AIBU to feel uncomfortable about my partner's comment on teenage niece?

I don't think it's fair that men predate on teenage girls, that's why what they say is important. Though I'd also find the same comment inappropriate from a woman. The only way someone would "Have their boobs out" would be to be sitting there topless.

I find it creepy, I would never say someone had their boobs out. DD2 is 32DD and looks different in normal tops to someone who is a B cup.

Riiiight, just the female kids. Of course not the male kids.

Miss the Victorian era much, hm?

My DH and I have sometimes discussed how grown up younger relatives have gotten - but we don't mention breasts. Likely we are both thinking it though as a obvious visual sign but not need to mention it.

Eurgh no, it's not a good comment for an uncle to comment on a niece's body no.

My thoughts exactly!

I think it's a fair comment if he's used to seeing her as a child and then she presents as a woman seemingly overnight.
If a woman said it, there'd be no worry.

However I also feel his comments were wrong!

Me too, I don’t really understand it to be honest. My niece wore a dress recently that was completely open so you could see her whole bra at a family party. If it had been DD I would have had to say something. It’s about dressing for the occasion. I also think it’s sad when girls feel the need to dress for the male gaze.

If he’s generally a good egg I’d assume he voiced it because he felt uncomfortable with his niece looking attractive (not the same as finding her attractive)
if he added any comments of appreciation as to how she looks I would find it creepy

Yes but you are her parents!

How would you feel if your uncle or cousin made a comment about her appearance during adolescent growth, its not normal and its not right.

Not ok OP

plenty of ways to say she has grown up without mentioning breasts. He’s a basic model, you can do better.

Ewwww

Dump him

I didn’t suggest anyone was ashamed of them. They are secondary sexual characteristics and as such not open to comment from uncles.

Well let’s hope she never notices the OP’s partner assessing her chest, or making comments about it, because if there’s anything likely to make a child feel uncomfortable about their changing body, it will be unwelcome attention from some creepy uncle she previously thought of as completely safe.

Some of you have got some really fucking weird ideas about what are acceptable comments from men.

Breasts are a body part its not something to be ashamed of or find odd.

I agree with you. Comments have been made by my DH regarding our nieces and its always been anout the clothing and how old they looked . There'd never be a reason for him to.comment on their actual.boobs falling out.
I hope it was just crass language rather than anything pervy.

Boobs out always makes me uncomfy when it’s family, I don’t know why but it really does. Maybe I’m a buttoned up prude. If my sister or niece are showing cleavage I definitely notice and feel awkward and a bit distracted. I am defo not in any way perving them. It’s just weird to me. I imagine your partner may have felt the same.

I would find this really weird. Noticing she looks grown up fair enough. Specifically talking about her boob's...creepy

I think it’s horrible he actually mentioned her boobs, rather than saying how grown up she looked. I would have felt sick at the thought of an older male relative passing comment on my boobs when I was that age. Sorry, I think he’s a creep

This is actually quite mild IMO, particularly in contrast to the pervy sedated rape enthusiast on another thread.

Ugh...

He did not say it to her.
Nor would an Uncle say it to you.

The comment, said just to you, is fine.

Totally unacceptable comment. Just an easy rule for life, don’t comment on other people’s bodies. Even if you think that’s ok, perhaps draw the line at commenting on the development of secondary sexual characteristics in children. So fucking gross.