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AIBU to think laws that fine and jail parents for school absence, outside term time holidays, are ridiculous?

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TwinklyTaupePanda · 25/08/2026 08:18

Is it a good law, fining parents for school absence? What are the good outcome measures, good citizens, with better mental health, peaceful country, reduced crime rates, homicide rates? Has it worked in your country?

Or is it a ridiculous law? Most parents, dream of and love to, have children who enjoy, thrive and excel in school. Parents may have other misdemeanours, but why turn school attendance into the battle ground, the yard stick to measure and punish? Perhaps consider is punishment the right way to go about this, what about the help for every child, and every parent who struggles?

I'm not talking about going on holiday during term time.

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Timeforachange26 · 31/08/2026 23:19

LlynTegid · 27/08/2026 21:37

I don't think fines are the answer. For parents taking children on holiday in term time I would remove the passports from serial offenders, not sure what the best sanction would be for parents not making enough effort to get a child in school.

I'm not sure that would be legal

Bananacrepewithnuts · 27/08/2026 22:01

ToffeePennie · 25/08/2026 09:13

Thing is rich, wealthy parents who can afford none-term time holidays will just pay it and count it as holiday expense. Those of us who can’t, will not be able to risk it and will end up taking our children on expensive holidays to try and give a similar childhood experience to their wealthier peers.
These children have to be together for a long time, all of primary and secondary school, but you don’t see the richer parents kids suffering from lack of learning. Actually they seem to go on and get top grades, simply because their parents can afford things like tutors.
And this doesn’t target the actual truant kids, ones who’s parents are addicts, or parents who can’t be bothered waking up and taking their child to school, or the kids who abscond from school because they find it too boring or difficult. Or the kids who don’t come in because their older brother has taken the last pair of shoes in the house, or the ones who looked after younger siblings last night and now are too tired to get the bus into school.
These kids need social services help, more support, charity, not fines that their parents can’t pay anyway. The kids who aren’t leaving for a holiday but aren’t in school for 1001 other reasons that have social services written all over them. (I’m not including health because anyone who’s sick should be at home end of)

I agree with your sentiment but a whole load of work will be done with that family (support from the school and the LA) in order to improve the child's attendance.
A fine for non attendance is way way down the line and would really be a reluctant last resort.

LlynTegid · 27/08/2026 21:37

I don't think fines are the answer. For parents taking children on holiday in term time I would remove the passports from serial offenders, not sure what the best sanction would be for parents not making enough effort to get a child in school.

hardshoulderr · 27/08/2026 21:34

Agree @grumpygrape

hardshoulderr · 27/08/2026 21:33

I have been on many sentencing cases for school and attendance and very rarely we've done community orders but I've never ever sent anyone to prison

Pinkissmart · 27/08/2026 21:33

This country’s government views state education a favour.

grumpygrape · 27/08/2026 21:15

TwinklyTaupePanda · 27/08/2026 19:11

Thank you for all the comments, it's interesting to see that many people think it is reasonable to penalise, fine or even jail parents, relating to school absence. I wonder if those who never experienced the difficulties of trying to get their teen who refused to attend, to school, somehow cannot see, the side of how ridiculous this is, and has little or no compassion for those who suffer and struggle.

It is an interesting subject but unless you can provide ‘evidence’ please stop saying parents get jailed for non-attendance. I haven’t seen any cases where they have. They might be sent to prison if they refuse to pay fines, but that happens to anyone refusing to pay Court fines.

I am not commenting on whether the current regulations and laws are right to address the issue but I dislike incorrect statements.

TwinklyTaupePanda · 27/08/2026 19:11

Thank you for all the comments, it's interesting to see that many people think it is reasonable to penalise, fine or even jail parents, relating to school absence. I wonder if those who never experienced the difficulties of trying to get their teen who refused to attend, to school, somehow cannot see, the side of how ridiculous this is, and has little or no compassion for those who suffer and struggle.

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NervousSheepy · 26/08/2026 20:45

Stressedoutmummyof3 · 26/08/2026 12:59

You're brave posting this. Have you not seen all the threads on here (every year); that parents can't even deal with their children in the holidays we have? How the holidays are too long and often?
Anyway wouldn't the travel companies just put the prices up for longer? If schools extend holidays travel companies will expand expensive holidays.

Yes I see that, I just disagree.

Stressedoutmummyof3 · 26/08/2026 12:59

NervousSheepy · 25/08/2026 08:29

We need longer holidays in this country, that way it would be less condensed into a very short, busy, expensive time so parents would have more choices. I also think that children's mental health and wellbeing would be improved. I've never understood why this country has such limited holidays.

