Page 13 | To think a man with five kids he barely sees won’t be considered a catch on the dating scene?

BobbieTables · 24/08/2026 21:22

Bezerk · 24/08/2026 21:03

He saw them regularly when we were together. Since we split a few months ago, they don’t want to see him. And he’s on bail for assaulting me and our toddler so isn’t allowed to see ours

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He will probably lie about it to other women, but you and your kids are a thousand percent better off without him.
Being a horrible violent bastard like that is its own punishment, but hopefully he will also go to jail.

Frequency · 24/08/2026 21:22

Dandeloosha · 24/08/2026 20:51

Well he’s not going to tell them, is he? No woman in her right mind would take on a man with 5 kids unless they were fully grown and had their own homes.

My sister's ex has four kids. He only sees two of them (the kid's choice), and he found another woman quite easily.

Whether she is in her right mind is open for debate. The 50% of his children who have met her say not, knowing him the way I do I'd wager he has something to do with this poor woman's mental state.

Men like this target a certain type of woman (young and vulnerable), unfortunately.

SweatySpider321 · 24/08/2026 21:19

thistimelastweek · 24/08/2026 20:52

On the face of it you are so right.

But there might just be someone out there who will fall for the line that you are the crazy ex who denies him access to his children.

This. It’s twat ex painting by numbers! “I just want to see them”. “The ex is crazy and jealous”. “I don’t know what l did wrong” or “l have done nothing wrong”. “I miss my kids soooo much”. “She’s bleeding me dry”. “I just fell out of love, l don’t know why she being like this…”.

Theunamedcat · 24/08/2026 21:16

Look my ex found a whole new wife to support him she got with him while he was on bail for rape (of her friend) has been warned about him and his many arrests only ever met one of his children she has swallowed lie after lie after lie about him and married him

Even i wasnt THAT fucking stupid

TrixieFatell · 24/08/2026 21:14

Hossunat · 24/08/2026 21:14

"she spends the [£7 a week] child maintenance on getting her nails done" yada yada yada

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Puts it all in her lips and lashes. Tale as old as time

Hossunat · 24/08/2026 21:14

TrixieFatell · 24/08/2026 21:04

Psycho ex, parental alienation, I love my.kids yada yada yada. It's shit. Massive red flag walking but some people love a challenge.

"she spends the [£7 a week] child maintenance on getting her nails done" yada yada yada

mamajong · 24/08/2026 21:13

Some people's standards are in the toilet and some men are excellent liars but the main thing is you are well shot of him. Anyone who lays their hands on their partner does not deserve space in your brain, well done for having the courage to walk away.

Shaynac · 24/08/2026 21:12

He’s either not going to tell them or he’ll blame the lack of contact on you - probably try to portray you as some unreasonable “psycho” ex making like difficult for him. Some women lap up that nonsense, sadly.

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Bezerk · 24/08/2026 21:11

Surfermam97 · 24/08/2026 21:04

How many baby mama's does he have?

Two. It turns out he was almost as abusive to her as to me. She didn’t tell me until now because she’s still scared of him and wanted her kids to be safe when at his.

His story was that they broke up because she cheated, which she did.

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Rachelshair · 24/08/2026 21:09

He's probably slightly more of a catch than he would be if the kids lived with him. If he's hot then he'll probably still manage to have relationships. Life isn't fair!

PleaseDontAsk · 24/08/2026 21:08

Namechangetry · 24/08/2026 21:04

Ha a relative of mine is still married, unemployed, no money, overweight, boring as anything to talk to, lives with his mum, NC with his adult children and on bail for sexual contact with(what he thought was) a teenager, and he's had not one but two relationships from online dating this year! I can only say some women's standards are lower than hell.

For some women, the bar is so low, it's in hell and they're still tripping on it.

Namechangetry · 24/08/2026 21:04

Ha a relative of mine is still married, unemployed, no money, overweight, boring as anything to talk to, lives with his mum, NC with his adult children and on bail for sexual contact with(what he thought was) a teenager, and he's had not one but two relationships from online dating this year! I can only say some women's standards are lower than hell.

Surfermam97 · 24/08/2026 21:04

How many baby mama's does he have?

TrixieFatell · 24/08/2026 21:04

Psycho ex, parental alienation, I love my.kids yada yada yada. It's shit. Massive red flag walking but some people love a challenge.

wafflesmgee · 24/08/2026 21:04

Bezerk · 24/08/2026 20:51

Yes unfortunately

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Then he will still find some sorts of relationships…I’m just thinking if Boris Johnson managed to then a hot man would?

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Bezerk · 24/08/2026 21:03

Oliveoy · 24/08/2026 21:00

Well, it clearly didn't bother you that he had 3 children that he presumably didn't see

He saw them regularly when we were together. Since we split a few months ago, they don’t want to see him. And he’s on bail for assaulting me and our toddler so isn’t allowed to see ours

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Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 24/08/2026 21:02

Bezerk · 24/08/2026 20:59

Raising a toddler and a baby entirely alone keeps me pretty busy, alongside working 32hrs a week. I barely have time to shower, let alone make plans for the future

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T'is but a short phase in a long life that will ultimately be a million times better now he's not in it. You'll look back one day and be so happy you got out when you did, and feel nothing but pity for the poor woman who's lumped with him, I promise

Oliveoy · 24/08/2026 21:00

Well, it clearly didn't bother you that he had 3 children that he presumably didn't see

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Bezerk · 24/08/2026 20:59

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 24/08/2026 20:57

Unfortunately someone else probably will be too.

But that doesn't necessarily mean he'll live a happy, fulfilled life.

What about you? What are your plans for the future now you're free of him and whatever misery he inflicted on you?

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Raising a toddler and a baby entirely alone keeps me pretty busy, alongside working 32hrs a week. I barely have time to shower, let alone make plans for the future

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JHound · 24/08/2026 20:58

Bezerk · 24/08/2026 20:48

It’s my ex. I am feeling quite bitter tonight and could do with some reassurance that he won’t continue getting everything he wants…

Sorry to disappoint but from what I see, collectively women’s standards are in the toilet. I mean how else would some men manage to have loads of kids with multiple women?

He will definitely find somebody.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 24/08/2026 20:58

thistimelastweek · 24/08/2026 20:52

On the face of it you are so right.

But there might just be someone out there who will fall for the line that you are the crazy ex who denies him access to his children.

Yes

rumplestiltskin88 · 24/08/2026 20:57

He won’t be a “catch” it will reduce the numbers interested considerably due to the baggage but there is someone for everyone out there .

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 24/08/2026 20:57

Bezerk · 24/08/2026 20:50

No, but the two youngest are… I was stupid enough to take a chance on him

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Unfortunately someone else probably will be too.

But that doesn't necessarily mean he'll live a happy, fulfilled life.

What about you? What are your plans for the future now you're free of him and whatever misery he inflicted on you?

PleaseDontAsk · 24/08/2026 20:57

Bezerk · 24/08/2026 20:50

No, but the two youngest are… I was stupid enough to take a chance on him

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You did so somebody else will.

Always, someone willing to settle just for the sake of having something.

CookingSucks · 24/08/2026 20:56

Desperate folk might. But otherwise, hell no!