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AIBU to feel proud after managing a solo walk?

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QuestionableMouse · 24/08/2026 19:57

I've been struggling with anxiety and agoraphobia since my mum died in Jan. I haven't left my flat for more than a few minutes since her funeral in Feb.

I've just walked around my block six times by myself and didn't panic. Feeling very proud of myself at the moment! I know it's on a tiny thing but it genuinely feels like a huge accomplishment! 🥳🥳😁😁

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IKillHousePlants · 24/08/2026 23:17

You should be very proud of yourself.

spiderlight · 24/08/2026 23:01

That's an incredible achievement - well done! I genuinely mean that because I would really struggle to do it so I know how brave you've been. I'm so sorry for your loss.

whythehellnow · 24/08/2026 22:59

You are amazing and your strength is recovering! I don’t know if you play video games but my kids are obsessed with Zelda Breath of the Wild and I see your hearts and stamina increasing Grin

I suffered agoraphobia for maybe a decade after bereavement, it’s awful and very misunderstood in my experience. I couldn’t travel on escalators, couldn’t stand on train platforms or go to the cinema or concerts, the silence and the deafening sound of the emptiness around me.

I wouldn’t have believed that I could recover but I have. And you will. Time heals, be kind to yourself and celebrate every small step forward Flowers

Anyahyacinth · 24/08/2026 22:50

Aww how fantastic 💐 good on you OP

bocketyaulbag · 24/08/2026 22:48

Well done, I hope it's the first of many such.

MyTakeIsntYourTake · 24/08/2026 22:34

Amazing-try to do it everyday, even if it's raining but don't give yourself a hard time if you miss a day. I think you'll do it though!!
Its a really great start. 💐

BePoisedPlumUser · 24/08/2026 22:29

Well done!

onemorerose · 24/08/2026 22:11

I love this post op. And another a few posts up who’s also going for a walk. It’s the small things you do in life that make a big difference. It may not feel small to you now but keep at it and it will feel like a piece of cake.

latetothefisting · 24/08/2026 22:04

well done OP! You could have done it just once and still been proud of your achievement so to keep going six times is amazing!

Maybe try at a different time tomorrow or when you're next able to go out? I went for an early walk the other day because I had to be out of my house - I'm never usually an early riser but was surprised at how nice and crisp it felt!

SallyAnnDrivesACar · 24/08/2026 22:04

Well done OP, I really mean that. I've been in the same position many moons ago and it's hard to get out of. Keep going, only YOU can make this better.

TheJoyousHiker · 24/08/2026 22:00

Well done!

Idontjetwashthefucker · 24/08/2026 22:00

Very well done, you should feel proud.

Sorry for your loss Flowers

SuePerblybuilt · 24/08/2026 21:09

QuestionableMouse · 24/08/2026 19:57

I've been struggling with anxiety and agoraphobia since my mum died in Jan. I haven't left my flat for more than a few minutes since her funeral in Feb.

I've just walked around my block six times by myself and didn't panic. Feeling very proud of myself at the moment! I know it's on a tiny thing but it genuinely feels like a huge accomplishment! 🥳🥳😁😁

So sorry for your loss.
You did amazing, it took a lot of courage, as someone with social anxiety, even walking into a pub or whatever someone else may do without a thought is a big deal to me at times.
Your Mum would be so proud!
Sending you a big hug in congrats, and it’s a cliché, but….U got this!

Velumental · 24/08/2026 21:03

QuestionableMouse · 24/08/2026 20:02

Thank you all! 🥰🥰🥰

Not sure what motivated me tbh. I just felt like I could do it do I did. It actually felt really nice being out in the fresh air l!

You had a moment of clarity and you grabbed it! Well done!! 💞

BlondeFool · 24/08/2026 21:02

That’s brilliant. Go you.

Sorry for your loss.

LoyalGoldMentor · 24/08/2026 21:00

Well done you! One day/walk at a time. You're doing great. I hope you had good weather for it too x

JuliaBraverman · 24/08/2026 20:55

I think that’s a huge step (ha) that you have taken…. Also best form of exercise. So sorry for your loss xxx

coffeeies · 24/08/2026 20:49

I could have typed this myself apart from losing my mother.
Im planning on going for a long walk tomorrow so 15 mins through my estate then come to a back foot path of the county side, i just have to get past the estate first.
plan.

Full battery earphones claire weekes playing.
Bottle of water, lunch box backpack.
And focus.

Sounds stupid lol.

YourAquaLion · 24/08/2026 20:27

Absolutely incredible OP hats off to you! Keep up the great walking it is also very good therapy!! Xx

Trumpisacunt · 24/08/2026 20:16

You go girl!

Manename · 24/08/2026 20:15

Sorry for you loss

Well done on your walk. Brilliant As others have said keep on getting out. But if you try and don’t manage tomorrow, or do tomorrow but not Wednesday it doesn’t mean you’re back to before, it means it’s a slow process. Enjoy the pizza and thank you for giving me some happy news

Mydahliasareshit · 24/08/2026 20:11

Brilliant, well done you OP!

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/08/2026 20:10

You rock!!!

Glitterbiscuits · 24/08/2026 20:09

That is a lovely thing to read! Can you come back tomorrow with another bit of good news?

Ribenaberry12 · 24/08/2026 20:08

That’s awesome, well done, OP. 🌺

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