously that named over 400 cafes and restaurants that are dog-friendly. So let’s see if I can name at least 17 to disprove the statistics.

Caffe Nero is, and there are at least three branches where I’ve personally seen dogs.
At least one of the Starbucks
At least 4 of the Flour Pot Bakeries
Garden Cafe Brighton
Starfish & Coffee
Lucky Beach Cafe
At least 2 Cafe Coho branches
Nowhere Man
Ikigal Coffee
Redroaster
At least 3 of the Trading Post Coffee branches

I could go on, but that’s 19 - so the 4% stat is clearly nonsense.

Yes. I think the stats are not correct because many cafes will not be putting the information out there either way. In my area I know 90% cafes are dog-friendly but Google does not show that.

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