To think a man with five kids he barely sees won’t be considered a catch on the dating scene?

Exactly.

He will be talking about his 'crazy ex' who turned his kids against him and paint himself as the victim.

There is always a woman gullible enough to fall for that type of guys.

OP I would just focus on the fact that you are well rid of that violent loser and focus on building your own, happy life with your kids.

And he’s on bail for assaulting me and our toddler so isn’t allowed to see ours

This is the reason all but the most desperate won’t be interested, not the fact he has had multiple children from previous relationships that don’t impact on how he lives his life…. Obviously they need to know that and he’ll doubtless won’t tell them on the first date!

Sorry op but there probably will be someone but what you have to realise is that they won’t genuinely be happy . My ex is a raging alcoholic and still managed to remarry but he’s put her through far worse than he did me , he tied to kill her and the kids by trying to crash the car a few weeks ago but she still stays. Can’t imagine she’s happy though. There’s always someone naive / desperate enough.

Sadly there are plenty of other fools out there. Everyone always blindly thinks they are the one who will tame a bloke like this.

yes women will date him, there is desperate ones out there. My friend met a man who had 5 kids then got herself pregnant to him without his agreement! I felt sorry for him to be honest, although he should have had the snip after child number 3 IMO.

if he has assaulted you, then yes that will make women think twice. Make sure you press charges and that everyone knows what he did to you.

You'd think that given how awful he is @Bezerk would be glad to be shot of him.

I never get these posts where it is stated that the ex is a complete bastard.
Which he appears to be here.

Not just unpleasant but truly awful, yet the OP is concerned with how easy it will be for him to date.

Makes me a bit 🤔

Sadly some guys are like this, my friends DD dated someone who had 5 kids with 5 different women, within less than a year she was pregnant … no idea how many kids he has now but he pays sod all fir child 6

No sensible woman would take on a package deal like that unless the splits and child arrangements are fully amicable and he pulls his own weight with the child care.. Or maybe if he is really wealthy and can afford to support every dependent sufficiently without impacting on a new partner.

However even if he isn't, there are some women out there who are gullible enough to believe his version of the break up tales, and even feel sorry for him .

Not always true, I don’t think. My dd, who is 17 has a deadbeat dad who has never so much as asked after her. As a result, he’s the only one in his family not to be married, now. Everyone knows he has a child he ignores and women gave him a wide berth. Different culture to ours though.

A couple of posts in and we have the winner.

Yes to a lot of women this will be the only consideration.

Well you dated a man with 3 kids he barely sees so you're better placed to answer than we are.

So you went into a relationship with him knowing he already had 3 children. Not really any worse than the 5 is it?

Edit: think I misread that compeltely.

I wouldn't give this man any head space, why are you asking if someone will get with him just because he has 5 kids, yes someone will likely get with him, no differently than in the future you might meet someone willing to get with you and your two kids.
You need to forget he exists and moved on with your life, maybe some counselling will help

I didn't realise there were that many men with 5 kids until I started dating online. They tend to just lie/ big up how much of a Dad they are Tbh.
But you can build a life you love ❤️ without him xx

I would like to say no, but I’ve read too many threads on Mumsnet from the women where the underlying theme seems to be “any man is better than no man.”

However, if that’s the kind of relationship he ends up in, I wouldn’t really say that’s a happy one.

The bigger question is, why do you care? He’s obviously an ex for a reason, and he doesn’t sound like a catch to me, so just be grateful you’re away from him, focus on yourself and your kids, and stop worrying about what dead beat dad is up to.

Be pleased more of your life wasn’t wasted on him.

It’s very unfortunate you had two children with him but you did, that can’t be changed. Focus on your self and giving your children a stable, secure and loving childhood. If you have a baby and a toddler it’s impossible to imagine them being independent but before you know it they’ll be at school.

He will meet someone else, he might have more children. There are plenty of women willing to be in a relationship with a waste of space either because they don’t want to be on their own or they want a baby. If he’s good looking or charming they’re even more likely to believe his ‘my ex’s were crazy’ narrative. But he has at least two ex’s with children and if he has anymore they will also be in the same position as you eventually.

He won’t change!

As PP say, there will always be a woman who falls for the fake sob story.

But he's never going to get everything he wants. Violent abusive selfish twats like him are always feeding an angry black hole inside that can never be sated.

Wish you the best OP. Try not to let him live rent-free in your head.

DH has a friend who has 7 children by 3 different women. He married the mother of the first three, had 2 with an affair partner, who got fed up when he wouldn't divorce his wife. He then went back to his wife, who gave a home to the two DC's from the affair (mums new partner didn't want them) he then left his wife with the five dcs moved in with a very young women who he had 2 children with, left her went back to his wife!
Inevitably his marriage broke down.
DH and I went to his second wedding to a women who also had loads of kids by two different dads, fortunately as both bride and groom were older no more kids. Marriage lasted 12 months, and he has had 3 partners since then.
The current one he has been with for a few years now.He sees the 2 DC's that were abandoned by mum who are now adults.
He is not a good looking man but has a certain "something" about him, a definite "charm"? I don't know, he is not an unpleasant man, DH thinks that his behaviour is down to him being the only child of a widow, I don't agree but he's still out there and I am sure that if he splits with this partner there will be others along!

Then it's a good thing he doesn't see them!

Judging by threads on here, others will take a chance on him too. However, long term karma will get him. Sounds like he’s not exactly going to be having a lovely old age surrounded by friends and doting children

People only want to see what they choose and of course ignore all the red flags

Totally agree with others. I am on line dating and this is half the battle. Men (or anyone but in my case men) can package themselves up like a wonderful gift and present themselves and their situation however they want and you have to make a judgment call. But often these men are skilled actors and manipulators and know exactly what to say to get women to take a chance on them.

As others have said… my ex stops me, she moved away…. The most obvious ones are the ‘crazy ex’ ones of course but they are starting to realise that they have to be more clever than that. These men are the greatest showman types!

I think about how my ex (father to my DC who have now made their own minds up about him) must present himself to others. He really seems like a catch when you first meet him. Very funny, warm, interested and interesting but an abusive person to me and serial cheater. I know that I (the ex and mother of his DC) will have been used so many times as thé unreasonable one. I probably also cheated (I didn’t) , I was a terrible parent, I made access difficult (quite the opposite) and I was a nightmare.

They can say whatever they like and a strong, emotionally intelligent woman will see through it. Some will fall for all of the rubbish unfortunately. So yes he will meet someone as these men can’t be on their own and he’ll spin his yarns. Please look for the positives and think ‘thank fuck it’s not me anymore’

He’s no catch but not everyone will see that

If he’s good-looking and tells a good sob-story there will always be an overly empathetic woman ready to lap it up. I can’t hate on my ex’s new squeeze (who dislikes me because she’s bought his stories about me being the crazy ex) as sadly I was once her.

All I can do is be civil but removed, confident in the knowledge that like me, eventually she will start to see that the gaps in his stories are getting too wide and too numerous to stitch together.