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Aibu to think boyfriend was with his brothers girlfriend?

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erinS93 · 26/08/2026 10:20

So does anyone else find this odd? I’ve been with my partner a year. And I haven’t met his brother. He told me a story of how they randomly stopped speakin and don’t even have each other on any social media anymore and how they where really really close etc. my boyfriend told me he is nearly sure his brother slept with his ex wife. (My boyfriend and his ex wife have been split for 3 years) he told me how they used to go out all the time and there was one time he seen a picture of his ex’s boobs in his brothers phone. So he said she obviously sent the brother that. But then I’m over thinking that the reason that they don’t speak is something to do with my boyfriend sleeping with his brothers girlfriend? He maybe done it on badness if he thinks he was with his ex wife. Aibu to overthink this? Aibu

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bananaobama · 27/08/2026 08:16

If you don’t trust him , should you be together? Doesn’t sound like a very open and honest relationship

Stormyrose · 27/08/2026 08:10

Ok you need to explain why you think this, as it appears you’ve just imagined a random scenario and went with it,

MNLurker1345 · 27/08/2026 08:05

erinS93 · 26/08/2026 23:35

It would mean he’s a scumbag? If he can sleep with his own flesh and bloods girlfriend. And I wouldn’t wanna be with someone like that

@erinS93 so you are in a relationship with a guy who is estranged from his brother - it happens - drama.

Your boyfriend thinks his brother slept with his ex wife - drama.

Your boyfriend thinks his ex wife sent his brother a picture of her boobs - drama.

You think your boyfriend slept with his brothers ex girlfriend in retaliation maybe, tit (excuse the pun) for tat - drama.

You don’t know whether you are overthinking it.

You think your boyfriend is a scum bag. Excuse me if I have missed anything out.

My advice, stop overthinking it. Chuck him! Walk away. No drama!

Clydebuilt · 27/08/2026 07:49

Wherethedogsits · 26/08/2026 10:41

Your boyfriends brother maybe slept with your boyfriends now ex wife and you think that your boyfriend slept with his brothers girlfriend as retaliation?

Sounds exciting!

Doof Doof Doof!!!

somanychristmaslights · 27/08/2026 06:36

erinS93 · 27/08/2026 00:10

I know I can’t believe girls saying what does it matter. It matters cause I don’t want to go with a scumbag Even if it was a million years before me 🤣

People are saying it doesn’t matter as you’ve given no evidence for why you think that’s what happened. It’s like you’re just making a story up.

NotAnotherScarf · 27/08/2026 06:04

Delphiniumandlupins · 27/08/2026 00:43

Your boyfriend doesn't speak to his brother, who he used to be close to. Your boyfriend thinks his brother may have slept with the bf's ex-wife. You are now wondering if your bf may have slept with his brother's girlfriend despite not having any evidence of this? I think you should split up.

I think the ops bf should run. Why would she even think that, given whst he's said about the brother. His comment on the brothers of is that she was nice...so the op assums they were shagging

Additup · 27/08/2026 05:58

erinS93 · 26/08/2026 23:35

It would mean he’s a scumbag? If he can sleep with his own flesh and bloods girlfriend. And I wouldn’t wanna be with someone like that

Without knowing the actual circumstances of how they may have ended up in bed I personally wouldn't judge but its up to you. You know him, I don't.

Delphiniumandlupins · 27/08/2026 00:43

Your boyfriend doesn't speak to his brother, who he used to be close to. Your boyfriend thinks his brother may have slept with the bf's ex-wife. You are now wondering if your bf may have slept with his brother's girlfriend despite not having any evidence of this? I think you should split up.

PollyBell · 27/08/2026 00:21

Do you not want more out of your life than this, we are told women are highly inteliigent capable beings why are not seeing more of this?

CamillaMcCauley · 27/08/2026 00:14

Right… so you’ve just made this possibility up in your head and there’s absolutely no real-life evidence for it?

InterestedDad37 · 27/08/2026 00:13

Need a diagram, with arrows and stuff.

erinS93 · 27/08/2026 00:10

Thecatspantaloons · 27/08/2026 00:08

I'm not the gossipy , drama loving type but to ask what does it matter sounds a bit obliviously above it all.
I would be curious, so I could avoid future bs and possibly breeding with ferals.

I know I can’t believe girls saying what does it matter. It matters cause I don’t want to go with a scumbag Even if it was a million years before me 🤣

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Thecatspantaloons · 27/08/2026 00:08

I'm not the gossipy , drama loving type but to ask what does it matter sounds a bit obliviously above it all.
I would be curious, so I could avoid future bs and possibly breeding with ferals.

BadLad · 26/08/2026 23:45

Is your boyfriend Ryan Giggs?

erinS93 · 26/08/2026 23:35

Additup · 26/08/2026 23:10

Tbh even if your bf did sleep with his brothers gf, so what? Presumably it was before you met 🤷‍♀️

It would mean he’s a scumbag? If he can sleep with his own flesh and bloods girlfriend. And I wouldn’t wanna be with someone like that

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Additup · 26/08/2026 23:10

Tbh even if your bf did sleep with his brothers gf, so what? Presumably it was before you met 🤷‍♀️

ColdAsAWitches · 26/08/2026 16:55

erinS93 · 26/08/2026 15:19

Yeah nothin he has spoke about her before etc and said she’s a nice girl and that’s all he’s mentioned. But he just randomly said him and the brother stopped speaking. But the brother just follows him on insta

So what makes you think he's slept with her? You've got nothing except your own paranoia!

Cherry8809 · 26/08/2026 16:35

I’m bored, let’s go to therapy 💁🏻‍♀️

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 26/08/2026 15:37

erinS93 · 26/08/2026 15:19

Yeah nothin he has spoke about her before etc and said she’s a nice girl and that’s all he’s mentioned. But he just randomly said him and the brother stopped speaking. But the brother just follows him on insta

And?

erinS93 · 26/08/2026 15:19

AlliWantIsARoomSomewheeeere · 26/08/2026 13:22

You are going to need to explain how you got to that conclusion I'd you want any useful advice...

Cos the info you have given is either missing a massive chunk of the story (there is NOTHING you have said that implies that) or you have some massive trust issues that need therapy before you are doing to be able to be in a healthy relation.

Yeah nothin he has spoke about her before etc and said she’s a nice girl and that’s all he’s mentioned. But he just randomly said him and the brother stopped speaking. But the brother just follows him on insta

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AbsintheMakesTheHeartGrowFonder · 26/08/2026 14:18

This entire thing sounds completely mental.

AlliWantIsARoomSomewheeeere · 26/08/2026 13:22

You are going to need to explain how you got to that conclusion I'd you want any useful advice...

Cos the info you have given is either missing a massive chunk of the story (there is NOTHING you have said that implies that) or you have some massive trust issues that need therapy before you are doing to be able to be in a healthy relation.

calbum · 26/08/2026 11:14

YABU because you haven’t given a single shred of detail that could possibly indicate this happened. Unless you have forgotten to add the crucial detail I think probably your boyfriend hasn’t done anything wrong. That said, if you really have just imagined up an entire reverse with zero cause to do so you probably need to end the relationship.

MoonChime · 26/08/2026 11:07

You must have been treated really poorly previously for you to turn this around to your boyfriend being a cheater.

Or this isn’t the full story.

ColdAsAWitches · 26/08/2026 11:05

No, you're being mental. There nothing suggesting the massive leap you've taken.

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