You're brave posting this. Have you not seen all the threads on here (every year); that parents can't even deal with their children in the holidays we have? How the holidays are too long and often?
Anyway wouldn't the travel companies just put the prices up for longer? If schools extend holidays travel companies will expand expensive holidays.

the7Vabo · 25/08/2026 18:12

LikeThisTime · 25/08/2026 17:06

How would you make parents accountable for low attendance?

How would you ensure those children not in school are safe, not committing crime and are not associating with criminals?

There is lots of discussion atm, about how we deal with feral youths who steal cars and drive them into police cars (killing the officers), a common answer is ‘blame the parents, make them accountable’.

For some, absence from school is part of the slide into criminality. The police do not have the resources to find/return/arrest, criminal children.

Well then give them the resources!

If a parent won’t do stuff like turn up to meet the school, commit to doing their best to make sure their kids attend and that homework is done you hit them where it hurts - deduct fines from social welfare or income at source.

We cannot continue to do so little about kids sliding into this behaviour because some kids have SEN. That’s ridiculous.

People need to start being afraid that they will be held criminally responsible for the actions of their children. Because clearly some of them think it’s ok to have kids and not take responsibility for them. Of the 5 kids who died in Ireland 1 was in the care of social services, two more were know to social services. It’s become acceptable to be feckless.

It’s not that black & white in all cases obviously.

TwinklyTaupePanda · 25/08/2026 17:41

I’m puzzled why there so many comments about taking children out of school during term time for holidays. That’s not my intended discussion.

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ItsJustFine · 25/08/2026 17:14

Redburnett · 25/08/2026 13:29

It would be interesting to see the data since fines were introduced, has it led to an improvement in attendance? TBH I would be surprised if it has.

I’m not sure it has is that why the amounts were increased? Even then I don’t think it has made a difference.

We had a massive issue when took a term time break to see family abroad. The school demanded flight details etc etc we said no - we weren’t asking for authorisation we knew we would get a fine so we only needed to inform them of dates the dc wouldn’t be in. They were insistent, saying it was now a safeguarding matter. We still refused.

LikeThisTime · 25/08/2026 17:06

How would you make parents accountable for low attendance?

How would you ensure those children not in school are safe, not committing crime and are not associating with criminals?

There is lots of discussion atm, about how we deal with feral youths who steal cars and drive them into police cars (killing the officers), a common answer is ‘blame the parents, make them accountable’.

For some, absence from school is part of the slide into criminality. The police do not have the resources to find/return/arrest, criminal children.

IonianNerveGrip · 25/08/2026 16:58

C8H10N4O2 · 25/08/2026 16:49

I would say be appreciative of good teachers but being told to be “grateful” because a service you pay for via taxation is “free” is exactly how state services get away with poor service.

Its not free. That doesn’t mean we can’t appreciate good individual teachers, doctors, whatever. It does mean we should not be told to shut up and be grateful when they are poor or deliver poor services/care (which happens on pretty much every NHS or education thread).

Exactly.

C8H10N4O2 · 25/08/2026 16:49

the7Vabo · 25/08/2026 13:46

I tell my children all the time to be grateful for their education. I’m grateful for it. That doesn’t mean I’d never question anyone or raise an issue. But I’ve seen the impact a good teacher can have on my child - it’s amazing.

I would say be appreciative of good teachers but being told to be “grateful” because a service you pay for via taxation is “free” is exactly how state services get away with poor service.

Its not free. That doesn’t mean we can’t appreciate good individual teachers, doctors, whatever. It does mean we should not be told to shut up and be grateful when they are poor or deliver poor services/care (which happens on pretty much every NHS or education thread).

NervousSheepy · 25/08/2026 14:18

singthing · 25/08/2026 11:30

Do you honestly think holiday companies will not cotton on to that?

Instead of it being a 6 week peak summer period (+ Christmas, + Easter etc), it will be peak prices every single day there is a school holiday.

It would also condense the time that off peak holidaymakers can travel, thus meaning more of them could end up travelling in peak and then...

It seems to work perfectly fine in most other countries.

KvotheTheBloodless · 25/08/2026 14:12

KindlySurfiingPlatypus · 25/08/2026 08:36

You are being unreasonable, it is a good law.
Decades of repeatable and valid research shows that children whose parents prioritise education have better educational outcomes than those who don't.

