AIBU to feel uncomfortable about my partner's comment on teenage niece?

I think I’d be able to contain myself from commenting on the breasts of a 16 year old with a plunging neckline.

It is odd how defensive you are about being able to comment on children’s bodies. Girls can clearly not hide their breasts in the same way boys can hide their penises, and girls should not have to wear baggy clothes so that their weird adult relatives don’t go home and discuss their breasts.

Very creepy.

TBF we don't know as we aren't OP. That's fair. It could have been a revealing top with a plunging neckline.

I don't think that would happen in our family. My brothers would stay well clear of any remark about my niece as they'd know how My brother would feel about it. And if they started talking about my daughter's boobs I'd flatten them. I Metaphorically. But I really can't see that happening.

You still haven't answered my question.
If someone had a haircut, you would discuss it right?
If someone is showing too much flesh, you would also mention it.

And I don't know any men that get their penis out in public thankfully, but if my nephew did that thing with trousers low, pants on show/bum out then I would definitely comment on that.
And if I was close to my nephew and their trousers were rather tight and there was an obvious bulge I would also suggest they need to buy a new pair.

You don’t understand why people wouldn’t talk about a child’s breasts?

If you saw a bulge in a teenage boy’s trousers, would you discuss that with your partner too?

It is extremely weird and I think you need to examine your boundaries.

But I don't get why you wouldn't. Like do you not talk about if someone gets a haircut?
We don't know what this girl was wearing and a lot of outfits are very revealing. Surely if her top is showing her chest then it will become a talking point (and perhaps something she needs to consider).

Well I think it’s extremely weird that you’d talk about a child’s breasts with your partner. It’s extremely inappropriate.

But I would make a comment about my niece if they had a revealing top on! I would definitely make some comment especially to my husband in private and say about it being rather revealing.

Also saying about comments on men's bodies I know a few that wear shorts all year round, and will make a comment about that e.g. still got your legs out, not cold enough for trousers yet then.

I think it's interesting all the women posting about they wouldn't comment or not notice but if it's right in front of you I am not sure how you ignore it and I think at least he is being honest than keeping it in his head.

There is absolutely no evidence of that whatsoever. She was likely wearing a perfectly normal top for a teenager in the summer, but now has breasts.

A woman wouldn’t comment on her teenage niece’s breasts. I wouldn’t dream of commenting on my teenage nephews bodies, other than to say how tall they’re getting. I certainly wouldn’t be commenting on how they had their muscular arms or hairy chests out, because it would be quite disgusting.

I don't expect any adult man to be commenting on a child's breasts.

Ick!

I think it's normal but then the last time we had DH's niece over she wore such short shorts that it made me uncomfortable to sit opposite her when she crossed her legs and I commented on that to DH

I've noticed my niece is developing which feels weird as she still has her cute baby face and it's taking time to see her as a tween and not my little niece anymore. But I've got no compulsion to mention it and would definitely not want my partner to notice in a way that he felt he had to pass comment. He wouldn't anyway as he'd think it was weird too. Can't imagine any of my brother's ever feeling the need to mention it either.

I stopped seeing a friend a few years back as her husband had pointed out to us all how his daughter (still in primary school) was growing 'budding breasts'. I just thought it's a weird thing to bring up at a BBQ, especially amongst other men but bad enough infront of women too. Just weird. Totally normal to go through puberty, and to notice it, but kinda weird for a man to mention it specifically, imo.

But her top was revealing and showing it?

I do think sometimes we say things to people we are close to like our spouses that we would never say out loud to other people . It’s likely it was just an observation and not meant in a creepy way . It’s borderline I think . I wouldnt feel comfortable hearing him say it either. At all

If he left out the bit about her boobs being out, it would be fine, but that bit is sooo inappropriate.

But it's not perving.

Would you say it was perving if a woman said it?

I personally think he is stating a fact.

If they’re just noticing and not perving, why would the child have to be warned about it?

That makes it worse. There was no reason for him to comment in that way.

when it results in comments like that then yes

So noticing them is perving?

Why should she care that men might notice? Men should resist perving on teenage girls.

That is even worse. Properly disgusting comment. I would be utterly disgusted and mortified if my uncles had ever commented on my breasts. Which they wouldn’t have because they’re not sick in the head.