To think a man with five kids he barely sees won’t be considered a catch on the dating scene?

So you dated him knowing he had 3 children he hardly saw? So obviously yes there are women, including yourself, who will happily date dead beat dads for some reason unknown to me.
Expect child no.6 will be on the way shortly.

I'm not in the dating market but when I was, a man with any children at all was a 'no'. It's a catch 22 -

A. Man with children he cares about and sees - you are always (rightly for them but not for you) going to come behind them in his priorities and affections.

B. Man with children he barely sees - a red flag as far as his maturity and sense of responsibility goes. Who wants a man who can bin his own kids off just like that?

I don't have children of my own. If I did, Man A. would probably be OK because I'd be in the same boat myself of wanting to put my children first.

I can't imagine anyone being attracted to Man B, whether it was one child he'd abandoned or 10.

I think this is wise advice.
Though I suspect she'll be spending a lot of time on SM to see who he is 'dating'.

This is not an outrageous claim: she's asking randoms on the Internet, isn't she?

Personally, if a man treated me like this I'd just be glad that he was leaving me and the children alone he could be dating the current Miss World for all I cared but there you go.

My friend married a guy who didn't see his children. She knew he was divorced but married him not knowing how many previous wives he'd had. He'd been married three times as she later discovered. All the exes were off their rockers and cheated, apparently.

He stole her money and jewellery. Even his parents warned her about him. She said later that she just didn't want to be by herself and couldn't believe a guy who looked like him would be interested in her.

Actually a man with five children that he DOES see is less of a prospect. A man who isn’t spending time with his kids has the time for a new partner.

You aren't stupid to have believed he was a good person. It's not your fault he was a great liar. Don't blame yourself. Some people are master manipulators and very good at projecting what the other person wants to see. Hindsight is 20/20, but being in the moment filled with the desire to love and be loved can cloud your vision and blot out the red flags. It happens to a lot of people.

Of course, he's a catch for some women, especially if he's charming or good-looking.

Males with villages of children are apparently seen as family-oriented, even if they barely see them.

Op he is looking for a a shag,

Thank your lucky stars you have rid of him,

Focus on you, save your energy for you and children only,

Don't allow him anymore head space op,

Why are you so interested in if he'll get a date?
Just why.
Are you jealous that another woman will have him?

It's OK to be upset at the end of a relationship but it seems to me that you are concerned that he'll be sharing his body with another woman.

It seems to me you've answered your own question here: if you still want him in spite of the truly terrible things he's allegedly done I'm sure somebody else will.

I've known women who've been awfully abused. They don't give a shit who their ex ends up with as long as it's away from them and their children.

Amazingly, there do seem to be women out there who will get into a relationship with someone like your ex, even when they know his full history. I guess their bar is set very low.
I remember being inwardly astounded when a perfectly nice, very normal, young, attractive work colleague was having a minor gripe about her partner taking too much sick leave from of his job, when in the same conversation she casually dropped in that he had four kids with his ex, who he never sees, and his ex has a restraining order against him. I stayed polite but in my head I was screaming “what the actual f*ck do you see in this absolute charmer?!?”.
(they broke up sometime after thankfully)

So, sorry OP, he probably will find someone. But be thankful he’s out of your life now 💐

So he was abusive to her but still happy for kids to see/stay alone with him

then you meet him. Fell for his story as sure he didn’t say anything about abuse - had 2 more kids with him and then split

yes he will find someone. Whether he lies about how many kids he has or a woman like yourself will date him

Yes it’s grief. Sorry he’s a shit.

Lots of women find a man who has successfully made another woman pregnant sexually attractive.

A man who has five kids he is a good father too and spends plenty of time with them will be less attractive on the dating scene than a man with five kids he rarely sees. Because the latter has more time to date and build a relationship and fewer commitments.

Even the brightest of women can get taken in
My bff (rich family, three past husbands, big business) has been mooning after a swaggering arse.
Four children by three different women. Two he's not allowed to see.
Quite pretty i'll grant you but she didn't even know the two youngest existed until they moved in together.
They spilt up last year and he married another sucker. However she's now a 'close friend'. He's definitely after her cash because she paid for everything.
Any man that can hurt a child needs stringing up in my opinion. You're well shot.

I don’t doubt how vile and detestable he is. However, can we focus on you and your healing rather than continuing to give this piece of shit head space?

Every time you feel a thought of him entering your head you say “stop right there! You aren’t coming in.” and you dismiss it.

Instead think about what is happening with you and your DC. Small changes, big changes. Making a safe and secure environment for everyone.

Good luck.

Can we please retire the phrases 'baby mama' and 'baby daddy'? It makes women sound utterly thick.

How many times does a person have to show you who they are before they are beleived

He probably will find someone.
You still found him a catch when he had 3 children he barely seen, I’m sure another woman will come along next and thing it’s going to be different with her too.

Actually my ex and I were in exactly the same scenario, 5 kids, and he met his now partner within a month of us ending. He did change a lot for the better and they are now married but she really did put up with a lot! Im still alone!!! I think when someone is handsome, women give them a whole lot of breaks!

He’ll end up with 10 kids and 4 crazy exes. You’ll end up with 2 kids who love and respect you and have healed from the trauma of this relationship with your love and support. I know what I’d choose.

Also, I’m astonished by the misogyny on this thread. Some men are really good at spinning a lie. It’s not always because women are ‘gullible’ and ‘stupid’ 🤦‍♀️

But assaulting the OP, and even worse their toddler, most definitely is!

OP, stop concentrating on him, and look forward to your own life.