Overhead neighbours talking about me?

You don't have a door for a cat flap?

Shouting names repeatedly will be annoying for your neighbours, find another way.

I'd be annoyed too if my neighbour was out yelling for their cats every night

There is no need to call a cat anyway they know where their food dish is 🤣

I didn't realise calling cats in is so annoying. 😆 I don't have a cat flap because I have nowhere to put one and one of my cats is too thick to use one. They go out separately and I sometimes call one of them in in the evening if they're still out. I'm not bellowing but just calling their name and doing a little whistle. 🤣 Not late late though and not every evening. I like mine in by 7-8pm ish.

It's absolutely normal to moan about anti social behaviour. I like our neighbours but their barking dog annoys me and I moan to another neighbour about it.

Stop shouting your cats late at night! Just keep them in or leave them out.

wondering why they didn’t approach me directly

Why? Are you really unaware that it’s antisocial and need people to tell you?
The reason people don’t approach people is because they think “this person can’t be so unaware as to not realise, and therefore they’ve already decided they don’t give a shit”.

You’re calling your cats “late evening and multiple times”. Of course it’s annoying!!!!

I have many cats and have it sorted so that soon as I shake there treats at night they all come fleeing in together because there ready and hungry for supper..I would be annoyed if I heard countless calls daily tbh

How late is late and how many times is multiple times?

that would annoy me I have to be honest.

@crazykatzz listening to someone call their cats in can be infuriating. Don’t they just use the cat flap and come in whenever they feel like it?

I suppose they want you to stop but don’t want to be the one to ask so they gossip hoping one will get annoyed enough to go speak to you.

Just stop. Accept you’ve been annoying and carry on speaking to them.

Have you never had a quiet moan about a neighbour/friend/colleague, OP? Your helpful neighbour sounds as though she was just being polite in her responses to the neighbour who initiated the conversation.

But you have now learned that your shouting for the cats is irritating, so you need to stop. Maybe install a cat flap so that the cats can come on when they're ready.

My neighbour sometimes calls their cats at night or early morning and it’s annoying! Get a cat flap.

I think I'd be popping round with some flowers and saying you overheard them (which they already know if they saw you) and that you're sorry you've been disturbing them.

It’s normal to talk about other people. They didn’t say anything that isn’t true. Take no notice!

I call my cat in. Doesn’t seem that weird to me.

You do sound annoying.

YABU, get a cat flap and stop waking people up

Calling loudly for cats every night would be annoying. You must know that.

Cats aren't like dogs anyway. They aren't recall animals. What they do know is when food is being dispensed. They will come back anyway whether you call on or not. The calling is more for you.

Train them with a rattle box and dreamies. My cats would always come back for that. I would pop them both some flowers and say you’re sorry you didn’t realise. I think it’s always best to be freindly with the neighbours. Unless they are really really awful.

My neighbour shouting her cat(s) in late at night would be a problem for me and I would make it clear it was a problem. You shouldn’t be so inconsiderate op.

You are a bloody nuisance of a neighbour. Why on earth do you think it is ok to stand on your back step shouting numerous times a night? It doesn't matter why you are shouting, you are still being bloody anti social. If a couple of 14 year old's were gobbing off and waking you up every night i am sure you would be complaining.

Mine were enticed in rattling a dry food box. Never needed to shout.

You should have been able to work out for yourself long before this that yelling for your cats multiple times a night would be a complete pain in the arse for your poor neighbours. People need to sleep. Take it on the chin. Get a cat flap, stop yelling and move on.

Neighbour 1 wasn’t too bad, she was just agreeing with the facts. Try shaking a box of dried food / treats instead as the cats can hear it but it’s quieter and less annoying to humans.

You would be unreasonable to make her do you a massive favour whilst you go away, knowing you’re going to ignore her afterwards!

I’d have asked if they meant me and apologised. Why do you need to call repeatedly for cats every evening-there’s no need? Get a cat flap.

Yet again i come to the comments to get to the point of the story.

Neighbours 1 & 2 sound a bit fed up but the neighbour looking after your cats didn't sound 'catty' she literally just answered the other neighbour with the facts, said she just went to bed and then was kind of forced to continue the convo and agreed it can sound loud.
What was she suppose to say if these are true facts? Are you loud and outside their windows?
She has to try and balance a fine line between both you and them if she doesn't want to get on anybody's wrong side