You don't want to discuss term-time holidays but it is obvious that because the majority of families do value education and won't choose those weeks, therefore demand is lower and prices are cheaper.
Irresponsible, neglectful parents who don't value education do choose those weeks, and their children's educational outcomes suffer in a measurable demonstrable way that damages them long-term.

The parents who would rather have the cheap holidays do not care about the evidence, and do not care that their decisions are harming their children. The only thing the law can do is impose fines that should be big enough to exceed the difference between the price of a termtime holiday vs the price of the same holiday in actual holiday time. The fines are not big enough.

Imprisonment is rare and only happens if a parent is so pig-headed about being above the law that such drastic action is a positive benefit to the children.

I agree with this, and have worked in education for years.

the7Vabo · 25/08/2026 14:03

Moveoverdarlin · 25/08/2026 13:53

My neighbours have two primary aged kids and they have been off all summer, the frail granny who is 80 picks them up every day and has cared for the kids while the parents WFH. In late September they are taking the kids out of school for a holiday in the med somewhere for 2 weeks. This seems bonkers to me. Missing two weeks of school in September is really irresponsible. The kids have been out of their mind with boredom for the last weeks!! I hope they get a fine to be honest.

Are they just broke - can’t afford childcare or a summer price holiday?

Timeforachange26 · 25/08/2026 13:54

BoredZelda · 25/08/2026 11:57

I’d love them to fix it so we don’t have to have this debate every school holiday.

I haven’t read any responses but I’m assuming the bingo card will be filled soon enough:

Hotels rip people off (they don’t)
Holidays are educational (they aren’t)
Teachers can’t take term holidays (they chose the job)
I’m glad I home educate (happy for you)
Attendance is important (not for all kids, all the time)
It’s my right (those come with responsibilities)
Holidays are too long/too short/at the wrong time (makes no difference)
The evidence shows (no it doesn’t)

Did I miss any?

Depends on the holiday doesn't it as to whether it's educational or not. Lying round a pool no . Going to an elephant sanctuary or learning about ancient civilization , or practicing languages then yes

Moveoverdarlin · 25/08/2026 13:53

My neighbours have two primary aged kids and they have been off all summer, the frail granny who is 80 picks them up every day and has cared for the kids while the parents WFH. In late September they are taking the kids out of school for a holiday in the med somewhere for 2 weeks. This seems bonkers to me. Missing two weeks of school in September is really irresponsible. The kids have been out of their mind with boredom for the last weeks!! I hope they get a fine to be honest.

the7Vabo · 25/08/2026 13:46

C8H10N4O2 · 25/08/2026 13:06

You missed “education is free, be grateful and know your place” which is also on the thread.

I tell my children all the time to be grateful for their education. I’m grateful for it. That doesn’t mean I’d never question anyone or raise an issue. But I’ve seen the impact a good teacher can have on my child - it’s amazing.

the7Vabo · 25/08/2026 13:44

mummymeister · 25/08/2026 13:28

1 in 4 children leave school without passing maths and english GCSE. to me this says that our education system has some huge problems if we cant after 12 years in formal education turn out young people with basic skills. we dont need an overhaul of the education system we need an overhaul of parenting. 1 in 4 youngsters start reception without being potty trained. and if I hear of another oh its adh whatever I think I will scream. it isnt. its laziness. parents who dont know or dont want to parent. taking them out of school on a holiday and fining them for it really is the least of this countries worries. Turning out a generation of kids who think having a label means they dont have to work, get PIP or who just cant read, write or add up is alarming and it seems like we are just sleepwalking into a tragedy here.

This 100%. And that is not to take away from people who are genuinely autistic, SEN etc.

The challenge is finding a system that weeds out feckless parents while not being overly harsh on parents who are doing their best.

Redburnett · 25/08/2026 13:29

It would be interesting to see the data since fines were introduced, has it led to an improvement in attendance? TBH I would be surprised if it has.

mummymeister · 25/08/2026 13:28

1 in 4 children leave school without passing maths and english GCSE. to me this says that our education system has some huge problems if we cant after 12 years in formal education turn out young people with basic skills. we dont need an overhaul of the education system we need an overhaul of parenting. 1 in 4 youngsters start reception without being potty trained. and if I hear of another oh its adh whatever I think I will scream. it isnt. its laziness. parents who dont know or dont want to parent. taking them out of school on a holiday and fining them for it really is the least of this countries worries. Turning out a generation of kids who think having a label means they dont have to work, get PIP or who just cant read, write or add up is alarming and it seems like we are just sleepwalking into a tragedy here.

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