To think a man with five kids he barely sees won’t be considered a catch on the dating scene?

I don’t think he will have a problem, my ex has 4 kids with me that he doesn’t see (hasnt for years) and he has no trouble meeting women

He won't be considered a catch by an intelligent, emotionally stable, independent woman.

But those are not the ones he goes for, are they? He goes for the low self-esteem, vulnerable women who think they are the only ones who can change him and will swallow his stories of his crazy exes who didn't understand him and don't let him see his beloved kids.

So yes, he'll get someone soon, most likely have a couple more kids with her and then move on to the next idiot.

Well Carrie Johnson did ..

Wouldn’t touch him with a barge pole!

I doubt he'll have any problem. My friend has 5 kids to her ex husband and neither she nor he had problems dating when they split. They've now both remarried other people .His wife already had one child and they've had another between them. Her husband doesn't have any children.
I don't know if it makes a difference that they were all to one long term marriage.
He had several long term relationships before he remarried none of which seemed to have any issue with him having so many children.

Yep but you loved him when you didn't know what he was like. Now you know just be relieved not to be with him anymore and that you've protected your dcs from him.
Karma's a bitch and will get him. You might not necessarily witness it but it will happen.
Move on with your life. The years when you don't know your arse from your elbow because you're single working mum will get easier and suddenly your dcs will be all grown up. Enjoy this time.

That's wonderful. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Everyone is different!

Ive got 3 kids. Partner has 2. Works well for us.

I mean you were happy enough to give him 2 so I’m sure someone else will gladly give him some more, he must be quite the charmer.

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More trouble than it's worth tbh. If I wanted kids I would have had my own. Not interested in someone else's kids influencing my life. Wouldnt touch a man with child-aged offspring, total dealbreaker.

My ex sees his kids one weekend every 6 weeks. He’s a high ranking public figure. He’s bagged himself a much much younger pretty woman…. My view, good luck to her!

Yanbu but focus less on him and what he wants and more on yourself.

You would think. I had exactly that and he’s went on to have two more with another unfortunate soul (she’s well matched though put it that way)
best revenge is living a good life. He’s out of ours entirely

@MageKingYeah I posted about him before. His last girlfriend before this one told his exes with younger kids about him hiding his income from CMS. He was apoplectic at them doubling his payments. Didn’t affect me as mine are adults but gave me, and a fair few on here when I posted about it, a good laugh.

my girls, to his horror, have coordinated meet ups with their siblings. I don’t have a lot to do with it but I get on well with one of his exes and I’m polite to the ex wife (I cannot completely forgive her personal cruelty to my girls when it suited her to believe him and I think she had a cheek to instantly expect me to help her out when he showed his colours)

There is nothing ‘right’ about dating a man with kids for me!

There's plenty a mumsnetter that would be glad of him lol.

Well, I wouldn't. But then it's always amazed me that some men seem to have tons of kids from different women, yet the women seem to fight over him-I particularly remember a man who looked about 50 who was definitely not what most would call conventionally attractive who was going on about finding younger women as "I've only got 3 sons, most of my kids are girls and I want an even number".
You might say it's none of my business, but I'm one of the folk paying for these kids he doesn't even look after! I suppose childbearing takes it out of us, not the men (apologies to the decent blokes who stay with the mum of their kids).

Womwn have lots of kids with men who dont see their children let alone date them

Nothing wrong dating a man with kids

You wouldn't think so but early in the days of dating my colleagues now husband decided to stop seeing his kids from his previous relationship because it was inconvenient and difficult as the kids weren't happy about his new relationship. Surprisingly my colleague was happy about this as the kids were cramping her style! To this day he still doesn't see his kids from his first marriage. She has two kids to him herself now, hopefully he doesn't get fed up with this family too!

How was a man with three kids better than a man with five kids?

I'm sure, though you can't lie about most of that (though the most serious bits you can) but even on the less serious bits he's still no catch - late 40s living with his mum, no job no money, overweight, boring as hell. I can't understand what anyone would see in him

What attracted you to a father of three and did he see those kids at that point?

Well, you did once upon a time and what’s 2 more 🤣

Don‘t take this the wrong way. I‘m in a similar boat and my ex found someone else to have another child with.

As PPs said many women will believe the crazy ex story. Let him have it all. Give him enough rope and eventually he may hang himself (not proverbial I may add). Focus on your kids and be glad he’s your ex.

You didn’t though and there will be other women who, like you, won’t either.

Just be glad you’re away from him. Hopefully he won’t want to see the kids and you can move on.