AIBU to refuse apologising after being blocked in at Tesco?

Definitely a power play by the dad. He thought he’d teach OP a lesson. Instead in his mind he feels he’s been shown up by the OP in front of his son so he’s still trying to teach her a lesson.

Dont get me wrong, I don’t agree with the language the OP used but the bloke was a twat and is still acting like a twat.

You know what, Op? I think you should apologise to the boy. You should apologise for him having a cunt for a father.

He was an absolute cunt to park purposefully obstructing another car especially one with a blue badge. If the police contact you again you should tell them that you want to make a complaint against the cunt for a disability hate crime and you want an apology from Cunty McCuntface.

If you say so.

"More likely because it’s not believable that the teen is asking for an apology.
It is another power play by the father"

More likely the son was upset and the father reported the incident to the police as a result. Most parents would do this if a stranger verbally abused their child.

Are all parental to complaints to schools regarding their children power plays too?

Zero chance.

Also, I’d venture to say he would not have done this to a car that obviously belonged to a man.

More likely because it’s not believable that the teen is asking for an apology.

It is another power play by the father.

This man involved himself with OP for control. He’s now seeking further control in the form of this apology.

Your whole premise is off here.

I have never seen a sign in a car park, supermarket or paid, that’s says that it’s ok to straddle spaces if there are no disabled spaces, or you don’t meet the requirement for a blue badge.
it’s not a universally recognised loophole to car park rules, so I don’t think it’s out of the ordinary that people assume that it’s a case of people trying to save their car a ding.
the guy was being a prick, that’s not debatable.
but to be so wound up that someone has parked liked a prick, next to the car that they have already parked like a prick, that you swear at a child (of unknown age, OP is estimating and I am more inclined to believe that she’s not a reliable narrator) is something that should be apologised for.
she doesn’t even need to apologise for calling him a cunt, just for talking how she did to a child.

Assuming this actually happened, you were very out of order. You seem very entitled and aggressive. There's a lot of it around these days..

....and what that tells us is most people are not experiencing situations that require more space by their nature. If they were most people's thinking would be different. Hence the additional stress on carers. They have to think for themselves and for most people.

OP you posted in AIBU but seem unable to accept any fault even though it’s clear most people think you could have handled the situation better. For what it’s worth I don’t have any issue with why you parked over 2 bays and tend to agree the Dad parked to make a point and leaving his son in the car to take the flack was poor parenting.

However, it is unacceptable to use the language you did when speaking to a child. That isn’t negotiable in my mind in that aspect of the interaction you were definitely at fault.

I was making a point about the wordplay going on about swearing at v swearing I’m sorry I can’t work out how to finish the sentence because it’s so clearly still swearing at

Surely the only reason you would refuse to apologise for an aggressive sweary tirade at somebody would be because you believed that they deserved it? Can you please clarify to us what you believe the teenage boy had done to deserve this?

In my view, parking across two bays usually signals “my car is more important than everyone else’s car and I am more important that everyone else” not “there is some sort of problem here”.

I’m not saying this was OPs thinking but it is how most people would read this “signal”.

OK, fair enough if you abused the lad calmly and without raising your voice at all - although 'shouting' doesn't always mean at top volume and is often understood to suggest aggression and threats, regardless of the volume.

It WAS abuse - words like that are abusive words, and you admit yourself that you said them. If somebody randomly phoned you up and said the exact same thing to you - just as you randomly said them to a random innocent teenager - I think you would likely consider that abuse. He also wouldn't have known what level of threat you might have posed to him, after your opening salvo. Adults who speak like that to random people-who-are-too-young-to-be-adults yet (as some people on this thread seem to object to the word 'child') are automatically to be distrusted as to their motives and subsequent behaviours and treated with extreme caution.

Your frustration was very justified; and if you'd seen the person who chose to park like that and directed your tirade at him, I don't think most people would blame you - although you would likely be far more successful in remaining calm and educating him (and giving him just cause to feel small and stupid), rather than throwing the moral high ground that you already had.

The overriding issue is that you refuse to accept that you simply cannot justifiably abuse an innocent person because somebody else has done you wrong, however angry the actual miscreant has made you. You pointedly targeted some filthy, offensive words at a teenager because somebody else had selfishly caused you problems.

Personally if an angry woman told my 15 year old boy alone in the car to “tell your dad he is a cunt” I would be very upset about it.

The boy kept his head down and I think this tells you what he felt.

The fact that the police think it worthy of intervention also tell you something.

just apologise OP.

The issue of whether the father is a is a separate one. He’s clearly behaved awfully too, parking right up to you like that. I’m sure the father may well not be a very pleasant man.

But that’s a separate issue.

This issue is about you and the boy.

Someone wanting space to get their disabled partner out of the car is a ' dick move' ?
What exactly is a ' dick move' ?
Would you be happier if she damaged someone's car in the process?

“another one lacking in reading comprehension skills”

”utter bollocks”

Look, I can see why you were annoyed at the situation in Tesco. Up until you opened your mouth, the other guy was the one being a twat.

But even your replies here show that your default response to feeling angry (even minor anger on an online forum) is to use insults and swearing.

That is not a mature or helpful response to anger. It’s got you into trouble at Tesco, and it’s riling people up on here. It is very possible to feel incandescent with rage but still express yourself reasonably without verbally abusing other people. I think this is something you need to reflect on.

How likely is it that his mum would have done that statistically I wonder

There speaks someone for whom timing and planning are no issue. But the OP can't necessarily spend an hour hanging around with her disabled husband in the event someone happens not to perfectly legitimately park next to her. She has signalled by doing this that she has a need to do it.
Deliberately cutting off anyone's exit like that is more than twattish. Even if there were no disability. You'd look and think - there's some sort of problem there I'll leave it alone. Or report if you really felt compelled to do something.

You sound really upset. A simply sorry would have sufficed. You parked over two parks this is a dick move in most peoples book no matter what the situation. Instead of just climbing through and going on your way you had to go full on and swear at a kid. You could have been the bigger person and not cared.

I very much agree, she has been clear on what she has done and lets be fair, in the recounting has probably glossed over bits.

But I think everyone is overlooking an important point here. The car the poster is complaining about may have a modern 360‑degree camera system or surround‑view cameras or simpler dashcam, in which case it will have recorded the Posters car, including reg, and her subsequent abuse of the passenger. So Dad might not have had to take photos of anything and I am sure he will show that to the Police?

You were not wrong to be angry
But you were wrong to take your anger out on a child, using foul language.

i don’t think she deserves that. What she needs is an off ramp
What age needs is to apologise and the whole episode will be over with. She doesn't even have to mean it! How hard is that! You have to be very stubborn to refuse to do so out of principle when you're not even right in the first place.

"For a case to succeed in court the person who heard the words must feel threatened by them."

Many posters have already linked to the relevant legislation. Threatened is one factor but distress or alarm caused by abusive language is another. The fact that police have already attended op's address also suggest you are wrong.