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Dogs in restaurants - I am done!

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Doseofreality · 26/08/2026 16:06

The hill that I will die on. Dogs should not be allowed in eating establishments.

Just had another lunch spoilt as a family came in with 3, yes 3, large dogs and sat down at the table beside us. It’s gross, unhygienic and anti social. If I wanted to eat surrounded by animals I’d grab a takeaway and go and sit in a vet’s waiting room.

Close to £100 wasted on a lunch where I had a dog licking it’s bumhole in my line of vision.

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Frequency · 28/08/2026 17:55

Gloriia · 28/08/2026 17:24

As I've said I'm a sensible and considerate owner so no, I do not take my dog into a busy noisy place. She like walks not sitting under tables.

We're just trying to educate some of you that dogs need training, this includes leaving them for periods of time becaue what on earth will you do (you generally not you specifically) if you can't take it with you somewhere like hospital appointments etc.

Be kind and considerate to other customers but more importantly put your dog's welfare first.

No one has said they take their dog to cafes because they have to/can't leave them, so I'm not sure what the point of this post is.

And no one has suggested substituting a cafe for a walk.

Also, what the fuck cafes are you going to that are full of people shouting?

BlueFahrenheit · 28/08/2026 17:53

Dog owners are the most entitled. I don't attend dog-friendly establishments.

I don't want to see them.
I don't want to hear them.
I don't want to smell them.

Twoboysandabengal · 28/08/2026 17:51

Screamingabdabz · 26/08/2026 16:15

Yep. Hardly ever go out to eat now. Minging dogs tethered to entitled arseholes. It just ruins it.

There is even an ad on the telly at the moment with two rolling around on a carpet in what is presumably a pub restaurant. I can just imagine the dog dander and dog snot flying through the air. Makes me feel sick.

🤮🤮🤮

Twoboysandabengal · 28/08/2026 17:50

Doseofreality · 26/08/2026 16:06

The hill that I will die on. Dogs should not be allowed in eating establishments.

Just had another lunch spoilt as a family came in with 3, yes 3, large dogs and sat down at the table beside us. It’s gross, unhygienic and anti social. If I wanted to eat surrounded by animals I’d grab a takeaway and go and sit in a vet’s waiting room.

Close to £100 wasted on a lunch where I had a dog licking it’s bumhole in my line of vision.

Agree Totally! It’s disgusting

DuckDowned · 28/08/2026 17:48

I wasn’t making it up when I said every cafe around me allows dogs apart from Costa! Restaurants are stricter though and it’s not as endemic.

DuckDowned · 28/08/2026 17:47

Botanicalf · 28/08/2026 17:38

So you’re incapable of doing an internet search and don’t have a Pret or Starbucks where you live?

My local pret in N London allows dogs. I saw one being cuddled by the server last week! They don’t have a nationwide policy.

Botanicalf · 28/08/2026 17:38

KeepDancing1 · 28/08/2026 17:33

It would be absolutely lovely if all the dog owners on this thread could list all the eating places they’ve found which don’t allow them in with their dogs. Sadly, many cafes which don’t advertise as dog-friendly nevertheless allow them in, making it very difficult for those of us who can’t or don’t want to be near dogs. I can’t think of a single reliably dog-free cafe in any of the villages near me, and the city centre isn’t much better.

So you’re incapable of doing an internet search and don’t have a Pret or Starbucks where you live?

YeOldeGreyhound · 28/08/2026 17:36

KeepDancing1 · 28/08/2026 17:33

It would be absolutely lovely if all the dog owners on this thread could list all the eating places they’ve found which don’t allow them in with their dogs. Sadly, many cafes which don’t advertise as dog-friendly nevertheless allow them in, making it very difficult for those of us who can’t or don’t want to be near dogs. I can’t think of a single reliably dog-free cafe in any of the villages near me, and the city centre isn’t much better.

I have never been turned away with a dog, because I do not go to places that don't allow dogs.

Botanicalf · 28/08/2026 17:36

Gloriia · 28/08/2026 17:24

As I've said I'm a sensible and considerate owner so no, I do not take my dog into a busy noisy place. She like walks not sitting under tables.

