Overhead neighbours talking about me?

Late evening and multiple times?

yeah that would piss me off too @crazykatzz YABU.

It may be louder than you realise OP. It is annoying to get woken up regularly at night. You could just mention you heard that people were bothered by it and you'll try to be quieter. Cats have good hearing so there may be no need to shout.

If you can I’d get a microchip cat flap and put it on incoming only after a certain time so that once they are in, they stay in.
When we had multiple cats this is how we kept track of them without having to keep calling them.
They should be in ideally by dusk because that’s when they tend to go further afield and when birds etc are settling down.
Hearing someone repeatedly calling is annoying, a lady across the road from us does it, I’m not sure I’d bother moaning to someone about it but I might agree if someone asked me about it, so maybe that’s why she hasn’t previously mentioned it, it hadn’t come up in conversation with anyone else.

My neighbour does this its bloody annoying but she uses a baby voice to call them which is the most annoying part

The correct response to hearing this would be mild embarrassment that you've been annoying your neighbors and immediate decision to change the annoying behavior then forget it and move along.

Why don’t people hear shit like this and reflect on their own actions instead of immediately getting defensive? As if owning cats isn’t antisocial enough - you yawp their names out late at night. They were justified in what they said and you need to try to be a better neighbour.

which one are you annoyed at? I don't think neighbour who is looking after your cats said anything particularly rude, she just agreed that you shouting from the back of your house will be louder to your neighbour at the back, which is surely just a statement of fact? Neighbour 2 does sound bitchy and I would understand you not helping her out again.

But also, if 3 different people all agreed you calling your cats is annoying, you should probably stop doing it!

People talk though. I would say the same too. It actually sounds quite funny tbh. The same way they haven't approached OP about it... she could also. Its not a big deal given its true.

I’d get the issue sorted before you go away so that you aren’t worrying and nursing your resentment all holiday. Just apologise for disturbing them and say you will try to keep it down in future.

If you refuse to speak to them when you get back, …where does that get you? . It will make you very unhappy and isolated living amongst them. And you will only be hurting yourself.
Try not to escalate it. Put yourself out to get along with them, as you always have done until now.
Just accept accountability and move on. Then you will feel better about it and about yourself.

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"Gosh, isn't it funny how we all do things which can annoy our neighbours. I never thought about calling my cats but I'm always aware of playing music too loud or gossiping in the street."

But she obviously didnt. If i was doing something obnoxious I'd hope someone would tell me.

Yes, this.

In fairness, OP is also an adult woman and should have the awareness to know that standing at the door and yelling for your cats every night is not acceptable behaviour (unless you live in the middle of nowhere).

I would be so annoyed as well tbh. Every night with the yelling? Nope.

What I want to know is what instructions have been given to the neighbour who will look after the cats?! Won’t she have to call for them in your place? The other neighbour is going to hate her too by the end of the holiday!

Sounds like you are a pain in the arse shouting your cats late and waking people up. You’re pissing your neighbours off, so stop. Leave your cats out if they want. Or get a cat flap.

I call my cat in at about 8pm every night. Just once and if he doesn't come in he can stay out till the morning.

I couldn't give a rats arse what my neighbours think as one side has barking dogs and the other side has a security light angled into my bedroom that rivals the brightness of Sol so they can strip wire and yell at each other into the early hours. Yes I have reported it, waiting for the council to do something.

Multiple, loud shouts late at night would be annoying.

And they don't feel awkward to gossip behind her back and make her feel shitty? Nah that's ridiculous behaviour. These are adult women, if their neighbour is disturbing them they need to have a conversation with her.

They definitely do. I have an adventurer and he will come as soon as I call him (out on the back street, not near windows or from the door!).

They shouldn't have to say it 'to her face'. May people feel awkward and don't like confrontation.

It should be obvious you do not stand at your backdoor shouting cats names over and over again .

Your neighbours are being bitchy . I'm sure calling for your cats isn't as bad as the loud music .

I hope they feel embarrassed that you heard them .

You need To bring them in earlier. I've got four cats so I know it's possible. They're in by 5ish. I would never call out for them at night and disturb people. Especially in this heat everyone has their windows open. You might be waking up peoples kids too. Totally selfish. If mine haven't come home by late I walk around street very quietly and gently rattle a cup with a few kibbles in.

So you're annoyed and upset at your neighbours' behaviour? But not bothered about your behaviour as they experience it?

If you don't like it, change your behaviour first, then their behaviour will change and nobody is upset/annoyed. Win win all round.

What you mean by late evening? There's a difference between 9pm (annoying) and 11pm (antisocial).