AIBU to refuse apologising after being blocked in at Tesco?

I am going to take some time to educate myself more about the lives of the disabled and their carers because of this thread.

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Empathy

She didn’t use any abusive language on this thread. She’s had it used at her.

OP, I’m sorry this happened to you and your husband. I can really imagine how upsetting it must have been for you. I think many would have reacted this way even if they were not caring for someone at the time.

"OP was harassed and reacted"

Provoked maybe but not harassed. She did however harangue and arguably even harass the innocent teen.

We know one parent on this thread is abusive....she has demonstrated this and admitted it to the police and used t
Abusive language towards people on this thread who don't agree with her......

What law did they allege you’d broken? I wouldn’t be apologising either. This is not going to court.

OP was harassed and reacted. The teen surely recognized that. I don’t think an apology from the OP would help him with an abusive parent.

Exactly!

Thank you for such a sensible post.

You can be with someone and not condone everything they do. Also who defines what something is about? The writer? The reader?

No I'm not arguing that. Id have said that if I was arguing that.
The thread is a lot about proportionality. That includes people's reactions. I'm sharing my own reaction. None of that is illogical.

I don't condone the swearing at child bit but proportionately I'm with theOP

and this makes no sense. If you don’t condone the swearing, you’re not with the OP. The swearing, and whether OP should apologise for it, is the crux of the thread.

I’m really not following your logic here. You seem to be implying that if someone acts like an arse towards a carer of a disabled person, it’s proportionate for them to take out their anger on a teenage bystander. It isn’t. I can’t see where proportionality comes into it. The dad was an arse, OP behaved very badly. Both are true. One doesn’t cancel the other out.

Think a lot of the thread is about proportionality. Swearing about a child's parent in hearing of child versus blocking the exit of a disabled person by blocking their carer, due to someone's perception of bad parking which wasn't inconveniencing anyone.
I don't condone the swearing at child bit but proportionately I'm with theOP and some responses are nuts in the blanking out of vulnerability of a disabled person and their carer.

Exactly my thoughts.

OP has claimed she didn't shout or was aggressive, she just used the swear words.

OP has been called some horrific names on this thread, which haven't even been said but just written down.
I don't agree with anyone swearing at anyone whether it's verbally or in writing.

There have been a lot of replies on this thread up to the point where this thread will be full shortly.
I again emphasise OP was very very unreasonable in swearing at a minor, it was intimidation. He wasn't the one who had parked the car. Yet he was the one who had to to listen to the verbal assault.
Unfortunately OP doesn't realise that.

“But it’s just words on a screen? As you’ve proclaimed!

You should be ashamed of your language.
Please tell me you are not a parent.

I think you may have missed a key part of the happenings in your summary.

OP chose to be verbally abusive to an innocent bystander, a teenager. Did you miss that?

well, I think it demonstrates the everyday obstacles and difficulties faced by people with disabilities and their families/ carers in just doing ordinary things. Not enough disabled bays, so @ThisIsAbsolutelyCrazy did a send thing - parked in such a way and in a part of the car park where she wasn’t obstructing anyone else but could still allow her DH to get in and out of the car and his wheelchair. But some bastard took it upon himself to teach her a lesson. And then sic the police onto her.

Just for managing her ordinary activities.

"You compared a rapist to someone swearing. I don’t think that needs a rebuttal."

I used that example to illustrate how ridiculous and flawed your arguments were because no one would use those principles you used in the case of a more serious crime.

Get a grip.

You compared a rapist to someone swearing. I don’t think that needs a rebuttal.

"I gave up at “rapist”"

Quite the rebuttal for someone who claims to want to be "accurate".

I gave up at “rapist”. Get a grip.