We're just trying to educate some of you that dogs need training, this includes leaving them for periods of time becaue what on earth will you do (you generally not you specifically) if you can't take it with you somewhere like hospital appointments etc.

Be kind and considerate to other customers but more importantly put your dog's welfare first.

🤣You’ve never met my dog or been in the cafes we frequent. Why on earth would I need education from you?Our dog has the most idyllic dog life ever, her care is second to none. Bore off and put your own house in order.

KeepDancing1 · 28/08/2026 17:33

CoffeeandCakeBreak · 26/08/2026 18:22

It's ok to not want to be in places where dogs are allowed. But YABU for going to a dog friendly restaurant and using rude language to describe other customers that have as much right to be there as you do, and are within the rules of the establishment.

It doesn't sound as though the dogs did anything wrong other than exist in your space. You are being rude.

If you don't like dogs go to somewhere that doesn't allow dogs.

It would be absolutely lovely if all the dog owners on this thread could list all the eating places they’ve found which don’t allow them in with their dogs. Sadly, many cafes which don’t advertise as dog-friendly nevertheless allow them in, making it very difficult for those of us who can’t or don’t want to be near dogs. I can’t think of a single reliably dog-free cafe in any of the villages near me, and the city centre isn’t much better.

YeOldeGreyhound · 28/08/2026 17:30

Gloriia · 28/08/2026 17:24

As I've said I'm a sensible and considerate owner so no, I do not take my dog into a busy noisy place. She like walks not sitting under tables.

We're just trying to educate some of you that dogs need training, this includes leaving them for periods of time becaue what on earth will you do (you generally not you specifically) if you can't take it with you somewhere like hospital appointments etc.

Be kind and considerate to other customers but more importantly put your dog's welfare first.

You know your dog better than anyone. If she would not like cafes then it would be irresponsible of you to force her to go in one.
However, other people have dogs who really enjoy going to cafes, and it is not really on you to tell strangers online that the dogs they have that you have never met or know anything about, are distressed being there.

Responsible dog owners know their dogs. You do not know other people's dogs.
You should not be assuming that any dog in a cafe is there because they can't be left alone. My dog came with me because it was part of our walk, I wanted her with me, and she enjoyed being there. She was fine to be left for a few hours a home. She was a greyhound and would just sleep anyway.

The cafe has a big A-board outside saying they are dog friendly. If anyone sees that and complains about a well behaved dog sat on her mat minding her own business, then that is on them to deal with. Not the dog having to leave.

Gloriia · 28/08/2026 17:24

YeOldeGreyhound · 28/08/2026 17:14

It is simple. If you don't think dogs should be in cafes, don't take your dog there.
Your right to dictate where a dog goes stops at the end of the lead you are holding.
This thread is full of entitled people telling others not to do things because they don't like it, even against what the business owners want.

As I've said I'm a sensible and considerate owner so no, I do not take my dog into a busy noisy place. She like walks not sitting under tables.

We're just trying to educate some of you that dogs need training, this includes leaving them for periods of time becaue what on earth will you do (you generally not you specifically) if you can't take it with you somewhere like hospital appointments etc.

Be kind and considerate to other customers but more importantly put your dog's welfare first.

Botanicalf · 28/08/2026 17:21

ruethewhirl · 28/08/2026 17:03

No. I don't have to 'get over' a policy I dislike, simply because market forces are dictating its normalisation. There are still plenty of us out here who think some places are not suitable for dogs (guide dogs aside), however much you may think using lots of exclamation marks is an effective means of browbeating people (it's not, btw). You only have to look at the poll results to see that I'm not alone in this.

A question, though, as you're such a froth over this issue: do you take your dog/s into restaurants, and do you make sure they don't affect other diners' evenings out if so?

Well you do have to get over the policy as it isn’t going to change.

YeOldeGreyhound · 28/08/2026 17:14

It is simple. If you don't think dogs should be in cafes, don't take your dog there.
Your right to dictate where a dog goes stops at the end of the lead you are holding.
This thread is full of entitled people telling others not to do things because they don't like it, even against what the business owners want.

