Overhead neighbours talking about me?

Of course she doesn’t like you because you are waking her up shouting in your garden and waking her up. Go and find them much earlier or just leave them out. Cats can be injured in the day it’s not just at night.

My neighbour also calls her cat in LOUDLY every bloody night. It's irritating.

This.

Is this a joke? Serious question. If I heard that conversation I would think how annoying I had been and stop calling for the cats. Not that the ladies were being mean.

get them in earlier in the evening. Its very rude and inconsiderate to be shouting late in the evening waking people up.

Well at least now you know you're annoying then. Either carry on or do something else less annoying.

I wouldn't be ignoring anyone or sending them to Coventry - too much effort. I'd be thinking "are they just gossiping or do they have a legitimate complaint that I need to hear?" Only you know what the situation is so adjust accordingly, If their complaint is legitimate, learn from it, adjust your late night cat shouting and move on. If it isn't then maybe distance yourself but ignoring people and punishing with withdrawal isn't sensible adult behaviour.

I think we all talk about other people. Even our children, our husbands and our parents/ siblings. I know it’s wrong but it’s also part of life. If you are good friends I would try not to worry too much about it

Don’t let your cats outside then?

Or if you don’t want to keep them as house cats then just accept that they’ll come and go as they please as cats do.

Basically you can't choose your neighbours, whether you own or rent.
Just ignore and crack on with your life. They obviously have too much time on their hands and not enough in their own lives so are focusing on you. They are not worth another thought.

My friend rattles a treat tin. Gosh you should see those cars run!!!!!

Are you proposing to let her look after your cats (presumably she won’t call them in late at night 😁) and put out your bins (presumably not late at night either!) then never speak to her again once you get back from your hols? I honestly think that’s bizarre. Cats crap in neighbours’ gardens, (which can potentially cause toxoplasmosis as it did for my young son who picked ip cat droppings helping my mother with her garden..her neighbours have several cats), run the risk of getting lost or injured, or causing traffic accidents, and they kill native wildlife. To add to that you wake your neighbours up calling them in late at night. They should be in your house, or don’t have cats (outdoor cats are banned in Sydney because they are killing machines and they can also cause accidents on the road plus their droppings pollute the area). If this seems harsh try having an oncologist tell you it’s very likely your DS has Hodgkin’s Disease due to huge neck swellings and being very ill for months…all caused by cat faeces. And they kill birds. If you can’t keep them in I really believe you should keep quiet late at night. And if you don’t speak to your neighbours when you get back…who’ll look after them then?

When you come back from holiday l would buy some flowers for your neighbour who’s looking after your cats and tell them you overheard the conversation, didn’t realise it was so annoying and that you’ll try quieter methods in future. I think you’ve clearly been unaware that you’re disturbing them - plus, not every situation requires a nuclear response.

OP is waking people up!

You needed telling that shouting in the street every single evening was annoying and rude?

You would annoy the hell out of me too, yelling got your cats every evening!

Is there a quieter way you can c0all your cats? To lighten the thread, my friend had a cat called Richard, so called because she had another cat called Tom and a son called Harry, so it would have been Tom,Dck and Hary, but she didn't want to be shutting "Dick" down the street

They like you so they didn't want to say anything. They were just having a moan. Don't worry. Good of you to have told them and now shrug it off.

They're not furbabies. They're animals. Animals that can be out at night, doing their own thing, coming in through a catflap when it suits them. They don't need you to call. You need to work on your need to call!
But anyway, you've realised, and that's good.

youre the problem

Well it is annoying for your neighbours. You’d be a bit pathetic to ignore them, especially the one looking after your cats.

Thats fantastic OP.
You no longer need to be embarrassed.
We all make mistakes and recognising them and saying sorry and not blaming others is a very mature thing to do.
Stop worrying about it now and put it out of your mind.
It takes guts to say a sincere sorry … and it can be hard work to get along with people in your neighbourhood so you should be pleased with yourself.

Whenever I hear new pet names being called over and over again at the neighbours, I write them down (I've had Win, Spicy, Fudge) and then report to the police.
Crack heads looking for their dealer sound virtually indistinguishable from cat heads looking for their Winny and Patch.

We all moan about neighbours I do

have you said what time you call them in at?

I get my sisters in at 7 in summer with a shake of some dreamies and a quick shout. One is usually in the garden the other one usually sleeping somewhere cool.