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Threw water at my DP, was I justified

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Beestings1 · 24/08/2026 20:26

I feel bad for doing this, it’s really out of character for me but I did it instinctively and out of shock. I was stood up pouring some water from the sink on my lunch break, DP backed up against me so his bum was touching mine and he broke wind. I turned around and swilled him with water. I know it was wrong but the disrespect and shock made me angry in that moment.

He is now saying I was out of order and isn’t accepting my apology.

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thistimelastweek · 24/08/2026 21:37

SerenaCat93 · 24/08/2026 20:28

The shock of a fart made you instinctively throw water at him?

Ridiculous! 😂

I know!
And he who farted is offended by a bit of water throwing! Not punches or kicks. Water!
It's like an episode of EastEnders.

ExtraOnions · 24/08/2026 21:34

He farted on you ? That’s disgusting and disrespectful - way more disrespectful than throwing water on him.

My husband wouid never do that, and if he did the verbal volley he would get would be far worse than a splash of water

This man does not respect you.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 24/08/2026 21:34

Beestings1 · 24/08/2026 21:24

I have tried my best to reason, but reading these replies has given me a reality check.

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I wouldn't waste your energy reasoning with him, honestly - he's repugnant.

Just get on with your evening and your day tomorrow and don't give him a second thought. Don't go pandering to him, that's what he wants, he enjoys being the victim - don't give him that power.

Dogshitter · 24/08/2026 21:34

If my OH did that I’d have probably laughed…but we’re a pair of very childish idiots. I’d definitely have dealt him an equally rotten revenge at some point!

Thepossibility · 24/08/2026 21:33

What he did was worse. He was being disrespectful, you reacted in the moment. It's not like you ran to the sink to drench him, he backed his dirty arse into you while you were already standing there.

Strawberryteabag · 24/08/2026 21:30

He sounds like an immature manchild!

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Beestings1 · 24/08/2026 21:24

ClassyLass · 24/08/2026 20:37

It was a reaction. It was dramatic (but understandable) and now he's being a baby. Why don't you get a takeaway and cuddle after laughing about how silly you both are and how short life is to be hung up on this kind of thing.

I have tried my best to reason, but reading these replies has given me a reality check.

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ReadingSoManyThreads · 24/08/2026 21:21

He's revolting. And now he's acting the victim after doing that to you? Fuck me, he's repulsive.

You did NOTHING wrong. You reacted instinctively - you threw water, not an object that would cause any harm. He's overreacting, playing the victim and turning his disgusting actions around to make you be the one at fault. I'd take a good long hard think on whether this is the man you want to spend your life with.

CamillaMcCauley · 24/08/2026 21:06

NotMajorTom · 24/08/2026 20:31

Interesting

people can throw water at a partner who does something they don’t like and that’s fine…

Interesting

Your focus is on the reaction to the bad act and not the bad act itself….

DogsandFlowers · 24/08/2026 21:05

NotMajorTom · 24/08/2026 20:31

Interesting

people can throw water at a partner who does something they don’t like and that’s fine…

This is crazy.

DogsandFlowers · 24/08/2026 21:04

SerenaCat93 · 24/08/2026 20:28

The shock of a fart made you instinctively throw water at him?

Ridiculous! 😂

I’d have punched him, not ridiculous in the SLIGHTEST. Dirty pig

CamillaMcCauley · 24/08/2026 21:01

Let him sulk then, I think you were more than justified and I wouldn’t have been apologizing unless he did so first.

PleaseDontAsk · 24/08/2026 21:00

He won't do that again!

ThatWaryOchreJoker · 24/08/2026 20:59

YourAquaLion · 24/08/2026 20:55

He is an immature idiot and got exactly what he deserved, stand your ground!

This^
FAFO

12234m · 24/08/2026 20:59

Stop apologising. What he did was revolting.

Plmnki · 24/08/2026 20:58

Dump him and move on, he is a repulsive pig

RemindMeIn15Minutes · 24/08/2026 20:58

Yeah, fuck him the disgusting arsehole.

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 24/08/2026 20:57

What he did was fucking disgusting. Why the fuck did you apologise?!

YourAquaLion · 24/08/2026 20:55

He is an immature idiot and got exactly what he deserved, stand your ground!

ConstitutionHill · 24/08/2026 20:54

soothingaloevera · 24/08/2026 20:51

Domestic abuse, be ashamed

yeah right. Jog on.

soothingaloevera · 24/08/2026 20:51

Domestic abuse, be ashamed

grinandslothit · 24/08/2026 20:50

His farting on you was out of order you can just tell him that the water was just a joke and he needs to get over it

CookingSucks · 24/08/2026 20:43

@Beestings1 as long as it was cold water, then he absolutely deserved it. Shame it wasn’t the hose!

ClassyLass · 24/08/2026 20:37

It was a reaction. It was dramatic (but understandable) and now he's being a baby. Why don't you get a takeaway and cuddle after laughing about how silly you both are and how short life is to be hung up on this kind of thing.

LizandDerekGoals · 24/08/2026 20:35

If it wasn't holy water and he didnt start to burn, he is being ridiculous. You shock someone near water and you get wet.

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