DuckDowned · 28/08/2026 17:07

Skodacool · 28/08/2026 16:54

Add being branded dog hater if you agree with OP

Including many dog owners on here it seems!

ruethewhirl · 28/08/2026 17:03

Botanicalf · 28/08/2026 16:21

It’s up to the owner, not you!!!! Dog friendly establishments have looked into it and calculated they make more being dog friendly with dog owners and the odd obsessive dog hater loss than prohibiting dogs. Get over it, it’s not going to change .

No. I don't have to 'get over' a policy I dislike, simply because market forces are dictating its normalisation. There are still plenty of us out here who think some places are not suitable for dogs (guide dogs aside), however much you may think using lots of exclamation marks is an effective means of browbeating people (it's not, btw). You only have to look at the poll results to see that I'm not alone in this.

A question, though, as you're such a froth over this issue: do you take your dog/s into restaurants, and do you make sure they don't affect other diners' evenings out if so?

Gloriia · 28/08/2026 17:02

Botanicalf · 28/08/2026 16:35

Nothing is going to change. There has never been a law banning dogs in cafes and restaurants and never will be.

Maybe not but if we can keep reminding some dog owners that they should be walking their dogs and not just have them on a short lead in a crowded cafe then it may make some think twice.

They like peace and quiet they like to be with their owners yes but not a load of shouting strangers too.

I think dog trainers can help those that haven't bothered in how to help their dog feel safe at home so they can be left for periods of time. Or online info?

Skodacool · 28/08/2026 16:54

DuckDowned · 26/08/2026 16:09

And this board will be full of comments that children are worse than dogs!

Add being branded dog hater if you agree with OP

Keepgettingolder81 · 28/08/2026 16:52

Why don’t you just go to restaurants that don’t allow dogs, which is the major majority of them.

Then find a Hill to die on that will actually make a difference to the world, like something environmental, child protection, women’s rights. You’re ranting is wasted, you should put it a good use.

Tryagain26 · 28/08/2026 16:51

Glitchymn1 · 26/08/2026 16:11

Have both. Children are worse.

Why did you go somewhere dog friendly op? Usually there’s a dining area where dogs can’t get to unless 5 of you are eating for £100.

Probably because virtually everywhere is dog friendly now

LizzieW1969 · 28/08/2026 16:47

Botanicalf · 28/08/2026 16:35

Nothing is going to change. There has never been a law banning dogs in cafes and restaurants and never will be.

There’s never going to be a law banning dogs, I agree, it will always be up to the individual owners’ discretion as to whether or not dogs are allowed.

Botanicalf · 28/08/2026 16:35

LizzieW1969 · 28/08/2026 16:30

Pubs have always been dog friendly, especially country pubs. I don’t see that changing, however much you moan about it!

Nothing is going to change. There has never been a law banning dogs in cafes and restaurants and never will be.

Ally886 · 28/08/2026 16:34

sausageth · 28/08/2026 16:25

Dogs shouldn't be in an establishment that serves food and drink. Full stop. It's unhygienic, and makes others feel uncomfortable as a result. For want of a better word, my 'right' to feel comfortable eating out far outweighs a dog owner's supposed 'right' to take their dogs wherever they please.

A line has to be drawn somewhere. Yes pubs can do what they like, but I daresay a lot of them do it to please the dog lovers parade and stop them whining.

And make enough money to continue paying vastly increasing business rates of which 50% goes to central government to pay for the NHS, welfare bill, police etc

ovals · 28/08/2026 16:34

It’s not even the moaning. It’s the presenting their opinions as absolute facts that blows my mind.

Botanicalf · 28/08/2026 16:33

sausageth · 28/08/2026 16:25

Dogs shouldn't be in an establishment that serves food and drink. Full stop. It's unhygienic, and makes others feel uncomfortable as a result. For want of a better word, my 'right' to feel comfortable eating out far outweighs a dog owner's supposed 'right' to take their dogs wherever they please.

A line has to be drawn somewhere. Yes pubs can do what they like, but I daresay a lot of them do it to please the dog lovers parade and stop them whining.

Neither has a right to dictate. You don’t get to dictate, neither do dog owners. Individual establishment owners dictate what happens. As such dog owners have a right to visit cafes and restaurants with their dogs that owners decide to make dog friendly.

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