To think a man with five kids he barely sees won’t be considered a catch on the dating scene?

Unfortunately most men find someone willing to take them in. I don’t know what’s wrong with women, some sort of messiah complex? They will be the ones to change the twat, even when he’s had multiple children by different women who didn’t change him or he’s been married numerous times. Men also generally get more time to date and have fun after a split in most cases.

If it's any help, op, yes he won't have any issues finding someone, but as someone said, will he STAY happy?

An ex of mine (late 90s) was very charming, and was (back then) good looking. I was devastated when we split. Especially as he'd completely broken me down in so many ways, including my looks. He enjoyed dangling in my face that he'd married the woman he left me for.

Well, 2 decades later, my son (not this guy's, from my marriage in the mid 90s) ran into this ex's daughter on a night out! Ridiculous coincidence. Anyway, she told my son enough to find out that this ex had done exactly the same thing to the woman he left me for. Treated her horribly, cheated, left her gobsmacked, etc.

To say that I had zero sympathy is an understatement, as she was more than happy for him to walk out on me for her back then, and as I recall she found it rather funny when he left me for her.

Honestly, no one can say with any certainly who your ex will end up with, and if he makes it work or not. But he won't have any problems meeting anyone, no. It just doesn't work like that.

Or at least a man who isn't out on bail for assault.

Every so often a thread appears that gives you a cold slap of reality about the way some people are.

He's on bail for assaulting her and the child yet the concern is if he can get a date. Ffs.

I would agree, a close family member has 4 kids from 2 relationships that he never sees but he is never single for long. These woman absolutely don’t care, move him in with their children, engagements etc.

i assume he can explain it, ex doesn’t allow contact or they moved away and plays the victim.

I guess that’s your answer. You won’t be the only one stupid enough.

Try to focus on yourself and your kids and give him as little headspace as possible.

No, he isn't. You might not want children yourself, but that doesn't mean you don't value decency, loyalty, following through on the commitments you made by becoming.a parent. A man who can abandon his children is hardly likely to treat you with any more respect.

Just for the record, we ( men) don't.

He’s a great prospect for anyone who doesn’t want kids.

If someone is naive enough to have kids with someone like that, they can’t complain when they end up bringing up the kids alone though.

Sadly this is true!

I don’t know OP, I thought my ex would land on his feet, quickly finding someone who would cater to his every whim, and pay for him as well. So far he’s not met anyone as far as I’m aware, and it’s not for want of trying, he was on tinder 10 days after our marriage broke down nearly three years ago. That said I can’t see where he has much to offer on paper and he has some funny ideas about facial hair now so maybe that’s putting women off!

Hybristophilia.
It's a thing.

It's absolutely about whether he'll find another woman. 😁

This isn't about whether he finds any other women.
It's not whether he is attractive.
He's not a nice man.

It's you feeling mad with yourself for getting involved in the first place.

Be kind to yourself, accept your bad choice, then move on.

Unfortunately women like you will always be attracted to "bad boys" so chances are, he'll be shagging left right and centre.

Bizarrely for too many women the shitter the man the more attractive they seem to find him.

why do you care if he has another relationship?
He's on bail for hitting you and he's left you with 2 young children.

Sorry but no. He'll be fine. Esp if he's charming.

Years ago, my then-good friend from university went on to have a few kids by different women. This made absolutely no difference to other women out there. Some women actually seemed to get turned on by it. He always did really well for himself female company-wise, and is now settled with the most gorgeous and sensible woman who is a senior midwife. He must be on about his 7th child by now. (don't speak anymore)

Not trying to make you feel bad, as these are just facts, and what your ex does now doesn't make any difference to your life anyway.

Well I’d have thought the same about a Man with 3 kids he barely sees, but it seems he reeled you in, so he’ll probably reel someone else in.

I don't think that it's bitterness. I think to be concerned about whether or not he'll be a 'catch' when dating indicates she's jealous he'll meet someone else.

A man who allegedly assaulted a toddler and instead of 'How the hell do I keep this man away forever?' she's concerned about if he'll date again.

@Bezerk if it makes you feel better I dumped a very hot guy after finding out he had 4 kids (by two women) he barely saw and didn't mention for four months. He even suggested he could have more with me!! I was out in a shot as I felt disgusted he was that sort of father.

Well then he will find dates.

But there are no guarantees he will be happy.

And you need to stop basing your happiness on his outcomes.

If he's hot and has a decent job - he will still be of interest. No question. If he also has a good social position he will be beating them off with a spade..

He will have s sob story. You're crazy and keep him from his kids. He'll soon be found out. Bitterness is allowed x

Unfortunately, there will always be women who will take him on and think they’ll be okay as a SM. Next thing you know they’ll be on MN asking if AIBU boyfriend keeps leaving the kids with me and going out with his mates.

Many of us do stupid thing but many hint is he’s out of your life now and kids if abusive

don’t worry if he meets someone else

or be thankful if he does and will leave you alone