Overhead neighbours talking about me?

If she's happy to use you for babysitting, she shouldn't be badmouthing behind your back. Fine if she'd said I appreciate your help, but do you mind being quieter around the cats.

I can see why that would be infuriating for the neighbours, to be honest. I don't understand why it never crossed your mind that it might be annoying? You need to sort out alternatives before they report you formally

You should have said sorry didn’t realise I was so loud, while we are on the subject of loud, if you keep your music down I will keep my voice down.

You've apologized and will change your behavior going forward, that's all you need to do.

Having a minor moan about a neighbor doesn't mean that they don't like you @crazykatzz, they just find this particular behavior irritating. One of my immediate neighbors is rather nosey and anything you mention to him will be repeated to others - I've moaned about him gossiping a couple of times, but I do like him!

Well, yes, this is annoying and I'm not surprised your neighbours are moaning about you! Surely you must realise that shouting multiple times late at night is going to annoy your neighbours?

Used to have a neighbour that did that when I lived in a flat and she was downstairs, she would walk all around the outside of the entire block calling and whistling this horrendous high pitch whistle for an easy 20-30 minutes every fucking evening. Never at the same time, just whenever she was ready to go to bed I guess. Could be 8pm could be midnight.

I felt rage just reading your post as it sent me right back. I was younger then and too shy to say anything but I got so frustrated some nights I would literally cry as she'd wake my son up alot doing it.

"Terrible neighbours are the ones who get criticised and don't change."
This ^
You've apologised and you care that you've upset them. Make the changes when you get back. It'll be fine.
Enjoy your holiday!

You've done the right thing to address it and apologise. No need to stress, now that you know it is a problem you will stop.

Look. You're clearly a good person.
You've found out something's a problem. You'll be doing your best to be considerate going forward and you have directly responded to your neighbour, who probably feels ashamed of how things played out.

Make the change and move on from it as best you can. Terrible neighbours are the ones who get criticised and don't change.

Oh, and the reason the neighbours haven't said anything to you in the past is because they value you as a neighbour, and don't want to upset you/rock the boat.

I have an elderly neighbour who listens to radio 2 in his garage most days and hums along thinking he can't be heard but the walls are thin and we can hear every goddamn note. But... we really like our neighbours and frankly, we'd miss the terrible music and humming if they weren't around any more, so we've learned to be only 3/100 irritated by it, rather than the 70/100 bothered we'd be if they were horrible people. Neighbours can get away with a lot more if people like and respect them.

You say multiple times and 'late evening'.
If you're waking people up, that's not evening. That's night. And anti social.
I have a neighbour who lets their dog into the front garden at about midnight. All the bloody thing does is bark, and then they spend 10 minutes trying to coax it back in the house. It is infuriating.
And don't forget sound travels much further at night without all the background noise of the daytime.
I've owned cats for 26 years and the only time I've called any of them in is when one of the little buggers has disappeared when they're due at the vet.

I'd be more embarrassed about my antisocial behaviour which disturbs people if I were you and pack it in.

Very unreasonable, you ought to have more consideration for your neighbours. Imagine getting your baby off to sleep and then suddenly someone outside screaming for MOG MiLO GINGER.... and the rest, mind you not just once in a blue moon but every night. The total disregard for others and lack of self awareness is astounding

I don’t understand, why do you have to shout for the cats?

Go on your holiday, let her look after the cats. Then get a cat flap get the cats used to it.
Then next time u see the 2 neighbours, doesn't matter if theyre not together, do it separately. Say ' just to let you know karen,ive had a cat flap fitted so I won't be disturbing u shouting the cats' walk off and just gray rock her from then on

I didn't know cats knew their names. Tbh if they came when called why don't people just call them in early like at 6pm instead of disturbing people late at night.

Why would someone decide not to talk to neighbours after hearing this rather than feel bad she's been waking them up so frequently? Have we turned into a nation of narcissists?

She is waking up the neighbours, every night.
Sorry, that is not acceptable.

My neighbour who doesn't work and blasts techno music all day long also does this. She screams at her dog when she won't come in at 1am (yep) after her final back garden wee of the day. Wakes us up every night. Her daughter also gets home at 1am and has the car music absolutely pounding. They are SO noisy. We're actually now going to sell, thanks to them.

Oh, but God forbid we have the car radio on at a reasonable volume when coming home (and yes it is reasonable). She's straight out telling us "jokingly" to keep it down. As my partner says, she just enjoys the interaction and attention, so we've decided not to talk to her anymore.

Do you shout at the cat? I only talk in whispers to my dogs when they go out in the garden for wee after 9pm. I detest the thought of waking anyone. You have no idea how this sort of noise escalates and aggravates when it's day after day.

Now you know you're doing something that's annoying others. It may not be the nicest way to find out but at least you can stop shouting in the late evening when people are trying to go to bed and children are sleeping.

You sound like an irresponsible cat owner frankly. Cat proof your garden, your cats should not be wandering everywhere. Use a proper registered trained cat sitter or cattery when you are on holiday. Stop relying on neighbours to do the work of professionals - looking after your pets. And don’t let your cats wander!

I would not worry ive heard some, not all, of my neighbours talking about me but i really dont care. I will still do whst i like in my own home, dont take it personally its only talk

Owned cats for over 20 years and never called them. Come in when they want via a cat flap... Not sure they know their names. Can't imagine why you would do this.

How late are you calling your cats?